I asked is there a chance of intimacy in the future with this person and received 42.1 to 20 ! This seems to be a Yes its possible .. would really appreciate your insights ..
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42.1 to 20
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What is the advice in 10.3>1 ?
Hey Everyone
I just received this line when asking what I need to know about work this week?
Yi gives me the answers sometimes when things are going well.
I suppose it makes sense in the way if things are not going as you would like them, like a good friend Yi would give you encouraging advice.
In this case I am just about to make some positive advances, am I being warned to watch my step? Am I still in the jungle or woods? Like the saying goes "you are not out of the woods yet"
I like what Lise says
6 at 3: Squinting, able to observe. Limping, able to walk. Tailing the tiger, he bites man, pitfall. A soldier acting like a great chief.
As long as one acts within one's abilities, no tiger will bite. A small thing done in a great way is great, a great thing done in a small way is small.
When your forces in treading are limited, then take great care not to offend anyone, but stay within the limits of the society you live in, and which you need
I am really not quite sure exactly what the advice is.
I keep thinking it could be don't bite off more than I can chew, keep my head down, plod along ( a lame man can walk) be modest, dont be over confident even though my position is improving.
I also received earlier this weekend 25.1 which made a lot of sense and was very positive.
( I asked where to next with my business)
What do you think the situation is here?
I think I am being advised to keep a low profile of sorts, just head down and stay on track (path)
Maybe I am being advised on not getting excited ( like a friend that brings you down to earth)
Thank you in advance for any response.
Steve
I just received this line when asking what I need to know about work this week?
Yi gives me the answers sometimes when things are going well.
I suppose it makes sense in the way if things are not going as you would like them, like a good friend Yi would give you encouraging advice.
In this case I am just about to make some positive advances, am I being warned to watch my step? Am I still in the jungle or woods? Like the saying goes "you are not out of the woods yet"
I like what Lise says
6 at 3: Squinting, able to observe. Limping, able to walk. Tailing the tiger, he bites man, pitfall. A soldier acting like a great chief.
As long as one acts within one's abilities, no tiger will bite. A small thing done in a great way is great, a great thing done in a small way is small.
When your forces in treading are limited, then take great care not to offend anyone, but stay within the limits of the society you live in, and which you need
I am really not quite sure exactly what the advice is.
I keep thinking it could be don't bite off more than I can chew, keep my head down, plod along ( a lame man can walk) be modest, dont be over confident even though my position is improving.
I also received earlier this weekend 25.1 which made a lot of sense and was very positive.
( I asked where to next with my business)
What do you think the situation is here?
I think I am being advised to keep a low profile of sorts, just head down and stay on track (path)
Maybe I am being advised on not getting excited ( like a friend that brings you down to earth)
Thank you in advance for any response.
Steve
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Small investment success? 33 to 59
Hello friends
I would like to reinvest a bit so large amount in a sort of lending scheme that offers better returns than banks. I asked what if I do with this particular scheme and got 33 lines 2,3,4 moving to 59. Please advise. Thank you. It does say small success is possible in the judgement. I wouldn't know which of the 3 lines I should focus on.
I would like to reinvest a bit so large amount in a sort of lending scheme that offers better returns than banks. I asked what if I do with this particular scheme and got 33 lines 2,3,4 moving to 59. Please advise. Thank you. It does say small success is possible in the judgement. I wouldn't know which of the 3 lines I should focus on.
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break-up
I had a relationship break up recently. It was kind of mutual but the real issue was his refusal to commit. I think he can only commit to people who are a long way away physically, or else not interested in a proper commitment either so they just have a sort of on-and-off thing. Anyway, he did make overtures of friendship to me initially after the breakup - mainly through social media - but I'm not persuaded. On the other hand, I'm struggling (if I'm honest) with the knowledge it may have meant so little to him... it was eight months long, and I - well, I don't know. I would quite like us to rescue a friendship just because we live in the same small city and it would have a bit more dignity... but perhaps I'm not being honest with myself.
I unfriended him online and haven't messaged him, and i was a bit cool when we bumped into each other once. I haven't seen or heard from him since.
So I asked:
Does he miss me and want to reach out? hexagram 41.4 to 38
How does he feel about me now? Hexagram 22.1.3 to 23
What is his view of how things stand between us? Hexagram 18.2 to 52.
What does he say to others about how things stand between us? Hexagram 63.
I think we're all done, but anyone have any thoughts?
Thank you very much....
I unfriended him online and haven't messaged him, and i was a bit cool when we bumped into each other once. I haven't seen or heard from him since.
So I asked:
Does he miss me and want to reach out? hexagram 41.4 to 38
How does he feel about me now? Hexagram 22.1.3 to 23
What is his view of how things stand between us? Hexagram 18.2 to 52.
What does he say to others about how things stand between us? Hexagram 63.
I think we're all done, but anyone have any thoughts?
Thank you very much....
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Loat a coin...
Hi all,
I've used the same three coins for about 30 years now. They're special also in that this was the old Greek currency (drachma) which stopped existing long ago. Today I lost one of them while travelling. I'm quite shocked. Any similar stories out there? What did you do to solve a siimilar issue?
I've used the same three coins for about 30 years now. They're special also in that this was the old Greek currency (drachma) which stopped existing long ago. Today I lost one of them while travelling. I'm quite shocked. Any similar stories out there? What did you do to solve a siimilar issue?
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Lost a coin...
Hi all,
I've used the same three coins for about 30 years now. They're special also in that this was the old Greek currency (drachma) which stopped existing long ago. Today I lost one of them while travelling. I'm quite shocked. Any similar stories out there? What did you do to solve a siimilar issue?
I've used the same three coins for about 30 years now. They're special also in that this was the old Greek currency (drachma) which stopped existing long ago. Today I lost one of them while travelling. I'm quite shocked. Any similar stories out there? What did you do to solve a siimilar issue?
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61.2.5 and 7.3.6 regarding relationship and no contact
So I got involved in something with a guy I came to fancy recently. I had met him about a decade ago, apparently at that time he was interested in me, never really made a move. I wasn't interested in him then. He has always been sensitive and shy at times, moody even, though also a really nice guy as well. I know it's difficult for him to get started with women although also they like him too, he's a sensitive artist type. He recently has been making a lot of positive changes for his physical and mental health and this was very attractive to me. I had moved to another city 2 or 3 years after we met, only coming back recently. I see him once a week at an activity we do with others. We ended up hanging out and then hooking up (he asked me out, though I had to basically ask him to make the first move). Just cuddling, though for couple hrs (we had been hanging out already all day, really deep conversations learning a lot more about each other). He was hesitant the next morning what to do, I said I thought we should just see how it goes, we're adults, just communicate with each other. He seemed to be into that. The next time we hung out it was really great, again super deep conversations he again said he wasn't sure if he was ready for a relationship. He didn't explain why, but he got hit again with quite a bit of grief still from dad passing away (almost 1 yr now) due to a holiday, also in the background I think his ex was stirring up a lot of stuff (she was basically stalking him- got job next door to him, had showed up to his apartment that day that she shouldn't have known where, started showing up out of nowhere to our activity. He was really stressed by this.). Also he is working on a personal project and kinda just adulting stuff. Again I thought and then said, this is pretty soon to DTR, I am liking the hanging out part, I don't care what it's called right now. Also I was going away for a month and wouldn't have cell service much, and that would give us time to reflect and work on personal projects.We had like 6-7 dates over 3 weeks which all were chill/fun/awesome. I don't have a lot of physical experience which I wasn't explicit about- tho hinted at- and he was super cool with boundaries and exploring that at my pace. Couple sleepovers, lots of making out and great talks. I left for my trip, we hadn't really said anything about what will happen, there were people around when we last saw each other and he just gave me a kiss. He sent one text wishing me a safe and exciting trip, which I got a few days later. We had a short talk via text. I never heard from him again, it's been over a month now. About two weeks after that text he wrote all of us in the activity to say he was quitting for 8 months. He hasn't responded to anyone else's calls/texts/emails either. It was a group he was in for over a decade and also some of his best friends are in it. When I got that I wrote to say I was sad and things I'd miss from him in the group, but wanted to support him with all that was going on. Wrote when I'd be back and also another time that I knew I'd have cell service, he didn't reply. Sent just one other text that was a lil goofy, about something we were both interested in, nothing. I guess I just wanted to emphasize that I was trying to mirror his interest, I wasn't over contacting or something.I asked Yi for advice on what to do now about the burgeoning relationship, Yi gave me 61.2.5 going to 27. I am thinking that even though I really want to, I shouldn't contact, just be patient? He will contact when he's ready? I think I can accept that he needs the space right now, though I would have preferred for him to tell me that he needed it for our personal situation and not just the group. OR is it that I need to say, hey, my actual goal is to be in a healthy relationship, and focus on that, and to prepare myself for someone who is ready for that? Line 5 maybe too could be to just state what I need clearly which is I want a relationship with him at this point, to make that known. And accept the consequence? OR is it even to be there for him, to remind him I can provide that nourishment? People with grief often withdraw in exactly the way he is doing.Yesterday I was at a friend's wedding and it was a rough day, as I had to take care of (emotionally and medically) a guest who was having an anxiety attack and food poisoning the whole time. I went to an afterparty, and after all of that, and it was at the site of first 2 dates with guy, I got pretty upset. Then when I came home my roommate was asking 20 questions about him and it got me even more emotional. I asked Yi: "Any advice for me today, yi? Yesterday was pretty rough and I was upset about X/being single" I got 7.3.6 going to 18 and I'm not as familiar with these hexes. Line 3, is it just saying to let it go? Or is it that I need to let go this thing where I feel like I shouldn't contact him, and just do it to make things clear? Taking responsibility for what it is I want to know or establish? Or even that if it was a friend only who is grieving, the right action is to gently remind person I am here for support without intruding too much, but to let go the romantic/emotional element? Line 6- I don't know if the issue is that I am wanting to support an "inferior" person- ie someone not on same wavelength as me. Or if it's I need to reach out to re-establish that we're a team. Ending up on hex 18 does not seem doubleplusgood to me. Again I don't know if the issue is that the situation has already decayed, or that I need to take action in order to prevent the decay.Please help, thank you!
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Relationship, money, the future. Sigh.
I married someone who didn't have strong economic prospects but is working to get to a better place. Of course, how it actually plays out is up in the air. This person is responsible and hard working, but there are structural realities that keep one from ascending to the stars. I, myself, was born into advantage but have had terrible luck career wise. I am mostly supported by family despite trying very hard to become independent. So, as a couple, our financial base is... not strong. I enjoy being together (for the most part -- there have been major hurdles and fights unrelated to money) but I've also always been a huge romantic and a dreamer who has been able to sustain such feelings because I've been supported by family financially. I'm not looking for romantic answers to my questions, the hard question I am forcing myself to ask, if this relationship will just lead to dissolution and sadness because of the realities of life. Love is good, but if it means that I can never have my creature comforts, to be honest, I don't know if I want that. I have been asking the I Ching about our relationship.1) Are we blessed or cursed by the stars? What is our relationship like? 22.1.6 --> 15- We are harmonious. We have good communication. We can be ourselves. We are elegant and have good taste, despite our meager means. We make do to live well. 2) What is the reality of our financial future? 33.3 --> 12Attached retreat brings danger. I think this just means that it will be difficult. Perhaps there will be a big struggle to get ourselves out of the stagnation. I'm not sure what the line about the auspiciousness of keeping servants (or "slaves and concubines" in LiSe's translation) really means. Getting help?? Making other people do the work (how would one even do that)?3) What if I left the relationship and found someone of better means? 6.2.4 --> 20It would be an idea, not necessarily an achievable reality. I can't bare the thought of being with someone just because of money - this person would have to have excellent character and share my interests. Harder than finding a needle in a haystack. I believe this is what 20 Contemplation refers to -- a convenient daydream, not necessarily an achievable reality. 4) To stay or exit this relationship based on the harsh realities of life, my own personal needs, and what potentials we may or may not have: what is my advice? 35.1.3 --> 30Advancing. Especially in LiSe's interpretations, these lines seem very much about chasing prosperity and pursuing radiance. In terms of staying or leaving, I have to say that I almost feel like this is telling me to leave the relationship. What do you all think?----Disclaimer: please, no posts about being independent and self sufficient and etc etc. I'd really just like the I Ching readings to be interpreted on their own and am not looking for advice outside of these readings. Thanks in advance.
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please help me understand my reading (newbie here)
actually i am 29 years old and i dream everyday of my childhood crush. once,i used to dream we are spending happy times together...now however, every dream ends with we being separated-he leaving me....because of something done from my side. i wake up with a harrowing, haunting,guilty feeling. i have no contact with him now whatsoever.
my question was-
my question was-
why i dream of him so much?
Your reading resulted in the following hexagrams: | changing to |  |
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please help me understanding this dream i have almost every night-hex.36-46(newbie he
actually i am 29 years old and i dream everyday of my childhood crush. once,i used to dream we are spending happy times together...now however, every dream ends with we being separated-he leaving me....because of something done from my side. i wake up with a harrowing, haunting,guilty feeling. i have no contact with him now whatsoever.
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Non-duality and 'Person'-Centred Psychotherapy.
I am moving towards my second year of study for a Diploma in Psychotherapy. I am at the point where I need to identify a couple of people so that I can complete two cases studies. This involves 46 sessions and writing reports. Then for September I need to find a placement which, like finding the case studies, is proving challenging.I feel at home spiritually with the non-dualists and this challenges the self concepts that are worked with in traditional forms of psychotherapy. I feel I have some aptitude for counselling having struggled so much myself to find a workable way to live. But it seems there are several obstacles to my feeling I want to see this course through to the end and qualify. One is what I experience as a conflict in approach because of different understandings of basically what human beings really are; the second is that I feel it does not help my own direction of growth as I find I have to revert back or work with the conceptual self; the third is in some ways, the (mainly) person-centred approach to 'helping' others sometimes feels like it is a largely unconscious way of avoiding asserting my own life/energy. The third is that for some reason, this latter conflict/problem also seems to undermine my confidence in myself. This is a long introduction. Sorry. But it is hard to see which way to go with this. I asked the I-Ching 'What's going on here which seems to engender lack of confidence & obstruction'?I-Ching's response was 56.4.6.15.This seems to be saying that I am not at ease (true), but that I must not act too hastily in giving up my course.I would be grateful for others' interpretations, especially anyone who understands the dilemma of non-dual 'self' understanding as it conflicts with the 'person' centred approach in counselling...?Btw, I don't have to earn a living as I am now retired, and this is a second career in my life in fact. But I always felt I had something of an aptitude for this work and never explored it before. And I am getting on a bit.
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Opportunity knocking
I asked the Yi recently for a reflection on the following situation: I'm awaiting a phone call from a person I gave my number to, with regards to a business opportunity. It's been a long, slow wait and I don't have a whole lot of patience. (I really, really, really hate waiting for people to call!)
The result: 62.3.5 > 45.
I got 45 a long time ago with regards to a relationship beginning (the relating hexagram was "dispersing" - it ended not long after!), so I understand that the Yi sometimes gives very literal answers. This seems to be a very successful hexagram, as the essay on this site states.
I don't have any recent or memorable experience with 62. (I did get it a while back, but I can't remember the question I asked.)
I'm worried that as more time elapses, I won't hear anything at all. I also have a lot of doubts about hearing back; I just feel very negative about this whole thing. Lots of worry.
Please share your thoughts!
The result: 62.3.5 > 45.
I got 45 a long time ago with regards to a relationship beginning (the relating hexagram was "dispersing" - it ended not long after!), so I understand that the Yi sometimes gives very literal answers. This seems to be a very successful hexagram, as the essay on this site states.
I don't have any recent or memorable experience with 62. (I did get it a while back, but I can't remember the question I asked.)
I'm worried that as more time elapses, I won't hear anything at all. I also have a lot of doubts about hearing back; I just feel very negative about this whole thing. Lots of worry.
Please share your thoughts!
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How amusing! YES 35.1.2.5 or NO 35.2.4.5
I was asked to go on a weekend trip with someone - that it is complicated with but we're only getting to know each other. So Yes and No came with the same hexagram and 3 changing lines, two of which are the same?! The exact question was Trip with 'the person'? I took two separate readings; for Yes - 35.1.25, No - 35.2.4.5 So both answers 35.2.5 35 PROGRESSShared lines35.2 - 'Then advancing, then anxious. Determination auspicious. Receive a silk tunic. Pray for blessings to one's ancestress. Dont rush ahead but take all the precautions necessary. Listen to feelings, intuition, premonitions. Advancing is often not so much a matter of using your feet but of using your antennas, of feeling your way35.5 - 'Regrets go away. Losing, gaining, no regrets. To proceed is auspicious. There will be harvest. One grows from the things that come and go, not from the things one holds on to. Money has to roll, insights, ideas, lessons have to roll too. Life is only alive as long as it is moving. Who holds on to his securities cannot grow.Difference between the two Yes - 35.1 - 'Then advancing, then arrested. Determination auspicious. Be a net, be true. To be rich: no fault. Prosperity and affluence do not happen just like that, they have to be captured step by step. One needs perseverance and nerve, because time and again one will have to overcome resistance. Not one step can one get for free. A prefixed course will not get you anywhere worthwhile, so be like a net, fishing up anything you can use, and be true, so you get where you belong, where your Dao tries to get you.'No - 35.4 - 'Advancing like a five-skills-squirrel. Determination danger. Knowing a lot of things, but all just a little. Doing many things but not finishing one. Then there will never be any advance. Everything a thing, a relation, your life needs completion. A half-built house is no house, a half-lived life is no life. My impressions - I take this as the fact that I was asked to go is a progress in our circumstances as such. 35.2.5 in both readings seem to tell me to act on my feelings and be brave when I feel like acting? I need to put myself into it if I want it to happen. If I don't invest myself fully nothing will ever happen. Is this how you understand it? What I should watch out for? I can't see anything obvious.I got the interpretations from yijing. I'm a bit of a noob so any insight is highly appreciated!
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How am I doing with my Master in Ecology and Spirituality? Please give me guidance.
I have asked the above question as I have started this Masters last January, but I have been not totally convinced right from the start. Now that I am finding myself having to write coursework for it, I am experiencing an incredible resistance, and here is the background of why I have cast a new reading on this subject: 1) I am wondering on the nature of my resistance to do the coursework: is it something I must overcome, or do I experience it beacuse I am doing something which is not the best course of action for me, and I am trying to 'force' it?
2) In the meantime, I think I have found a course of studies that I sense would be much more fitting my nature (as it is more experiential and more in line with what I'm looking for) , but it is a leap in the void, and it would certainly involve stepping out much more of my comfort zone mych more, plus starting a new committment (also financially). After the reading, I do have my felt sense of what to do, but I would like to have more insight, please, as it is not totally clear to me what the oracle's advice is. Here follows the reading, as I have done it online (this time):
Your reading resulted in the following hexagrams:
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Where are you being nudged and guided?
From the source, creating success, constancy bears fruit.
No mistake.'
Energy flows strongly into life's landscapes, bringing a great creative drive, from the source through towards fulfilment. Following it means a willingness to honour the flow and align actions with it. You can know your ideal, and then allow it to meld with the natural current, following signs and nudges and allowing them to draw you onward.
Then, you may experience Following as an effortless flow of supportive synchronicities or you may experience it as events unfolding in accordance with their own schedule, and failing to keep to yours. It can seem as if simply allowing yourself to be guided by the current is not enough, and you ought to be 'doing something'. But moving with the creative process is not a mistake.
A noble one at nightfall
Goes inside for renewal and rest.'
'Enthusiasm naturally means Following.'
'Following has no causes. Corruption, and then order.'
Letting the mature man go.'
And so joining and connected to it,
The king makes offering on the Western mountain.'
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Do you know how to work with such power?
It does not bite people.
Creating success.'
There are tigers in the outer world, and also inner tigers; as you get close, it's good to recognize the tiger for what it is.
Treading the tiger's tail is perilous yet if you can move in harmony with it, you can invite its power into your own life as protection, fertility and blessing. To do this without getting bitten requires both skill and care.
Look to the power and intensity you are drawn to in the situation: its specific danger is there, and also its potential gift.
A noble one differentiates above and below,
And makes a place for the people's aspiration.'
'Things are tamed, and then there are the rituals. And so Treading follows.'
2) In the meantime, I think I have found a course of studies that I sense would be much more fitting my nature (as it is more experiential and more in line with what I'm looking for) , but it is a leap in the void, and it would certainly involve stepping out much more of my comfort zone mych more, plus starting a new committment (also financially). After the reading, I do have my felt sense of what to do, but I would like to have more insight, please, as it is not totally clear to me what the oracle's advice is. Here follows the reading, as I have done it online (this time):
Your reading resulted in the following hexagrams:
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Hexagram 17, Following
Key Questions
How are things flowing, and how can you move with them?Where are you being nudged and guided?
Oracle
'Following.From the source, creating success, constancy bears fruit.
No mistake.'
Energy flows strongly into life's landscapes, bringing a great creative drive, from the source through towards fulfilment. Following it means a willingness to honour the flow and align actions with it. You can know your ideal, and then allow it to meld with the natural current, following signs and nudges and allowing them to draw you onward.
Then, you may experience Following as an effortless flow of supportive synchronicities or you may experience it as events unfolding in accordance with their own schedule, and failing to keep to yours. It can seem as if simply allowing yourself to be guided by the current is not enough, and you ought to be 'doing something'. But moving with the creative process is not a mistake.
Image
'At the centre of the lake is thunder: Following.A noble one at nightfall
Goes inside for renewal and rest.'
Sequence
Following comes from Hexagram 16, Enthusiasm:'Enthusiasm naturally means Following.'
Pair
Following is paired and contrasted with Hexagram 18, Corruption.'Following has no causes. Corruption, and then order.'
Changing Lines
Line 2
'Bound to the small child,Letting the mature man go.'
Line 6
'Seized and bound to it,And so joining and connected to it,
The king makes offering on the Western mountain.'
Hexagram 10, Treading
Key Questions
Where is the tiger?Do you know how to work with such power?
Oracle
'Treading a tiger's tail.It does not bite people.
Creating success.'
There are tigers in the outer world, and also inner tigers; as you get close, it's good to recognize the tiger for what it is.
Treading the tiger's tail is perilous yet if you can move in harmony with it, you can invite its power into your own life as protection, fertility and blessing. To do this without getting bitten requires both skill and care.
Look to the power and intensity you are drawn to in the situation: its specific danger is there, and also its potential gift.
Image
'Heaven above, lake below: Treading.A noble one differentiates above and below,
And makes a place for the people's aspiration.'
Sequence
Treading follows from Hexagram 9, Small Taming:'Things are tamed, and then there are the rituals. And so Treading follows.'
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Hexagram 18 Unchanging re: new apartment
I have browsed the long thread from a decade ago on Hexagram 18 UC.
It's the first time I've gotten it.
This is in regards to a beautiful 2 bedroom apt in a historic building for which I signed a lease. I had originally put a deposit down in October on the only apt available at that time, a studio, with the promise that doing so would put us at the top of the waiting list for the coveted 2 bedroom 2 balcony line. The current owners renovate when an apartment vacates. The studio shower line was caked with minerals and the flow was poor. He said they would go through another apartment instead of having to break through the floor etc, then he said it would only require a small hole. Meanwhile I told him about my environmental sensitivities and I would need to pay for my own nontoxic paint (although, I did not realize how no voc paints are now available everywhere including Lowes and Home Depot) and sent him a paint wheel.
It took them six months to actually fix it as they finally figured out the only solution was to run a feeder line from three floors up, which meant breaking into walls in 4 apartments. They opened up a huge hole in the bathroom, half the wall. I'm environmentally sensitive and this didn't make me happy. Lots of dust and they left it open. In the meantime, a one bedroom opened up. However when I went to look at it I smelled cigarette smoke and it turns out the tenant next door is a chain smoker. Even though there's a no smoking rule in the lease. They said they would tell her to smoke out the window but I thought that was unlikely to be enforceable so I passed.
Another one bedroom opened up during this waiting period. I went to look at it and the manager who is actually a super nice guy but perhaps disorganized said why don't you just take the 2 bedroom its only $200 more. I said what 2 bedroom. It turns out a coveted 2 br with 2 balconies had opened up and they'd already renovated most of it. Including with cheap contractor's paint. I knew that was going to be a serious problem for me but I liked the apt so much I decided to take it, thinking it would offgas over time, and/or I could bake it out or seal it. Meanwhile I bought reversible window fans, we opened the windows, had them on low, and kept one balcony door open for the last month.
I decided against baking out after research because the building is 100 years old and there's lead paint under there, oil based, and who knows what i would wake up with a bakeout. Then when I took a look again yesterday the paint smell was as strong as ever. I know it will make me sick--the last time I used regular paint in a bedroom over twenty years ago I had joint pains that were really really painful for 6 months until it finally wore off.
I threw the I Ching and frankly my interpretation was that I am going to be unable to get situated in a home that syncs with my soul and self until I do more work on inherited patterns. That this crazy situation is a manifestation of the sins of the fathers. I don't feel I can easily fix the situation. The only sealer I know of that is tolerable is shellac and I thought we could hire someone to do all the glossy areas the painter remembers touching up (he doesn't remember exactly everything he did but he says he did all the trim and doors) but when I looked yesterday, the style of the rooms which are quite large, is to have little trim/molding running up and down the walls in various places creating huge 'squares' of space, and to shellac that would require taping--in fact--one would need to tape so excessively and extensively to not end up with shiny shellac on the beige paint that is inside those squares. I realized it would be a huge job and I still wouldn't know if I'd gotten the flat paint or where it was as he said he did "touchups" ie a wall here or there.
The only room that doesn't smell of paint is the bathroom. I see a nice grey paint on the walls there, which is one of the manager's favorite colors when offsetting white, and I would have been completely happy to have just taken the apt with no new paint or other renovations. It was already in good shape and the floors had been sanded and polyurethaned a year ago.
Any thoughts? I'm really upset as the apartment has views for 50 miles and my partner is even more upset as every time he was over there he asked after 2 bedroom availability. But I'm not mad at the manager, he's nice, he just is maybe not cut out for being very organized. I hadn't reminded him recently about a 2 BR as they were said to open up only very rarely and I can see why. The woman who was living there was transferred to a job in Texas or I'm sure she would not have left.
It's the first time I've gotten it.
This is in regards to a beautiful 2 bedroom apt in a historic building for which I signed a lease. I had originally put a deposit down in October on the only apt available at that time, a studio, with the promise that doing so would put us at the top of the waiting list for the coveted 2 bedroom 2 balcony line. The current owners renovate when an apartment vacates. The studio shower line was caked with minerals and the flow was poor. He said they would go through another apartment instead of having to break through the floor etc, then he said it would only require a small hole. Meanwhile I told him about my environmental sensitivities and I would need to pay for my own nontoxic paint (although, I did not realize how no voc paints are now available everywhere including Lowes and Home Depot) and sent him a paint wheel.
It took them six months to actually fix it as they finally figured out the only solution was to run a feeder line from three floors up, which meant breaking into walls in 4 apartments. They opened up a huge hole in the bathroom, half the wall. I'm environmentally sensitive and this didn't make me happy. Lots of dust and they left it open. In the meantime, a one bedroom opened up. However when I went to look at it I smelled cigarette smoke and it turns out the tenant next door is a chain smoker. Even though there's a no smoking rule in the lease. They said they would tell her to smoke out the window but I thought that was unlikely to be enforceable so I passed.
Another one bedroom opened up during this waiting period. I went to look at it and the manager who is actually a super nice guy but perhaps disorganized said why don't you just take the 2 bedroom its only $200 more. I said what 2 bedroom. It turns out a coveted 2 br with 2 balconies had opened up and they'd already renovated most of it. Including with cheap contractor's paint. I knew that was going to be a serious problem for me but I liked the apt so much I decided to take it, thinking it would offgas over time, and/or I could bake it out or seal it. Meanwhile I bought reversible window fans, we opened the windows, had them on low, and kept one balcony door open for the last month.
I decided against baking out after research because the building is 100 years old and there's lead paint under there, oil based, and who knows what i would wake up with a bakeout. Then when I took a look again yesterday the paint smell was as strong as ever. I know it will make me sick--the last time I used regular paint in a bedroom over twenty years ago I had joint pains that were really really painful for 6 months until it finally wore off.
I threw the I Ching and frankly my interpretation was that I am going to be unable to get situated in a home that syncs with my soul and self until I do more work on inherited patterns. That this crazy situation is a manifestation of the sins of the fathers. I don't feel I can easily fix the situation. The only sealer I know of that is tolerable is shellac and I thought we could hire someone to do all the glossy areas the painter remembers touching up (he doesn't remember exactly everything he did but he says he did all the trim and doors) but when I looked yesterday, the style of the rooms which are quite large, is to have little trim/molding running up and down the walls in various places creating huge 'squares' of space, and to shellac that would require taping--in fact--one would need to tape so excessively and extensively to not end up with shiny shellac on the beige paint that is inside those squares. I realized it would be a huge job and I still wouldn't know if I'd gotten the flat paint or where it was as he said he did "touchups" ie a wall here or there.
The only room that doesn't smell of paint is the bathroom. I see a nice grey paint on the walls there, which is one of the manager's favorite colors when offsetting white, and I would have been completely happy to have just taken the apt with no new paint or other renovations. It was already in good shape and the floors had been sanded and polyurethaned a year ago.
Any thoughts? I'm really upset as the apartment has views for 50 miles and my partner is even more upset as every time he was over there he asked after 2 bedroom availability. But I'm not mad at the manager, he's nice, he just is maybe not cut out for being very organized. I hadn't reminded him recently about a 2 BR as they were said to open up only very rarely and I can see why. The woman who was living there was transferred to a job in Texas or I'm sure she would not have left.
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delete ex or not?
I was wondering:
Should I delete my ex from my facebook friendlist? Hexagram 25. I think the hex tells me that I shouldn't care at all about it and just be innocent.
Will he delete me?
42.2/61
Ok, do you have any idea why I have received this line? One of the luckiest lines of Iching. Somebody increases another one and inner truth. No idea at all or does it mean that I increase him because I haven't deleted him yet?:duh:
Should I delete my ex from my facebook friendlist? Hexagram 25. I think the hex tells me that I shouldn't care at all about it and just be innocent.
Will he delete me?
42.2/61
Ok, do you have any idea why I have received this line? One of the luckiest lines of Iching. Somebody increases another one and inner truth. No idea at all or does it mean that I increase him because I haven't deleted him yet?:duh:
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Creating or Recognizing?
Hi all,
I've been wondering about hexagram 13.
Hilary has it as People in Harmony.
Bradford has it as Fellowship with Others.
The Image says the jun zi Distinguishes or Organizes the clans.
Distinguishes implies recognizing existing differences.
Organizes implies recognizing similarities.
So, my question is something like:
Is it more about Creating Harmony
or Recognizing Harmony?
(at the moment I'm leaning toward Recognizing.)
Your comments are welcomed.
:bows:
I've been wondering about hexagram 13.
Hilary has it as People in Harmony.
Bradford has it as Fellowship with Others.
The Image says the jun zi Distinguishes or Organizes the clans.
Distinguishes implies recognizing existing differences.
Organizes implies recognizing similarities.
So, my question is something like:
Is it more about Creating Harmony
or Recognizing Harmony?
(at the moment I'm leaning toward Recognizing.)
Your comments are welcomed.
:bows:
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how should I behave with this boy, for my own sake, and to have a good friendship?
we are speaking of someone who seems to be strongly unstable and he even thinks he is fun. First day he treats you well, then he doesn't give a damn about your safety (like when you have to reach the car at night) and about your wellbeing (if your feets hurt), then again he jokes like a stupid person and as if he is the king everyone wants to be after to. The following day he ignores you again.
After that, I started being cold and distant to see if he changed attitude for a lil while. Like being nice... It didn't last for long. He is like 2 people in the same body.
How should I behave from now on with him, in order to improve the ''friendship'' and not have to fight him all the time?
He let me quite angry and I'm feeling unsure now because I can't deny I am physically attracted to him.
it's 55.5.6 which becomes 13
13 says I should use the excuse of some social gathering among friends
55.5 says I should focus on my entertainment than to his attitude, so I should be funny and clever quick witted... (it induces me into coffee dependency u,u)
55.6 says he will act like a proud jerk and by doing so he will lose me...i will go away and he will feel lonely.
After that, I started being cold and distant to see if he changed attitude for a lil while. Like being nice... It didn't last for long. He is like 2 people in the same body.
How should I behave from now on with him, in order to improve the ''friendship'' and not have to fight him all the time?
He let me quite angry and I'm feeling unsure now because I can't deny I am physically attracted to him.
it's 55.5.6 which becomes 13
13 says I should use the excuse of some social gathering among friends
55.5 says I should focus on my entertainment than to his attitude, so I should be funny and clever quick witted... (it induces me into coffee dependency u,u)
55.6 says he will act like a proud jerk and by doing so he will lose me...i will go away and he will feel lonely.
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Hexagram 61 unchanging
Hi everyone,
Met a man online, as you do, and it's only been two weeks but things were going really well. The other night we video chatted for almost two and a half hours. Then, the next day I noticed his profile had disappeared from WhatsApp and after messaging him a couple of times via text, there was no reply.
I have no idea what could have happened and yet I got a very auspicious 61 unchanging. I want to walk away from this as I've experienced so many let downs on via internet dating.
Any thoughts on this?
Met a man online, as you do, and it's only been two weeks but things were going really well. The other night we video chatted for almost two and a half hours. Then, the next day I noticed his profile had disappeared from WhatsApp and after messaging him a couple of times via text, there was no reply.
I have no idea what could have happened and yet I got a very auspicious 61 unchanging. I want to walk away from this as I've experienced so many let downs on via internet dating.
Any thoughts on this?
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hex 33.2> 44 about love and lost
Hellostart by apologizing for my English, I'm Italian. It's about a short but complicated relationship I had with a boy. After several disappearances and returns (things between us happened but we never talked about us, we lived together), I decided to talk to him about my feelings and to understand what we were doing. I was losing myself, I did not recognize myself anymore but I did not want to get away from him because I felt that there was a strong connection between us, I wanted to believe things would be better. He told me that he did not want to commit at that moment even if he was fine with me, that things happen, but at this moment he felt destabilized. I do not know if there had not been that conversation if it would have disappeared anyway , but it was not what I expected. We said goodbye with a hug, that we would have met, but since then we have lost contact.I asked Yi "give me an image of me and x" hex 33.2> 44and "what are his feelings for me" hex 24.6> 27we met one day by chance and we talked about this and that, it was friendly and melancholy and I saw a bit of nostalgia in him.I wonder, the hex 33 is referred to him and his retreat or to me, to the fact that I had to get away for my own good? But I can not understand the second line .... and the hex 44 what it represents?Thank you kindly for any input, am very grateful in advance.
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