I will try my best to make this clear.
Basically I had a platonic relationship with X and I wanted to keep it that way. He ended up saying he was in love with me, but in reality ended becoming very possessive, jealousy and couldn't accept i wasn't in love with him. He said horrible things about me. and was always getting angry at me. We did have a talk and Explained my feeling of wanted to just remain friends. This played out over a year. It built up to a final blowout between us 10 months ago and I stopped talking with him and moved on. I decided he was too toxic to have in my life.
It was very heartbreaking for me personally since we worked together creatively and I have grieved deeply all the creative work we can not do anymore. I also considered him a best friend and we worked well together. I since have totally let him go, been respectful, and walked away even from a lot of money he owes me, ect. I left him alone since he made it clear for me to get out of his life in our last conversation.
I come to find out he is still saying mean things about me(after these 10 months) still obsessing and trying desperately on social media to make me jealous with a girl he is hanging out with. ( I was happy to hear he was with a girl thinking maybe he will stop talking about me!!)
He contacted a friend of mine last week and texted my friend very mean! and untrue things about me. But then will say he is in love with me! wtf
Still I have not said anything to him or other people and basically have left sleeping dogs lie. I havent contacted him because it I know will not help anything. it will make things worse.
My question to the IC "can I please ask you for advice on how to handle this situation with X"
I received hex unchanging 41
Should I take this that I need to stop feeling so hurt? or emotional and accept its over. This is confusing because I have accepted its over, I dont want to contact him, I want him to stop talking about me and leave me alone, but yes I do feel sad. its true. Am I wrong to feel sad? Im confused because I have accepted it as over.
Basically I had a platonic relationship with X and I wanted to keep it that way. He ended up saying he was in love with me, but in reality ended becoming very possessive, jealousy and couldn't accept i wasn't in love with him. He said horrible things about me. and was always getting angry at me. We did have a talk and Explained my feeling of wanted to just remain friends. This played out over a year. It built up to a final blowout between us 10 months ago and I stopped talking with him and moved on. I decided he was too toxic to have in my life.
It was very heartbreaking for me personally since we worked together creatively and I have grieved deeply all the creative work we can not do anymore. I also considered him a best friend and we worked well together. I since have totally let him go, been respectful, and walked away even from a lot of money he owes me, ect. I left him alone since he made it clear for me to get out of his life in our last conversation.
I come to find out he is still saying mean things about me(after these 10 months) still obsessing and trying desperately on social media to make me jealous with a girl he is hanging out with. ( I was happy to hear he was with a girl thinking maybe he will stop talking about me!!)
He contacted a friend of mine last week and texted my friend very mean! and untrue things about me. But then will say he is in love with me! wtf
Still I have not said anything to him or other people and basically have left sleeping dogs lie. I havent contacted him because it I know will not help anything. it will make things worse.
My question to the IC "can I please ask you for advice on how to handle this situation with X"
I received hex unchanging 41
Should I take this that I need to stop feeling so hurt? or emotional and accept its over. This is confusing because I have accepted its over, I dont want to contact him, I want him to stop talking about me and leave me alone, but yes I do feel sad. its true. Am I wrong to feel sad? Im confused because I have accepted it as over.