I am in the intimate relationship with a man who has fear to face himself. And, recently, he is really angree and he gets triggered by such a small things. I guess it serms small to me, but not to him. For example, he couldn't find ants powder in the pantry, and he asked to my 17 years old son if he touched it. And I told him nobody toches it. Then he lost it. Took everything out from the pantry and looked for it, he couldn't find it. So I helped him looking for it. Then I asked him to put stuff away after. Then he said "because I couldn't find it, I am not cleaning up. You do it"I told him " do you teach your child that if she lost something and while she looks for it she made a mess, and end up with couldn't find it, then you say to her it is okay not clean up?" He has nothing to say but start to blame on me " because he didn't like what I said about nobody touched it when he asked my son. So I have to clean up. I told him I can help you clean up. But he was so mad, I started to clean up and I said thank you to him for I didn't know today was the day I clean up the pantry. Then he got madder and took off somewhere. Which always happens when he gets mad.Also he has issue with taking my personal belongings when he is angry. He takes my phone, keys, things he gave me as gifts etc... also threaten to leave the house and relationship in front of 2 years old daughter. I told him to stop that so many times yet he can not do that. On top of that he has jealousy issue. When I talk with my children's friend's father for setting up for children's play, he thinks I am having afair with him. He stalked me to the school at least a couple of times, he goes into my facebook and emails. I am getting to the point, if this relationship worth keep going. I became stronger to not affected by his attitude. But, I can not let him herm children every time he gets mad he has tempertentrum. That is why I put question "my destiny" I couldn't come up with other way to question it. I really appreciate your help on reading since I am new and hard for me to understand meaning. I am looking forward to hear from you. Thank you.
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My destiny
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Hexagram 54 .2.4 unrequited love
Hello Readers,
I would love some helpful reflections for my reading.
When I asked - Why do I feel so deeply for him? I recieved
Hexagram 54.2.4.
I am about to move from my hometown for a promising new job, and in the midst of this good fortune I am caught up on pining for this amazing guy. He has been healing me (massage and some informal coaching.) - and obviously I havent been able to be as attractive as I would like so I am feeling sorry about that.
The meaning of line 4 as I see it is to delay the furtherance of the relationship until conditions are right. I am taking this to mean I need to get back on my feet both physically and professionally.
The Hexagram results in 24 which I find especially poignant:
Since you are in motion, helpers of all kinds come, travelling companions who walk alongside you for a while. (If someone is meant to be with you, you will never need to leave your path to chase after them.) Just as any road can be travelled in two directions, your path also leads both out and back again, and so in the fullness of time and following a natural progression there comes a moment to turn round.
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I don't think its reciprocal although he talks to me a lot about his life during our sessions..he is well travelled but already doing really well in this town after recently arriving. By contrast I have been uprooted and when I first saw him I was already in motion for leaving. He has really helped me a lot in this process and his motto is 'Keep moving, life will do the rest.'
There is a power imbalance as he is the healthy healed one and I also find myself not talking as much about myself. In general I feel very connected to him but I don't think he really sees me. I am very sad about this.
I would love some helpful reflections for my reading.
When I asked - Why do I feel so deeply for him? I recieved
Hexagram 54.2.4.
I am about to move from my hometown for a promising new job, and in the midst of this good fortune I am caught up on pining for this amazing guy. He has been healing me (massage and some informal coaching.) - and obviously I havent been able to be as attractive as I would like so I am feeling sorry about that.
The meaning of line 4 as I see it is to delay the furtherance of the relationship until conditions are right. I am taking this to mean I need to get back on my feet both physically and professionally.
The Hexagram results in 24 which I find especially poignant:
Since you are in motion, helpers of all kinds come, travelling companions who walk alongside you for a while. (If someone is meant to be with you, you will never need to leave your path to chase after them.) Just as any road can be travelled in two directions, your path also leads both out and back again, and so in the fullness of time and following a natural progression there comes a moment to turn round.
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I don't think its reciprocal although he talks to me a lot about his life during our sessions..he is well travelled but already doing really well in this town after recently arriving. By contrast I have been uprooted and when I first saw him I was already in motion for leaving. He has really helped me a lot in this process and his motto is 'Keep moving, life will do the rest.'
There is a power imbalance as he is the healthy healed one and I also find myself not talking as much about myself. In general I feel very connected to him but I don't think he really sees me. I am very sad about this.
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Setting things right 14.345 to 61
Hello all, a friend of mine asked me to interpret the IC after she threw some coins. Apparently this guy she was dating reneged on a promise so she called him out on it. She said he looked guilty, though he hasnt fully apologized to her yet. She wanted to know if he was going to set things right and keep his promise to her, and received 14.345 to 61. Any thoughts on this?
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Tattoo's on Ôtzi or The Iceman looks like Trigrams ???
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Tell the CEO that the analyst is not sharing info? Hex 47.3.5 to 32
Should I tell the CEO that the analyst is not sharing info with me?
Hexagram 47.3.5 to 32
I feel like this is advising me not to as it might cause issues, and is suggesting I keep my mouth shut.
Should I consider accepting the offer even though its lower than my current?
44.3.5 to 64
I think this says do not argue my case for why the salary should be higher or why I cannot accept it? Line 5 says there is no forcing on my part as "good in you will transform others inferior elements without forceful effort on" my part. So I should be careful what I say to him?
Hexagram 47.3.5 to 32
I feel like this is advising me not to as it might cause issues, and is suggesting I keep my mouth shut.
Should I consider accepting the offer even though its lower than my current?
44.3.5 to 64
I think this says do not argue my case for why the salary should be higher or why I cannot accept it? Line 5 says there is no forcing on my part as "good in you will transform others inferior elements without forceful effort on" my part. So I should be careful what I say to him?
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where are the keys? 17.3.4.6>37
I'm a dog-sitter (one of the many things I do), everyday I take two dogs out, on lunch break.
Today I didn't find the keys of dogs' house.
They aren't in my house or in my car.
I called my mother, because yesterday I went to see her; but the keys aren't there. (37)
I asked at supermarket, where I have been shopping.
I walked the way from the parking to the house.
I don't know where to look!
Any suggestions?
Thank you
Today I didn't find the keys of dogs' house.
They aren't in my house or in my car.
I called my mother, because yesterday I went to see her; but the keys aren't there. (37)
I asked at supermarket, where I have been shopping.
I walked the way from the parking to the house.
I don't know where to look!
Any suggestions?
Thank you
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29.1.3.5 to 11 Chasm/Flow?
I think this casting is curious because 29 Chasm is all about flowing water, but 11 Flow is an entirely different flow altogether. Could anyone please help me with insight into this reading?
I asked the Iching- please give advice about how to relate to a connection with a man.
He is someone that I have been intimate with off and on over several years (some of these while I was on/off with another man), but who has struggled in and out of sobriety with binge alcoholism. I love him, and I believe his heart is true where I'm concerned- but he has an illness- and while he is working hard on his path- he has not had a full year of sobriety yet- (8 months). In the past I have put myself in harm's way where he is concerned- (this has roots in childhood with my father/mother)- but still these choices are on me, and it's on me to be care for my vulnerability.
We've recently been in contact and had some very good encounters, and we have both grown a lot- Reality though- our troubled past is between us- and I don't think it's right for me to put my will forward- to fool myself into thinking that I can heal anything by giving him my trust (or any intimate commitment) at this stage. Although it's hard, I believe that I need to let him go for now. Am I to understand 11 Flow in this case to be like Release (40)? or even Dissolution- sort of giving it up to the universe-to take care of things? Recently I've been confused also by the difference between these hexes- they all seem to be about letting go, but in different ways.
I asked the Iching- please give advice about how to relate to a connection with a man.
He is someone that I have been intimate with off and on over several years (some of these while I was on/off with another man), but who has struggled in and out of sobriety with binge alcoholism. I love him, and I believe his heart is true where I'm concerned- but he has an illness- and while he is working hard on his path- he has not had a full year of sobriety yet- (8 months). In the past I have put myself in harm's way where he is concerned- (this has roots in childhood with my father/mother)- but still these choices are on me, and it's on me to be care for my vulnerability.
We've recently been in contact and had some very good encounters, and we have both grown a lot- Reality though- our troubled past is between us- and I don't think it's right for me to put my will forward- to fool myself into thinking that I can heal anything by giving him my trust (or any intimate commitment) at this stage. Although it's hard, I believe that I need to let him go for now. Am I to understand 11 Flow in this case to be like Release (40)? or even Dissolution- sort of giving it up to the universe-to take care of things? Recently I've been confused also by the difference between these hexes- they all seem to be about letting go, but in different ways.
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31 unchanging dating and contact
Hi everyone, I recently started dating this new guy and I dont want to be the one chasing after him. I asked the IC if he would still pursue me if I didnt contact him for awhile. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated.
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What do I need to know about this company?" 18.2 to 52.
hex 18: 'Corruption. Creating success from the source.
Fruitful to cross the great river.
Before the seed day, three days. After the seed day, three days.'
Line 2: 'Ancestral mother's corruption,
Does not allow constancy.'
This company pursued me before and they came back and now pursuing me even harder. I asked the question before whether to go to this company or stay at my current company and it sounds like if I go I may be working harder for same pay. today I asked what I need to know about this company and received 18.2.
The corruption, is this from my own inner indecisiveness or actually referring the this company that is pursuing me. Does this corruption mean that this company is only showing me roses and lilies however the roses has big dangerous thorns and the lilies are toxic to the touch?
Line 2, ancestral mother's corruption, does this mean that this company will be extremely controlling of my time and flexibility and will always be watching my every move? Do I need to dig and do more research and understand every possibility and limitations regarding the process and procedures of this company? To me this line doesn't sound very positive. Perhaps this is also addressing that I'm too motherly in my response to this company and afraid to hurt anyone's feelings?
I also asked are there any positives working for this company and received 40 unchanging.
'Release. Fruitful in the southwest.
With no place to go,
To turn round and come back is good fortune.
With a direction to go,
Daybreak, good fortune.'
This sounds like the positives are not enough to move forward and telling me to turn back meaning stay at my current position? What about the southwest positioning, what is this insinuating?
Again I appreciate all your thoughts on this.
Fruitful to cross the great river.
Before the seed day, three days. After the seed day, three days.'
Line 2: 'Ancestral mother's corruption,
Does not allow constancy.'
This company pursued me before and they came back and now pursuing me even harder. I asked the question before whether to go to this company or stay at my current company and it sounds like if I go I may be working harder for same pay. today I asked what I need to know about this company and received 18.2.
The corruption, is this from my own inner indecisiveness or actually referring the this company that is pursuing me. Does this corruption mean that this company is only showing me roses and lilies however the roses has big dangerous thorns and the lilies are toxic to the touch?
Line 2, ancestral mother's corruption, does this mean that this company will be extremely controlling of my time and flexibility and will always be watching my every move? Do I need to dig and do more research and understand every possibility and limitations regarding the process and procedures of this company? To me this line doesn't sound very positive. Perhaps this is also addressing that I'm too motherly in my response to this company and afraid to hurt anyone's feelings?
I also asked are there any positives working for this company and received 40 unchanging.
'Release. Fruitful in the southwest.
With no place to go,
To turn round and come back is good fortune.
With a direction to go,
Daybreak, good fortune.'
This sounds like the positives are not enough to move forward and telling me to turn back meaning stay at my current position? What about the southwest positioning, what is this insinuating?
Again I appreciate all your thoughts on this.
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Will I be accepted?
I applied to a teaching program. I am bit nervous. Will they select me?I got hexagram 27.4.5.6.>17Hex 27 is called Nourishment. I think changing line 4 shows my desire to be selected. Line 5 looks like a struggle or a lot of work for me to get selected.Line 6 looks auspicious for my situation. It speaks of a task & responsibility which is hard but I will have strength to tackle this?What do you think?
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44 unchanging
I got 44 uc today and it left me confused. I have developed feelings for someone who is unfortunately unavailable and (obviously) not interested I think. So I asked today for advice on how to get over him and move on, and got 44uc..is it that Iching is telling me it wouldn't have worked out anyways as tempting as it appeared :) or that it would be tough to move on or was reading the thread and am still confused :) what do you think..
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44,2,4/53
So I have a very nice job where I am, I am really satisfied with it. But... I feel it is time to move on... to another city...
Would it be better for me if I move to town X?
44,2,4/ 53
I have 'fish in the tank' where I am but I will lose everything if I move (line 4) but what about 53? Is it auspicious?
I think it isn't such a good idea. What do you think?
Would it be better for me if I move to town X?
44,2,4/ 53
I have 'fish in the tank' where I am but I will lose everything if I move (line 4) but what about 53? Is it auspicious?
I think it isn't such a good idea. What do you think?
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7,2,6 > 23 Relationship
Hi. I'm new on this forum and I'm pretty much new with I Ching too. I asked Yi a question about a relationship "Is there a way to make her come back?". I am in situation where I said and I've done some things that I shouldn't have. I feel bad about it and still hold emotions for this girl so I asked Yi and got 7,2,6 > 23. If anyone can help me with interpreting this right it would help much.
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How should I resign Monday to the CEO?
How should I resign Monday to the CEO?
Hexagram 42.5.6 > 24
Not sure how line 6 fits in as a man in high position fails to bring benefits to those below and those in turn assail his reputation. I am not in the high position here but on the same level as the other uncooperative analyst. Not sure what this is saying perhaps 24 returning to myself back to my town. Was thinking i-ching might say how I behave/speak but I am not really getting that from the lines. Don't really want to give 2 weeks notice either since its an at-will employment.
Will release me immediately or make me stay?
Hexagram 63.5 to 36
He gives his blessings and things will end. (36)
Hexagram 42.5.6 > 24
Not sure how line 6 fits in as a man in high position fails to bring benefits to those below and those in turn assail his reputation. I am not in the high position here but on the same level as the other uncooperative analyst. Not sure what this is saying perhaps 24 returning to myself back to my town. Was thinking i-ching might say how I behave/speak but I am not really getting that from the lines. Don't really want to give 2 weeks notice either since its an at-will employment.
Will release me immediately or make me stay?
Hexagram 63.5 to 36
He gives his blessings and things will end. (36)
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10 > 58 relationship
Howdy all,
I need some perspective on these readings. Bit of background: An ex and I broke up because of issues of me seeming distant and not as open as I was in the beginning, though in my heart I truly loved her and cherished our relationship. The relationship was excellent and we were both on the same page of keeping the momentum going. However, after a few months of losing my job and being unchallenged with life, had pushed her to cause the split. I have been feeling devastated along with a sense of it "ending too early." But there was a blessing in her leaving me: I found exactly what I needed to be happy and am overflowing with joy. And that joy is challenging myself and taking on new, expressive hobbies such as writing (which I'm really enjoying and now feel much more in-tune with myself) and more intense bodybuilding. I feel so fantastic and full of life again, but would love to share it with her again. I've been giving her lots of space and respect and have only communicated with her twice in our two months apart, and daily I am pushing myself to be the great man I once was.
I have consulted the Yi and asked for advice in furthering and rebuilding our relationship because I will be seeing her soon with a group of mutual friends.
My question to the Yi being: What is some advice to consider when seeing *her name* tonight that will help me in reestablishing a relationship with her?
I was given the 10.6 > 58
10.6:
Heaven shines down on the Marsh which reflects it back imperfectly:
Though the Superior Man carefully discriminates between high and low, and acts in accord with the flow of the Tao, there are still situations where a risk must be taken.
You tread upon the tail of the tiger.
Not perceiving you as a threat, the startled tiger does not bite.
Success.
Changing line 6: At your journey's end, look back and examine the path you chose.
If you find no causes for shame, only good works that make you shine, you may take this as an omen of the certainty of great reward.
58:
The joyous Lake spans on and on to the horizon:
The Superior Person renews and expands his Spirit through heart-to-heart exchanges with others.
Success if you stay on course.
Could you all break it down for me a bit more and give a new perspective?
I need some perspective on these readings. Bit of background: An ex and I broke up because of issues of me seeming distant and not as open as I was in the beginning, though in my heart I truly loved her and cherished our relationship. The relationship was excellent and we were both on the same page of keeping the momentum going. However, after a few months of losing my job and being unchallenged with life, had pushed her to cause the split. I have been feeling devastated along with a sense of it "ending too early." But there was a blessing in her leaving me: I found exactly what I needed to be happy and am overflowing with joy. And that joy is challenging myself and taking on new, expressive hobbies such as writing (which I'm really enjoying and now feel much more in-tune with myself) and more intense bodybuilding. I feel so fantastic and full of life again, but would love to share it with her again. I've been giving her lots of space and respect and have only communicated with her twice in our two months apart, and daily I am pushing myself to be the great man I once was.
I have consulted the Yi and asked for advice in furthering and rebuilding our relationship because I will be seeing her soon with a group of mutual friends.
My question to the Yi being: What is some advice to consider when seeing *her name* tonight that will help me in reestablishing a relationship with her?
I was given the 10.6 > 58
10.6:
Heaven shines down on the Marsh which reflects it back imperfectly:
Though the Superior Man carefully discriminates between high and low, and acts in accord with the flow of the Tao, there are still situations where a risk must be taken.
You tread upon the tail of the tiger.
Not perceiving you as a threat, the startled tiger does not bite.
Success.
Changing line 6: At your journey's end, look back and examine the path you chose.
If you find no causes for shame, only good works that make you shine, you may take this as an omen of the certainty of great reward.
58:
The joyous Lake spans on and on to the horizon:
The Superior Person renews and expands his Spirit through heart-to-heart exchanges with others.
Success if you stay on course.
Could you all break it down for me a bit more and give a new perspective?
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Book Review: Yijing, Shamanic Oracle of China
Yijing, Shamanic Oracle of China: A New Book of Change
by Richard Bertschinger, translation and commentary (Singing Dragon 2012)
This is a nicely put together book accessible for beginners and up, with an emphasis on finding one's way in life. You can read my review here.
by Richard Bertschinger, translation and commentary (Singing Dragon 2012)
This is a nicely put together book accessible for beginners and up, with an emphasis on finding one's way in life. You can read my review here.
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Is the I Ching speaking to me?
Hi guys,
For the last 6 years my life has been entangled with the I Ching, and for the last 2 years I have become more and more focused in its study and practice. Now it is part of my life, and my focus now is to incorporate the I Ching into a new professional life (more on that maybe some day later).
In this context, I have asked several times the I Ching about that: am I "worthy" of using the I Ching, and moreover of transmitting the I Ching, how about using it professionally, etc.
Here are the answers (my question regards the last one, the others are pretty obvious):
October 2017: What about starting in 2018 some I Ching readings once a month?
1.3.4-> 61
January 2018: Does the Yi speak to me?
Unchanging 15
March 2018: Does the I Ching speak to me?
48.4.5->32
Is the practice of the I Ching in line with my goal in life?
Unchanging 56
All answers seem to go in the same direction: yes my use of I Ching is noble and I should continue to use it and transmit it.
Do you have any input on the meaning of the 2 unchanging hexagrams? UC 15 and UC 56?
Thank you!
All the best
For the last 6 years my life has been entangled with the I Ching, and for the last 2 years I have become more and more focused in its study and practice. Now it is part of my life, and my focus now is to incorporate the I Ching into a new professional life (more on that maybe some day later).
In this context, I have asked several times the I Ching about that: am I "worthy" of using the I Ching, and moreover of transmitting the I Ching, how about using it professionally, etc.
Here are the answers (my question regards the last one, the others are pretty obvious):
October 2017: What about starting in 2018 some I Ching readings once a month?
1.3.4-> 61
January 2018: Does the Yi speak to me?
Unchanging 15
March 2018: Does the I Ching speak to me?
48.4.5->32
Is the practice of the I Ching in line with my goal in life?
Unchanging 56
All answers seem to go in the same direction: yes my use of I Ching is noble and I should continue to use it and transmit it.
Do you have any input on the meaning of the 2 unchanging hexagrams? UC 15 and UC 56?
Thank you!
All the best
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42.1.3 to 53 about next year's teacher and 15.1.3 to 24 about changing schools
I talk to the Yi a lot about my son. We lost his father to a bone marrow cancer, so it is good, not to say necessary, to have someone to talk about important decisions. My 6 year old son will be changing teacher next year. I know who his teacher will be. She is very rigorous, strict, sends TONS of homework. This homework issue interferes with everyday life. I see home time as time to grow, learn and develop home stuff, which is IMO also an equally important part of life. I want my son available to play, go for a walk in the park, and start to become aware of stuff that needs to get done at home in order to have things organised. I dont want my son to grow up to be a brilliant mathematician who has no clue how his clothes show up clean and ironed in his closet. But you know life, sometimes things that dont seem the best option, sometimes turn out to be great. So I asked the I ching How things will turn out for my son with next years new teacher? I got 42.1.3 > 53. Then I asked the Iching How will things turn out for my son if he changes to the public school near home? which has a very good reputation, and there are the pro s that it is closer to home plus it is free. I got 15.1.3 > 24. Both answers seem quite positive. I saw in this forum somewhere, in a different context, of course, that 24 means the best possible path in this situation. Would you agree that that is what the Yi advises? Many thanks :)
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qʰˤraŋ, roŋ, [g]ur: a (new) Old Chinese 周易 zhōuyì transcription
Dear all,
I take the liberty to link here my ongoing project on ZhouYi Old Chinese Transcription.
Feedbacks are welcome!
Zhouyi transcription, an introduction on Academia.edu
My blog and project: processive.wordpress.com
I take the liberty to link here my ongoing project on ZhouYi Old Chinese Transcription.
Feedbacks are welcome!
Zhouyi transcription, an introduction on Academia.edu
My blog and project: processive.wordpress.com
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Platonic affection for boss
Hi all,For the last six months I have been reporting to a lady boss, and gradually started developing a strange brotherly affection for her. This is purely platonic, but I have obsessive thoughts about her and am worried about her well being, it's a strange mix of admiration, concern and envy. This is illogical and foolish, but it has been this way for the last few weeks...I am almost obsessively wait for her phone call. It may be because she speaks to me in a very kind and affectionate way, but I would like the obsession to end, as I know this doesn't make sense and is only causing me mental pain, and want to retain a purely professional relationship.Itching reading was 1.4 ->9 I would be grateful for any inputs.
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