25 UC and 54.2 -> 51, Healty Relationships

I asked the Yi about how I could have a healthy relationship with a guy I've been dating for a while. I believe I have an unhealthy attachment style which often makes me feel distraught. This feeling is exacerbated by the guy I'm dating, who's avoidant. I have a lot of feelings for him though, and the part I love most about him is how he is willing to talk things out and try to fix things in our relationship. I don't want to break up with him, but instead see this as an opportunity to improve and grow. I don't want to give so much energy and attention to thinking about a relationship or a person anymore, but instead want to be confident in our bond and use the extra energy for my own goals.

The Yi answered 51, "Without Entanglement", which I thought was exactly how I feel a healthy relationship would arrive. I love him, but don't lean on him, don't wait and anguish about him. Just give him my honest feelings, and take the ones he gives me.

Afterwards, I asked: "How do I become without entanglement?" The yi answered 54.2

Hillary says on hex 54: "A noble one through ever-flowing endings knows what wears out." It also implies that I can't conciously change to be without entanglement, but instead suggests I think about how I can "grow into the situation". What is possible for me now, since I can at the very least see clearly that I am in an inadequate position (54.2)?

LiSe says:

I think it is suggestion that I can't seek to be "without entanglement", but instead direct my efforts towards trying to be present in my situation and my life as much as possible... being without entanglement is perhaps an indirect result.