Hi everybody!I've cast two readings regarding serious & non-serious relationships in my situation. I want a serious relationship, so maybe it sounds like a waste of time to pursue the casual ones. Iching gave me interesting hints despite all.My first question: Is it good for me now to seek serious relationships? I got hexagram 2 uchanging: the earth.My interpretation: to be open & accepting while having a goal - the serious relationship- in the mind. I shouldn't be forceful & in hurry. To be honest, I'm not optimistic about serious relationships. They seem too stressful, limiting & unnatural. Guys become controlling very soon, which is really smothering. Then there is the secret desire in my heart to share a happy life with someone & stay with them. Paradoxical. I don't see a good perspective now- as I've never seen in my life. We often hear "just be present, enjoy yourself, and the suitable partner shows up". I've been doing this for many years and nothing interesting happened. While I undestand the advice, I don't see any practical guidance here. Then I asked "what about non-serious relationships" & I got hexagram 38 changing to 19. The lines 4 & 6 are changing. 38 is called opposing & you read in the description: "Opposing: small affairs, good fortune".My interpretation: it's good to have small affairs. There will be difference and tension- my difference with others+ my paradoxical mentality: "With an inner state of 'Opposing', you contain mutually contradictory impulses". There would be tension as I want a commited relationship deep down, which can't be gained; still there are benefits in the casual relationships: "How could this tension be creative?"- seems like I could take a creative energy from the small affairs."You might see things not only for what they are, but also for what they mean, as if they were omens". So it's overall good if I'm able to control myself.The line 4 changes: "Opposed, alone.Meet an inspiring man.Joining together in truth and confidence.Danger, no mistake."Having a good relationship with an attractive person after some time of loneliness, and that's not devoid of danger(emotional dependency?).The 6th line signals: "Not robbers at all, but matrimonial allies.(potential for long-term relationship?) Going on meets the rain, and so there is good fortune (fruitful initiative)."Hexagram 19, "Nearing", stands for getting closer, more intimate. It makes sense considering the above changing lines."Reaching an end in the eighth month means a pitfall." One should take the natural course of developement instead of forcing a tangible result.That said, which course is more effective? Serious or casual?Is there any other meaning I failed to grasp? Thanks.
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