Hi All!I'm new to the forum and would like your insight on hexagram 31.1 > 49. Not sure if I'm asking the right question or not, but I asked the IC if my ex is seeing someone else right now. Here's the backstory:About 6 months ago I met a man 11 years older than me and we just immediately clicked. Felt like we had already knew each other and for me felt like a twin flame. It was the type of attraction that matched on so many levels and what I wanted to find in a partner. He told me he felt like I manifested his dreams too. We connected spiritually, emotionally, mentally, artistically, physically. We are both ambitious/driven in our respective careers, constant learners, INFJs (similar temperaments), etc. He said he was all-in and talked about future steps like meeting family and introducing each other to our kids (he has 3 from previous marriage and I have 1). With an attraction like ours (or dare I say love) I became attached more than I realized and had really high expectations. And so when you have high expectations, it's easy to be disappointed. He disappointed me greatly by saying he would go to Mexico with me and then backed out of the trip. So I broke up with him because I'm a firm believer of say what you mean and mean what you say... I wouldn't have asked if I didn't feel like our relationship was there yet. It was great while it lasted for a few short months even though the relationship imploded. He made a few attempts to get back together and I wasn't ready. In my heart though, it felt like our time was unfinished and our experience wasn't complete. I knew he'd come back.A couple of weeks ago, we reconnected and it has been good. It feels different now though, the attraction is still there but I think we're both holding back our intensities. I have my own reservations for going slow and honoring the space, but I feel like there's a block on his end. Makes me feel like there is someone else he met during our time apart. SO, I asked the IC "is he seeing someone else?". I received 31.1 changing to 49. Do you think this is affirmative that he is? And does the revolution mean it could change and stop seeing her? Or is the answer about me - that there is mutual attraction and the revolution could be that our approach this time around will make a better, stronger relationship?Your help would be great - I'm new to this and wonder if I'm asking the right question. How would the IC know about someone that's not me?
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