Hi team,
I'll try to keep this succinct, I had a slightly traumatic breakup last year whereby my partner of five years cheated with a close friend of mine for at least a few months, and when I finally caught them they convinced our group of friends that I had invented the whole thing in order to discredit them. I loved both of these people deeply and the circle of friends we shared were important to me as well, but I didn't have the energy to try to fight back so I moved to a different part of the city and tried to start a new life and find new friends. I'm enjoying my life now, I looked back on the experience and realized how much I had done in the relationship that was emotionally hurtful to my partner and neglectful to her needs, I don't feel unjustly treated by her but I do feel some injustice in how the situation played out and ended, mostly because the truth never came out and I never got any acknowledgement or validation of my hurt from the people I cared about. I sometimes feel the loss of those friends deeply and ask the Iching if I will ever get any of them back, I asked about one close friend in particular and got 23 unchanging, which is a pretty clear no, and then I asked if people would ever see the truth of what happened and I got
49.1.5>62
This one confuses me; most of the answers seem to indicate to me that losing these people was a necessary change for me and I need to embrace it and continue to focus on the personal development I've been able to undergo with less distractions, but it really feels shitty to me to leave that situation that way, and to have those friendships ended so abruptly. Is that what 49.1 is telling me? That I just need to accept feeling shitty about it? Any insight here would be appreciated.
I'll try to keep this succinct, I had a slightly traumatic breakup last year whereby my partner of five years cheated with a close friend of mine for at least a few months, and when I finally caught them they convinced our group of friends that I had invented the whole thing in order to discredit them. I loved both of these people deeply and the circle of friends we shared were important to me as well, but I didn't have the energy to try to fight back so I moved to a different part of the city and tried to start a new life and find new friends. I'm enjoying my life now, I looked back on the experience and realized how much I had done in the relationship that was emotionally hurtful to my partner and neglectful to her needs, I don't feel unjustly treated by her but I do feel some injustice in how the situation played out and ended, mostly because the truth never came out and I never got any acknowledgement or validation of my hurt from the people I cared about. I sometimes feel the loss of those friends deeply and ask the Iching if I will ever get any of them back, I asked about one close friend in particular and got 23 unchanging, which is a pretty clear no, and then I asked if people would ever see the truth of what happened and I got
49.1.5>62
This one confuses me; most of the answers seem to indicate to me that losing these people was a necessary change for me and I need to embrace it and continue to focus on the personal development I've been able to undergo with less distractions, but it really feels shitty to me to leave that situation that way, and to have those friendships ended so abruptly. Is that what 49.1 is telling me? That I just need to accept feeling shitty about it? Any insight here would be appreciated.