Further to this thread (unfortunately) https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...46-gt-48/page2
The boss has returned so that's a good thing but unfortunately the animosity around this situation has not.
For me if someone has done the wrong thing by me but has shown no accountability nor apologised I just can't be friendly towards them....it doesn't mean I'm horrible to them, it just means I want nothing to do with them unless I have to.
This woman wants to be friendly towards me as if nothing has happened and is now trying to cause more trouble for me because I'm not returning the favour.
My boss has asked me to meet with her on the pretense of another issue she wants to discuss with me....why people think you can't see through their rouse is beyond my comprehension but anyway...
Please show me the best thing to do for myself re this situation
6.1.4.5>41
Hex 41 curb anger and restrains desire - yes I'm doing that by not being outwardly angry, except not being friendly toward her, and my desire to speak up about the truth (as I see it). Well actually I don't feel angry anymore but I do feel frustrated she just won't let it go. It looks like I won't let it go because I'm being 'unfriendly' but as far as I'm concerned it's been done and dusted - move on.
Hex 6 - no point in arguing because I just can't win this one
Line 1 says my attitude is not working but if I'm pleasant (small words) things will be fortunate
Line 4 things will change better for me if I just change my attitude
However
Line 6 says arguing the case will bring me good fortune and resolution
I know Trojina will say I'm using a lot of energy in terms of this but honestly if she'd just go about her business and ignore me there's no energy expended but unfortunately she's not letting 'sleeping dogs lie'.
Yesterday we had a staff meeting, which is the norm once a fortnight, and she fell flat on her face twice with her suggestions but noone said a word, however if one of us looks at fault about the slightest thing she's all over it being as derogatory as she can get away with.
Trojina also said something along the line of people like this usually losing their job pretty fast because of their behaviour so perhaps that could happen here.
I spoke to one of my supportive workmates and she's suggested I just be friendly and co-operate and then all be well.....I do find that hard.
Any suggestions on how to do that when you have a very bitter taste in your mouth, please let me know.
thanks
As per usual after I've posted my thread I can see where my fault lay so I've done another reading looking for how I can honestly look to self sort this out....
Please show me the way to bring positive favour to myself at work
28.4.5>46
Lots of pressure - I have a looooot of that overall in my life and I guess somewhere it breaks.
Show me where I can release this pressure
7.1.2.3>36
Let go of the wounds Hex 36 that I'm allowing to rule my life and get some discipline happening Hex 7.
The boss has returned so that's a good thing but unfortunately the animosity around this situation has not.
For me if someone has done the wrong thing by me but has shown no accountability nor apologised I just can't be friendly towards them....it doesn't mean I'm horrible to them, it just means I want nothing to do with them unless I have to.
This woman wants to be friendly towards me as if nothing has happened and is now trying to cause more trouble for me because I'm not returning the favour.
My boss has asked me to meet with her on the pretense of another issue she wants to discuss with me....why people think you can't see through their rouse is beyond my comprehension but anyway...
Please show me the best thing to do for myself re this situation
6.1.4.5>41
Hex 41 curb anger and restrains desire - yes I'm doing that by not being outwardly angry, except not being friendly toward her, and my desire to speak up about the truth (as I see it). Well actually I don't feel angry anymore but I do feel frustrated she just won't let it go. It looks like I won't let it go because I'm being 'unfriendly' but as far as I'm concerned it's been done and dusted - move on.
Hex 6 - no point in arguing because I just can't win this one
Line 1 says my attitude is not working but if I'm pleasant (small words) things will be fortunate
Line 4 things will change better for me if I just change my attitude
However
Line 6 says arguing the case will bring me good fortune and resolution
I know Trojina will say I'm using a lot of energy in terms of this but honestly if she'd just go about her business and ignore me there's no energy expended but unfortunately she's not letting 'sleeping dogs lie'.
Yesterday we had a staff meeting, which is the norm once a fortnight, and she fell flat on her face twice with her suggestions but noone said a word, however if one of us looks at fault about the slightest thing she's all over it being as derogatory as she can get away with.
Trojina also said something along the line of people like this usually losing their job pretty fast because of their behaviour so perhaps that could happen here.
I spoke to one of my supportive workmates and she's suggested I just be friendly and co-operate and then all be well.....I do find that hard.
Any suggestions on how to do that when you have a very bitter taste in your mouth, please let me know.
thanks
As per usual after I've posted my thread I can see where my fault lay so I've done another reading looking for how I can honestly look to self sort this out....
Please show me the way to bring positive favour to myself at work
28.4.5>46
Lots of pressure - I have a looooot of that overall in my life and I guess somewhere it breaks.
Show me where I can release this pressure
7.1.2.3>36
Let go of the wounds Hex 36 that I'm allowing to rule my life and get some discipline happening Hex 7.