Hi, everyone! I'm new to this forum and I'm a beginner at this but in so many ways I Ching has already helped me SO much and I'm so thankful I found it at the time I did!
This is very personal so please excuse the long back story, but it would be much appreciated if I could have some help on 7 unchanging in regards to asking whether or not a person loves another person.
There is someone who I was with in the past and we liked each other very VERY much but life got in the way and we had to separate. There was some promise of reuniting in the beginning but after the separation, and somewhat during the relationship, I fell into a very dark hole emotionally. It wasn't related to him but a negative situation I had just come out of, and he just had happened to come around at that time. I should be honest because I would love to hear ideas on how this is relevant to my situation specifically, so I will just come out and say that I developed an eating disorder which really strongly controlled my life for three years. So, this year I finally went to treatment for that which I am very happy about. I realized a lot in treatment including how selfish and destructive my approach towards other people has been over these few years.
I considered him pretty much lost forever at that point probably because I was not very nice to him or myself after we parted ways, and I've heard he has some anger towards me although he has never shown it. Everything had been okay to that point until a couple of weeks ago. I deleted my SNS accounts because it was keeping me tied to old habits, and he reached out to someone to see if I was okay. That person, apparently not to be trusted lol, told me about it and it really shocked me that he was still watching out for me somehow even though we have not spoken in three years. Also, there is no real way he would have known about those accounts since I never told him and don't use my real name there. So, I guess somewhere along the line he had gathered information about me secretly and been watching me without contacting me for a certain period of time.
After much confusion and sorting through the negativity, I started consulting the I Ching about this situation and without a lot of surprise the answers about him and his motivations and feelings were not very positive. In general, the answers seem to be pointing towards a few vague concepts: 'he needs/wants you to make drastic changes,' '
I can remember some startling answers off the top of my head to give more context: I asked what changes I need to make and received 44 and 63 unchanging. I asked about his feelings about me and got 11 unchanging and 2 unchanging before. 45 comes up very often with different changing lines. When I ask about what he wants/needs from me I get some pretty downer hexes like 12 and 23 with changing lines.
I do get some nice and fuzzy answers sometimes, particularly when I ask about feelings. So, I decided to just bite the bullet and I asked "Does he love me?" I got 7 unchanging. I asked right after, perhaps to fact check, "Do I love him?" And I got 50 unchanging. Both of them being unchanging really struck me so I decided to think about those answers for a while and stop consulting. Oh my gosh, 50 unchanging is so accurate for me. Yes, I do think this person is a strong part of my destiny/life path no matter how the relationship manifests on Earth. The interpretations read like pages from my mind. But 7 unchanging is very unclear for me because I really don't see many examples of how this comes up in regards to love. It feels extremely unromantic, and like a 'heck no' for me, if I'm being perfectly honest!
I just want to know if I'm being too dismissive of this hexagram or if I am seeing very clearly a one-sided nature. I have come to terms with the fact that I may have destroyed this beyond repair by this point so I'd really appreciate honest feedback. Thanks!
This is very personal so please excuse the long back story, but it would be much appreciated if I could have some help on 7 unchanging in regards to asking whether or not a person loves another person.
There is someone who I was with in the past and we liked each other very VERY much but life got in the way and we had to separate. There was some promise of reuniting in the beginning but after the separation, and somewhat during the relationship, I fell into a very dark hole emotionally. It wasn't related to him but a negative situation I had just come out of, and he just had happened to come around at that time. I should be honest because I would love to hear ideas on how this is relevant to my situation specifically, so I will just come out and say that I developed an eating disorder which really strongly controlled my life for three years. So, this year I finally went to treatment for that which I am very happy about. I realized a lot in treatment including how selfish and destructive my approach towards other people has been over these few years.
I considered him pretty much lost forever at that point probably because I was not very nice to him or myself after we parted ways, and I've heard he has some anger towards me although he has never shown it. Everything had been okay to that point until a couple of weeks ago. I deleted my SNS accounts because it was keeping me tied to old habits, and he reached out to someone to see if I was okay. That person, apparently not to be trusted lol, told me about it and it really shocked me that he was still watching out for me somehow even though we have not spoken in three years. Also, there is no real way he would have known about those accounts since I never told him and don't use my real name there. So, I guess somewhere along the line he had gathered information about me secretly and been watching me without contacting me for a certain period of time.
After much confusion and sorting through the negativity, I started consulting the I Ching about this situation and without a lot of surprise the answers about him and his motivations and feelings were not very positive. In general, the answers seem to be pointing towards a few vague concepts: 'he needs/wants you to make drastic changes,' '
I can remember some startling answers off the top of my head to give more context: I asked what changes I need to make and received 44 and 63 unchanging. I asked about his feelings about me and got 11 unchanging and 2 unchanging before. 45 comes up very often with different changing lines. When I ask about what he wants/needs from me I get some pretty downer hexes like 12 and 23 with changing lines.
I do get some nice and fuzzy answers sometimes, particularly when I ask about feelings. So, I decided to just bite the bullet and I asked "Does he love me?" I got 7 unchanging. I asked right after, perhaps to fact check, "Do I love him?" And I got 50 unchanging. Both of them being unchanging really struck me so I decided to think about those answers for a while and stop consulting. Oh my gosh, 50 unchanging is so accurate for me. Yes, I do think this person is a strong part of my destiny/life path no matter how the relationship manifests on Earth. The interpretations read like pages from my mind. But 7 unchanging is very unclear for me because I really don't see many examples of how this comes up in regards to love. It feels extremely unromantic, and like a 'heck no' for me, if I'm being perfectly honest!
I just want to know if I'm being too dismissive of this hexagram or if I am seeing very clearly a one-sided nature. I have come to terms with the fact that I may have destroyed this beyond repair by this point so I'd really appreciate honest feedback. Thanks!
