hi! its an honour to be here.
I am really struggling with understanding some of the hexagrams to my questions.as they seem to contradict?
your help and advice or help here in clarifying or possibly affirming my interpretation, would be greatly appreciated and of immense value for me!.
These are situations are ones which I cannot change or have no control over, yet I seem unable to accept, no matter the effort or non effort(wu wei) I put into it.
I will share two personal readings, that is indicative of my fate, or so it seems, and I am unable to reconcile or resolve this within myself. I see no future, within the known framework, and I just either do not have the ability or don't know how to reconcile and be at peace with the misfortune, or I am not interpreting these readings correctly?
Ok, Ill try to be as brief as possible.
to be more specific, in Dec of 2017 I went through a massive upheaval in my life due to a breakup, where I experience profound heartbreak, and loss. I never received closure. the love of my life left with no explanation, and never returned and did not respond to my attempts asking her kindly for some closure.we never spoke again, in the middle of the stage of the relationship when it was at its height of bliss for me.
Yet It is even a far more complex event than just the breakup, since this issue brought up other issues in me which compounded my situation.
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my 1st reading:
this is one of many on the subject. asked now that I'm past the heartbreak.
will I ever find myself in a loving relationship which is loving, mutual and joyous, if I continue to grow physically and spiritually, taking time to be more happy within myself?
note: I understand that no other person can make me any happier than I am capable at any time. this was one of the lessons I learned during the heartbreak phase. That all happiness is what I choose to create and another does not make me any more happy. however I deeply loved her. and feel even after overcoming this loss that I may never love another, like I did with her, and there is a (false?)hope , which I logically cannot explain, that does NOT want to die, as it should...despite that I am ready to find another life partner. if it be the tao's destiny for me. It does not seem I have an optimistic fate.
the answer was this:
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CHANGING TO
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So this seems to be a consistent pattern, and I have been pulling hex 63 as well...which are not indicators of hope...
54 clearly states: 'Nothing furthers', as the outcome.
agreed it says passing trials but this is the future hexagram..., and it is still saying basically that my trials are passing indicating that the situation may never resolve...?
I am NOT ok with a future, where I am unable to establish human connection to another.
my understanding from your site and based intuitively on what I can read into this is, that there is NO HOPE?
I also know that the future does not OWE me a happy existence, and that I control internally through choice, how I react or create my internal circumstances(which is all there is).
thoughts?
~~~
also this would be very helpful if you could help with one other reading I did.
T
I cast this as a 'curiosity reading' regarding the seeming lingering and perhaps false hope, not expecting this outcome...so now I am confused and it could set me back...
when I tie the two readings together it seems contradictory in my understanding? pls send me your thoughts?
I believe the yi-jing is saying(?) I will reunite with my ex lover?, at some point, but within the known framework, I cant trust this will happen, and in fact should not trust...for my health and sanity of hoping when its not appropriate to do so.
what do you believe is happening in this reading?
reading. I asked: Can I still expect the development of a love relationship between Jen and myself in the future?
it pulled 31 uc.
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Am I incorrect in understanding the I ching as saying she will in fact come back to me? btw I asked if I should pursue her and the clearest reading said I should not.
"this course leads to marriage".
of 64 possible outcomes, I find it remarkable that this particular one came to me, about success and marriage, directly related to my question.
the odds are astounding that this would happen. I want to trust this message, but the idea of 'wishful thinking' comes into play.
I am afraid to trust this. and can the Tao, play games to hurt us?
I am confused...
Pls let me know your thoughts on this, it means a great deal to me, and Thank you so much for your time..
peace to you
Doug
I am really struggling with understanding some of the hexagrams to my questions.as they seem to contradict?
your help and advice or help here in clarifying or possibly affirming my interpretation, would be greatly appreciated and of immense value for me!.
These are situations are ones which I cannot change or have no control over, yet I seem unable to accept, no matter the effort or non effort(wu wei) I put into it.
I will share two personal readings, that is indicative of my fate, or so it seems, and I am unable to reconcile or resolve this within myself. I see no future, within the known framework, and I just either do not have the ability or don't know how to reconcile and be at peace with the misfortune, or I am not interpreting these readings correctly?
Ok, Ill try to be as brief as possible.
to be more specific, in Dec of 2017 I went through a massive upheaval in my life due to a breakup, where I experience profound heartbreak, and loss. I never received closure. the love of my life left with no explanation, and never returned and did not respond to my attempts asking her kindly for some closure.we never spoke again, in the middle of the stage of the relationship when it was at its height of bliss for me.
Yet It is even a far more complex event than just the breakup, since this issue brought up other issues in me which compounded my situation.
~~~
my 1st reading:
this is one of many on the subject. asked now that I'm past the heartbreak.
will I ever find myself in a loving relationship which is loving, mutual and joyous, if I continue to grow physically and spiritually, taking time to be more happy within myself?
note: I understand that no other person can make me any happier than I am capable at any time. this was one of the lessons I learned during the heartbreak phase. That all happiness is what I choose to create and another does not make me any more happy. however I deeply loved her. and feel even after overcoming this loss that I may never love another, like I did with her, and there is a (false?)hope , which I logically cannot explain, that does NOT want to die, as it should...despite that I am ready to find another life partner. if it be the tao's destiny for me. It does not seem I have an optimistic fate.
the answer was this:
CHANGING TO
So this seems to be a consistent pattern, and I have been pulling hex 63 as well...which are not indicators of hope...
54 clearly states: 'Nothing furthers', as the outcome.
agreed it says passing trials but this is the future hexagram..., and it is still saying basically that my trials are passing indicating that the situation may never resolve...?
I am NOT ok with a future, where I am unable to establish human connection to another.
my understanding from your site and based intuitively on what I can read into this is, that there is NO HOPE?
I also know that the future does not OWE me a happy existence, and that I control internally through choice, how I react or create my internal circumstances(which is all there is).
thoughts?
~~~
also this would be very helpful if you could help with one other reading I did.
pls review this one reading? you will find it curious.
T
his one would be of the greatest value to confirm or refute my interpretation. THANK YOU!!!
I cast this as a 'curiosity reading' regarding the seeming lingering and perhaps false hope, not expecting this outcome...so now I am confused and it could set me back...
when I tie the two readings together it seems contradictory in my understanding? pls send me your thoughts?
I believe the yi-jing is saying(?) I will reunite with my ex lover?, at some point, but within the known framework, I cant trust this will happen, and in fact should not trust...for my health and sanity of hoping when its not appropriate to do so.
what do you believe is happening in this reading?
reading. I asked: Can I still expect the development of a love relationship between Jen and myself in the future?
it pulled 31 uc.
Am I incorrect in understanding the I ching as saying she will in fact come back to me? btw I asked if I should pursue her and the clearest reading said I should not.
"this course leads to marriage".
of 64 possible outcomes, I find it remarkable that this particular one came to me, about success and marriage, directly related to my question.
the odds are astounding that this would happen. I want to trust this message, but the idea of 'wishful thinking' comes into play.
I am afraid to trust this. and can the Tao, play games to hurt us?
I am confused...
Pls let me know your thoughts on this, it means a great deal to me, and Thank you so much for your time..
peace to you
Doug