Hexagram 41.2.3.5 > 37 In regards to a relationship? A bit confused

November 14, 2018, 9:17 am

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I had a brief relationship with a man at work, but unfortunately we had a tiff and the relationship ended after 2 weeks. This was approximately 3 months ago. Since the breakup, he continues to tell me he misses me but hasn't directly asked me out again or asked to reconcile. I have attempted to meet him halfway and invited him out to dinner, but he acted super akward and nervous. He is a bit younger than I am, and not very experienced.

I asked the Sage, "how will our relationship progress at this time?" and got:

41.2.3.5 > 37

I understand line 1 as meaning to be kind with him but not to be too pushy or try to direct things in any particular direction and line 5 sounds very positive. But line 3 confuses me. I am pretty sure there is no 3rd party in this situation. The only person I can think of is a nosy coworker who lives nearby to him and 'spies' on him. This lady is an older lady, married with kids, and I have never gotten the impression that he is in the least bit interested in her.

Is line 3 suggesting that I move on and find someone else, and then I get the benefits of line 5? Or is Line 3 suggesting keep the older woman at bay, (as she has tried meddling and asking a bunch of questions about us). Since we work together, we tried to keep the relationship "hush, hush" and no one suspected anything except this lady.


Since I was confused I asked "Sage, could you clarify the meaning of 41.3" in this situation? and got:

25.2.3.>1

Line 3 makes it sound like someone is going to come and whisk him away...Does this sound accurate? Or how can this line be interpreted?

Just to confirm, I asked "Sage, can you advice if there is a romantic 3rd party?" and got:

49.1.5.6 > 50

Sounds like the Iching is telling me to settle down lol.


Sorry for the lengthy post....just a bit anxious :(

Any advice or help interpreting these lines would be much appreciated!

Thank you :)

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November 14, 2018, 12:48 pm

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Hi everyone. I have been very confused for the past couple weeks. I am a recent graduate and university was mostly a rubbish experience. I learnt a lot during that time about the idea of life purpose and meaningful work, wealth from the perspective of how income from a job is not going to make you financially secure a.k.a the rat race, wealth from the spiritual perspective of following inspired action and doing what you are passionate about. All of this has made me want to pursue my own creativity and try unorthodox or less job dependent ways of creating in the world and making income at the same time. I'm always trying to notice signs from the universe and synchronicities, but i feel like i'm being pulled in all directions, especially with people telling me to get a job, an astrology reading i purchased which said getting a job is likely to benefit me financially rather than my own creative pursuits so some compromise may be needed, and getting emails from a careers lady at university who keeps asking to meet and call me about job seeking. I even wanted to get a job for the most part, but there's always been either forces outside me that seem to thwart or make such attempts difficult, for example the ability to get references (one of my personal tutors was really rude to me even though i'd only spoken to her once, ignored my email for a meeting once, she just didn't like me and i realised i couldn't get a reference from her), when i was doing volunteer work to improve my CV my parents caused drama for me that caused me to have to move out and live with my grandma which made it difficult for me to go and some other criticisms from my mother about my volunteer work. Then there was my own committment issues, a weak commitment towards that kind of endeavour makes it difficult for me to bother, i feel like it's not worthwhile... i ended up just leaving the volunteer place without telling them, one time i missed a university exam because i was so unprepared as the work felt incredibly meaningless (still managed to get a first from my degree thankfully). My mind has been so overtaken with the idea that if i am not committed to something, i should just not go for it, it makes it more difficult to pursue something like a job just for money, i worry that my weak committment will not only make the whole job seeking process ineffective, but then even if i manage to get something, i'll mess it up by virtue of being unhappy and not committed. Given all those thoughts for some context, i asked the I Ching "What outcome is likely if i job seek? Should i?" I got 5.2.3.5 (Waiting) leading to 24 (Returning). I'm new to the I Ching so i find it very difficult to interpret, what are your thoughts? Sorry i can't seem to create paragraphs on this!

Finding home for good, roots

November 15, 2018, 12:20 am

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Hi Iching community,I have asked if I will find some sort of stable pkace to live, a stabke home....a home for good, for a long while no more moving from one living situation to another. Really finding roots.I got the hexagram 53 unchangingThanks for your feedbacks

"What if I check in on him?" and Yi's answer, 39.1.3.5 to 24.

November 15, 2018, 2:06 pm

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Hi all,


"What if I check in on him?" and Yi's answer, 39.1.3.5 to 24.

Does this casting sound favourable for checking in on someone?

This is regarding a friend with whom I have a casual intimate relationship, who is going through a difficult time.

I am of two minds...

one is that I need to give him time and space to go through this on his own and with those he may be closer to ...and the other is this hexagram casting...that I check in on him and let him know that I care etc.

This casting for me sounded favourable to check in.

39.1.3.5 to 24 Limping to Returning

Line 1
'Going on, limping; coming back, praise.'

Line 3
'Going on, limping; coming back, turnaround.'

Line 5
'Greatly limping; partners come.'


Returning, creating success.
Going out, coming in, without anxiety.
Partners come, not a mistake.
Turning around and returning on your path.
The seventh day comes, you return.
Fruitful to have a direction to go.'

Therefore, I appreciate insight from seasoned yi readers.

MP247.

hex 54.1.4>7 in search of love

November 15, 2018, 4:53 pm

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Hello everyone! I asked the ching if I will ever live a true love, someone who loves me as I am. The response was the hexagram 54.1.4> 7.In this period of my life I am very disheartened towards people, I have suffered a lot. In search for myself I wonder if there really is anyone out there who can understand me and love me, bringing out the best part of me. Could you help me in the interpretation? Thank you all in advance.

Hex 19.5.6 > 61 Another Price reduction on my home

November 15, 2018, 11:25 pm

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My home's been on the market since early summer and iv'e reduced twice and still no good offers. I mainly pay the bills through rentals and having it empty this long has gotten me into a hole. I either need to sell fast with one last reduction or get renters in right away.
I asked how it would affect my life in the long run if i do the big reduction and got Hexagram 19.5.6 >61
It's hard to read this one. It seems like a yes for selling but that maybe it's not in alignment with my Inner Truth?

I asked first about taking it off market and renting and got Hex 11.3.4 >54.
It makes sense that i'd have to give up a lot to the renters and the idea of it being peaceful is good. 54 worries me though because it says "nothing that would further".
I was feeling to just take it off and rent but these readings are making me re-consider.
Is 19.5.6 Good for this?
Thanks for any help here.

63.1.39, what should I being doing right now (a 66 year old's question)

November 16, 2018, 2:04 am

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I've had a hell of a year. 1.5 years ago my husband died, last spring I lost my well paid job, and over the summer had to sell my properties for very little money. I have enough money to survive for a few years, at least, and have a cheap rental flat in a small town, but have few friends and am a very bored. I pick up the odd bit of editing work, but it is far from sufficient and working from home (alone) is very isolating. I really need to work, both for money and my sanity, but the options for someone my age are slim. I was a university lecturer, but now all there seems to be are 'remote' jobs which pay little or require very specialized tech skills that I don't have. Basically I do not want to do them, so I guess that's what could be meant by 'already across'. I am a talented writer (I was also a successful journalist in the past) but how to use this skill and get paid is another matter. One option is to return to the US (I live abroad, in a cheap country) and live in my brother's basement and get some kind of minimum wage job. But I fear he will treat me like a homeless person, and that I will end up spending a lot of my savings, be stuck there, and unable to return to Europe.

I get frequent IC readings that I am right to hold back, but the limping in 39 is hard on me. Moreover I have no idea who the Great Man is- friends are helping as they can to put work my way, but usually when I ask for help I'm told to teach Chinese children online or something. I don't want to.

I like to think the consistency of the 'do nothing rash' readings is on my side, and that I need to pursue work that is really right for me and take my time. Am I missing anything? I am worried!

Oppressive Government / brute force 34.3.4.5 to 60

November 16, 2018, 3:03 am

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I just got the news that a close friend is under arrest for no viable reason except that she worked years ago in an organization that supports human rights and a more transparent society. Yes, we live under an oppressive government that has been on an ongoing purge. I asked what would be a beneficial way to read this situation that my friend find herself in and got 34.3.4.5 to 60. Any insight is appreciated!

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Heartbreak and hexagram 24

November 16, 2018, 7:40 am

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I’m enduring the breakup of my relationship with my fiancé. The only man I've ever been engaged to or wanted to marry. The short version is I repeated some old patterns of mine (being negative, needing validation, being controlling, etc) which I am currently in therapy to heal. I discovered he'd been lying to me about his use of porn over our entire relationship. To make matters worse, he contracted an STD and fed me some story about how he got it, that he did not cheat on me :confused::confused: . The breakup has been excruciating and shattering. I really adored this man. Yet he would not take or see his responsibility in all this. Somehow it all became about my behaviors. He was what I wanted until things slowly came to light of who he really is. It’s all so shocking. I’ve been so confused. I’ve cried, I’ve screamed. I feel like I'm going mental. Aside from therapy, I talk with a couple close people. I’m on an anti-depressant. But it’s so very hard. I can only keep myself busy so much. There’s all this lag time where my mind starts whirling and I get so upset again and again. Not to mention always seeing reminders of him. We had plans for our life together. I thought he was the one. He said he lied because he did not want to lose me. But he lost me anyway in the end. I’m not far away enough from it to see things clear yet. It’s only been a week. This is the longest we’ve ever gone without speaking to one another. It makes me question everything. Did he really love me? Why did he do this? Is there really any other way he could have contracted this illness? Etc etc etc. My heart hurts and I’m tired.

I consulted the iching many times about our relationship and finally asked today “Father God what is the best way that I need to handle this?”
I flipped the coins on my own and got hexagram 24.

‘Returning, creating success.
Going out, coming in, without haste.
A partner comes, not a mistake.
Turning around and returning on your path.
The seventh day comes, you return.
Harvest in having a direction to go.’

I guess this means returning to my path, returning to myself. It’s such drudgery to do this.
I wish it were more comforting than that.

Anyone else have thoughts on this? :weep: The pain is often unbearable.

10.4.5.6 > 19 - why did he break up with me out of nowhere?

November 16, 2018, 5:28 pm

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Why did this relationship end?

Hi friends,
I’ve been absent for a while and have just gone through a hard breakup with a man I really thought was ‘the one’. It was a 71/2 month beautiful romance, with a lot of love, connection and emotion. All signals were pointing to “go”. We started off slowly and he pursued me and fell hard for me. There was a lot of initiation on his part to move things forward...to the next level. He was the first one to say ‘I love you’ and to ask me to be his girlfriend. He was smitten in words and actions. He never cancelled a date and was always a man of his word. He told me I was the woman of his dreams and he wanted to grow old with me.

Then…a few weeks ago, seemingly out of nowhere, he ended it. It was heartbreaking to say the least. I couldn’t understand it. He just said “we’re too different”. I tried to talk him out of making such a rash decision, because it was so confounding and didn’t make a lot of sense. A few days before the breakup he expressed jealousy when there was no threat, at times he was very needy and he required a lot of attention. I am a person who likes to take things slowly, I enjoy me "me time" and it seems that he just didn’t feel that I was appreciating him. This man did a lot for me, adored me, showered me with affection and never seemed to waiver in his love. He included me in all aspects of his life (family, work, took care of me when I was ill or if I ever needed anything). And he talked about getting married.

I really need some clarity about the situation. After over two weeks of no contact I bumped in to him today. He was cordial, nice, nervous, receptive to seeing me, but that's all. He hugged me 3 times and gave me a kiss on the cheek. This encounter brought up a lot of emotions for me, and I’m still so uncertain about why he ended it. So I asked Yi, “please provide clarity as to why this relationship ended”.

The answer was: 10.4,5, 6 > 19

I’m not that good at interpreting Iching. The oracle of hex 10, Treading talks about a tiger and danger? There are a lot of moving lines.

19 represents “nearing”.

I’m afraid I need an outside perspective because my objectiveness of the situation is lacking at the moment. Many thanks!

Current Academic Situation: 63.3 to 3

November 16, 2018, 8:27 pm

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I still have a few weeks until the Finals week and the end of the Fall semester and Thanksgiving is next week. I asked the question, "How will I feel after the Fall semester?" My response was 63.3 to 3. This past week, I accidentally pressed the start button on an exam when I was going through Blackboard. The professor then reseted the exam for me.

How should I proceed to have a fulfilling, serious relationship? 64.5.6 >47

November 17, 2018, 5:31 am

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Hello friends!

I asked "How should I proceed to have a fulfilling, serious relationship?" and got 64.5.6 >47
I asked the same question seven weeks ago and got Hex 2 unchanging. I don't think it's too soon to repeat it;).
My take: Hex 64 indicates "Not yet across"= not being in such a relationship yet: that's the current situation. Now how should I proceed?

Line 5: "Continuing -- good fortune. No remorse. The glory of the superior man wins the confidence of the people. Good fortune."
I should keep on my current path of life- there's nothing wrong with that; meet people, let them know me, and win their trust by being open and sincere myself...

Line 6: "He drinks wine with confidence. No blame. When his head gets wet, he loses confidence."
And I should be confident of my ability to relate with people; however:
"When one wets his head while drinking wine, it is because he knows no moderation"
I have to learn the moderation- admittedly, it's a hard task for me. I tend to be really passionate when attracted to/in love with someone, and lose the sight of what is really happening. I really get "drunk"- that's how I've felt after reading my messages to previous love interests after calming down:D. Also:
" He does not know how to submit to the proper regulations."
I should keep my rebellious, wild side in check. I'm really bad at playing by the social rules:duh:.

But what does mean the relative hexagram- 47? " The lake with no water symbolizesOppression.The superior man would give up his life to achieve his purpose." Am I going through a time of drought? Do I need to sacrifice many things in order to achieve my purpose- the serious relationship? Or have I better to maintain morale until the hard time is over, then to act?
"Oppression. Success. Persistence. Good fortune for the great man. No blame. If one indicates with words only, no one will believe." I should to be correct and respect my values despite the external hardship. And should rely on the actions, not mere words.
I am somehow puzzled by the meaning of Hex 47.

I'll appreciate your comments.

How will the situation evolve?

November 17, 2018, 8:09 am

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I asked the I Ching about a difficult situation I am going through and I got 36.5.6 (turning into 37). Will this mean that the obstacles can be overcome and that in the meantime I have to struggle to keep an even mind? Thanks for any advice.

If I go this way 19.3.4.6>14

November 17, 2018, 11:21 am

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I asked if I shifted my career focus in a certain direction what the result would be.
19.3.4.6 > 14
The 14 I take as context, to suggest I do have valuable assets.
19.3 and 19.4 seem a bit contradictory, but then I guess one can experience both ups and downs.
19.6 seems a bit promising.
What is the bigger picture here?
Thanks.

- LL

If I go what will happen? hexagram 28.2 to 32

November 17, 2018, 2:10 pm

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Hello everyone,There is this female dj I have been following and I was wondering if I should go and see her. We have not met yet, but I’m hoping to be included into her circle of friends. I asked the I-Ching what would happen if I went, and received hexagram 28.2 to 31. I don’t understand how the 2nd line applies to my situation, except that I am older than her by 6 years and I’m not a man. 31 is a romantic connection but I’m not sure how that applies to me...can anyone pls help with interpretation? I’m just hoping it means I’ll be able to make a new friend with her. Any help is appreciated.

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If I go what will happen? hexagram 28.2 to 31

November 17, 2018, 2:11 pm

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Hello everyone,There is this female dj I have been following and I was wondering if I should go and see her. We have not met yet, but I’m hoping to be included into her circle of friends. I asked the I-Ching what would happen if I went, and received hexagram 28.2 to 31. I don’t understand how the 2nd line applies to my situation, except that I am older than her by 6 years and I’m not a man. 31 is a romantic connection but I’m not sure how that applies to me...can anyone pls help with interpretation? I’m just hoping it means I’ll be able to make a new friend with her. Any help is appreciated.

Yi's answer, 29.2.5 to 2

November 17, 2018, 6:14 pm

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I have been asked to write a book. I love to write and have always done so. I don't feel capable of writing a book. I am fearful but I am also wanting to do if I succeed. My question was "will I be a successful author?" and my answer was this >>> Yi's answer, 29.2.5 to 2 which has me perplexed. TIA for your assistance

5> 3,4,6 > 10 About living together

November 18, 2018, 1:11 am

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Hi all,

I need your precious help for one more time. My relationship with my partner is at its best recently. However I am worried, I want so much to move and stay with him but I don't want to be the one who will ask it.

My question was if he will ask me to move and stay together at his house.
Hexagram 5 > lines 3,4,6 to Hexagram 10.
I would say that the lines 3 and 4 show how I feel or they show that I am waiting with sadness for him to ask me to move with him. Finally, when I will be desperate and waiting too long he will ask it (line 6)..? and we will proceed carefully (hexagram 10)?
One other way to see the answer is that if I wait till he asks me to move together with him it will take too long. Perhaps, my inactivity on the matter will be bad for me and the advice of line 4 "get out of the pit" shows me that I must ask it and stop waiting...

I don't know.

42.1.5.6 and 42.5.6, about same issue

November 18, 2018, 9:40 am

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Hi everyone!I would much appreciate your insight on this readings. Question one was if I should send an email recommending Mr. H for director of X (a school) to Ms. N, and got 42.1.5.6. Second question was what will the outcome of the email recommending Mr H for director of X.I feel that Ic is telling me go ahead, in the first one, but the last line 6, got me confused as it looks like it's the opposite of 1 and 6.The second reading feels about the same, it looks promising, until I read line 6.A little background: Our actual director Mr. E is a very competent and great leader but unfortunately he had to resign about a month ago due to serious personal problems, he will be leaving at the end of the scholar year, so now the school's CEO are looking for a replacement to.start the next scholar year, Mr.H had work at our school before but he left far (but in the same state) to another job that he liked more, Mr. H will be the ideal successor of Mr. W.What do you think of the IC answers? Thank you in advance!

hexagram 21 and new begging

November 18, 2018, 11:41 am

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Heii!Just a quick check in. I met up with this sweet kind handsome person. We both came out of some heavy relationships recently. We both said we don't want to get into anything serious. So it turns out that we really enjoy each other and keep in touch throughout day. I spent night at their house yesterday and before asked - What's between us? - Unchanging 21. Today, I asked what's the potential between me and him? Hex 21.1>35So to me seems that it won't go anywhere far and I should just be careful not to fall in love when I know it's not an option?