Well...the ongoing saga of the boy with benefits...
So, I asked Yi - "what would my life look like and be like if I tell D I didn't want to see him anymore"
I got 37.1 (Extended Family) changing to 53 (Steady Pace).
I don't really understand why I got Extended Family with this question. he is not my family. We are not even in the same group at all (friends speaking). Its quite weird we even know each other at all. So for the advise to be Extended Family........ just confusing.
....but anyway....
37.1 - seems to indicate that this may be the right thing to do. He is a child who has gotten away with far too much and now refuses to be disciplined and responsible. I feel he now takes me for granted and uses me for his pleasure only when he wants it - no regard for my needs or wants.
so this changes into 53 - a steady pace. Indicating that anything worth it takes time to develop and cannot/should not be rushed or manipulated. So this makes me think that MAYBE I am jumping the gun in telling him to get lost??? Should I be more patient and see if he comes around on his own and starts treating me like he did in the beginning?
I also looked at 53.1 - (divination.com) says "The image is of a lonely young man who sets forth on his own. His perception of facing a huge challenge makes him very careful. The indication is that if you are cautious, and persevere, you will have good fortune. When situations are allowed to develop gradually, liabilities can evolve into assets." it seems like that is saying that I can get through this (leaving him) but its going to be hard and lonely.
So I guess I am asking for y'alls wisdom and insight here --- Should I do it? Should I tell him we are done? I want to, on one hand because the relationship is so far out of balance....but on the other hand I will miss him and will undoubtedly be lonely - even tho it is not the best relationship anyway. but something keeps me hanging on to him and him to me. I just don't understand.
thanks in advance.
Lorna
So, I asked Yi - "what would my life look like and be like if I tell D I didn't want to see him anymore"
I got 37.1 (Extended Family) changing to 53 (Steady Pace).
I don't really understand why I got Extended Family with this question. he is not my family. We are not even in the same group at all (friends speaking). Its quite weird we even know each other at all. So for the advise to be Extended Family........ just confusing.
....but anyway....
37.1 - seems to indicate that this may be the right thing to do. He is a child who has gotten away with far too much and now refuses to be disciplined and responsible. I feel he now takes me for granted and uses me for his pleasure only when he wants it - no regard for my needs or wants.
so this changes into 53 - a steady pace. Indicating that anything worth it takes time to develop and cannot/should not be rushed or manipulated. So this makes me think that MAYBE I am jumping the gun in telling him to get lost??? Should I be more patient and see if he comes around on his own and starts treating me like he did in the beginning?
I also looked at 53.1 - (divination.com) says "The image is of a lonely young man who sets forth on his own. His perception of facing a huge challenge makes him very careful. The indication is that if you are cautious, and persevere, you will have good fortune. When situations are allowed to develop gradually, liabilities can evolve into assets." it seems like that is saying that I can get through this (leaving him) but its going to be hard and lonely.
So I guess I am asking for y'alls wisdom and insight here --- Should I do it? Should I tell him we are done? I want to, on one hand because the relationship is so far out of balance....but on the other hand I will miss him and will undoubtedly be lonely - even tho it is not the best relationship anyway. but something keeps me hanging on to him and him to me. I just don't understand.
thanks in advance.
Lorna