Hi Everybody!That's my first post. It has been a long time I question the I Ching and interpret answers by myself and having a look at your shared readings. Anyway, because I'm not expert, I'm not sure I can give a right interpretation.A short brief about myself. I'm a 43 years old artist. My personal history influenced all my life, I lost most of my family from 2 to 25 years old. I have been working a lot on myself. Since four years, I have been practicing meditation.One of my bigger issue (it's not the only one...) is about love. I had amazing relationships during my life but none of them was working out: every man loved me so much, but each of them left me. I had a lot of pain, despite that I never stopped believing in love. From different therapies, I found out the origin of most of my pain is about the death of my mother when I was 2 years old.Sometimes I lose my hopes, but then I trust love (both spiritual and relationships' one) and life again. That's me :-)My questions are about a recent relationship. I met a 37 years old guy this summer, an artist too. As soon as we met, there was a strong connection between us, he told me he has a girlfriend, they have a long distance relationship. One year ago they rented a flat together where he lives but since she is mainly working abroad, they don't see each other so much. She is trying to find a stable job here, but it's a bit hard.He told me that when he met her, it came from a long time alone (dating many girls). Since they were "old", they decided to build a serious relationship, starting from renting the flat, even though they don't spend much time together but they hope so.Once we met the first time, we started to meet everyday along 2 weeks. She wasn't at his place at that time.I knew he was very dangerous to me, I really liked him, as artist and man. I know myself and I thought that I shouldn't date him, because I might easily fall in love. I do not want unstable relationships, I hope I can find a man who wants a stable relationship with me. Despite that, our meeting was so intense in communication, interests and feelings that I decided to let me go, at least for that time. Than we spent 3 weeks traveling (during that time he was texting me every day). When we both were back here, we met and I took the decision (I've never done it before in my life) to tell him I wouldn't continue to see him again if he knows that he is sure about his relationship with his girlfriend. He didn't expect my question. He answered me: I don't know how long my relationship with her can go on. It might finish at any time because there are tensions, mainly regarding the fact she is nervous of not getting the job she applied to here and because it comes from a period of financial crisis.Despite that, he chose her and he wants to see where they can go, he doesn't want to leave her for another. They need to spend more time together and see where they can go.That's why we decided to break up and not seeing each other any more. He would have continued to see me if I didn't speak like that (I didn't ask him to leave her, just to tell me if we want to look inside our encounter and see what it might be or not). I know I did the right choice, because I'm looking for a long relationship, not for adventure.At the same time I'm sad because I really felt a strong connection between us.Since I do not want to lose time (I'm thinking and hoping one day he will come back to me), I asked the I Ching:1. Could you give me an insight into the possibility that D. and her break up and he comes back to me?43 unchangingSince maybe the question was containing two questions, I tried to simplify:2 . Could you please give me an insight into getting into a mutually loving relationship with D. in the next six months?53 unchangingIt looks that I Ching doesn't want really to answer me (or maybe I cannot understand properly). It looks it will take time anyway. I'm patient but if there is no hope, I want to know so that it will be easier to forget him and I won't lose my time with illusions.Thank you a lot for your insight and your time (I know I wrote a lot...)... :-)))
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