Hi everyone,
Well, I'm in a bit of a pickle with my mother-in-law. I've always sensed she disliked me, or was bewildered by me, but it was easy to avoid conflict because of distance and not really having anything she wanted particularly. We've always been pleasant to each other, if not at all close, and I've done a lot of keeping in touch, reminding my husband about gifts and birthdays, encouraging trips, etc.
Now that we've had a baby, this has changed, and she's become openly jealous. I'd rather not post specific details, but trust me, it's quite ugly. I also knew for sure she was jealous because she told me so directly, to my shock (!), but I'd hoped it wasn't very deep. However, in a follow-up conversation she had with my husband recently, she made it clear it is very intense and she is struggling with her feelings. I'm extremely apprehensive about dealing with her during the holiday next week. For context, this is a family where no one every says anything directly until a problem has become absolutely dire, so for her to be so open about this means it must be very bad. And she has a history of very sudden and nasty one-off actions. She's impulsive by nature, not calculating, so they are not particularly successful, but nasty nonetheless.
I asked Yi, "Can you give me advice on dealing with her jealousy?" and received 33.1. Ouch. 33 is quite straightforward, Yi's advising to keep difficult and petty people at a distance, but 33.1 seems to show real unpleasantness and no way for me to avoid it. There isn't a huge amount on this line in the forums, nor do I have much experience with it—I can't recall another experience of getting it. It seems a bit hopeless.
Can anyone share personal experience with this line, or insights?
Thanks very much in advance!
Well, I'm in a bit of a pickle with my mother-in-law. I've always sensed she disliked me, or was bewildered by me, but it was easy to avoid conflict because of distance and not really having anything she wanted particularly. We've always been pleasant to each other, if not at all close, and I've done a lot of keeping in touch, reminding my husband about gifts and birthdays, encouraging trips, etc.
Now that we've had a baby, this has changed, and she's become openly jealous. I'd rather not post specific details, but trust me, it's quite ugly. I also knew for sure she was jealous because she told me so directly, to my shock (!), but I'd hoped it wasn't very deep. However, in a follow-up conversation she had with my husband recently, she made it clear it is very intense and she is struggling with her feelings. I'm extremely apprehensive about dealing with her during the holiday next week. For context, this is a family where no one every says anything directly until a problem has become absolutely dire, so for her to be so open about this means it must be very bad. And she has a history of very sudden and nasty one-off actions. She's impulsive by nature, not calculating, so they are not particularly successful, but nasty nonetheless.
I asked Yi, "Can you give me advice on dealing with her jealousy?" and received 33.1. Ouch. 33 is quite straightforward, Yi's advising to keep difficult and petty people at a distance, but 33.1 seems to show real unpleasantness and no way for me to avoid it. There isn't a huge amount on this line in the forums, nor do I have much experience with it—I can't recall another experience of getting it. It seems a bit hopeless.
Can anyone share personal experience with this line, or insights?
Thanks very much in advance!