My friend's marriage is in trouble....

A friend of mine is attempting to work on her troubled marriage. To be honest, this marriage, which is only three years old, has been in trouble from the start. There is constant quarreling over different things; it seems as though the two of them simply aren't a good match. Last I spoke to my friend about it, one month ago, she resolved to make things work. She listed all the things she was going to do or change...but didn't mention a thing about what her spouse was going to do. (She reminds me of myself in the last days of my marriage....)

I looked to the Yi for a reflection on the marriage. I got hexagram 47, changing lines 1, 3 and 4, with hexagram 5 as the final outcome.

I am very familiar with hexagram 47: exhaustion, confinement, oppression (depending on the translation). A tree trapped in a garden. In my experiences, this hexagram signifies a very burdensome, unpleasant situation in which we feel trapped, like a victim of fate. The changing lines are quite ugly. However, I am having trouble reconciling hexagram 5 to all that. "Waiting" for what, I wonder? Waiting is expecting a certain outcome. It doesn't seem to imply whether that outcome is good or bad, only that one should refrain from acting and face one's fate with courage....

I would appreciate any interpretations that attempt to unite these two hexagrams.