Hello everyone,
Lately I've started a couple of posts about my "looking for a flat" situation. In a nutshell, I am forced to move from where I live now and seems I can't afford with my own means something that ticks, at least, the most important boxes. I looked for places further from my city and my workplace but couldn't find anywhere where I wouldn't feel lonely and stressed because of my dependency on public transport. Anyway. Even though I was hesitant at first I decided to take this opportunity to take the relationship with my partner to the next level. I was excited about it; somehow, my bad luck made sense to me. After visiting some flats and doing a lot of search, today he told me that he's not sure he wants to take this step. the reason is sad. He says he doesn't want to loose his "purchasing power", investing on furniture, jobs paintings and so on. He doesn't want to pay half of a rent either. He lives rent free with his mother. He is 55, for God's sake. I feel devastated now. I feel fooled. I know he loves me but... he's scared of commitment and scared of us not being able to make ends meet and therefore end up hating each other. That's what he says. But I still have to move, and have to do it quick, and won't be any easier without his support and with a new source of distress. I asked the iching what would be my best course of action regarding to my flat hunting situation. I got hexagram 14.1.3 to 64.
I understand the first line of hex 14 is advising not to allow him to hurt me and make things more difficult to me (so, is it not counting on him anymore, or demanding more commitment (if such thing is demandable)?
The third line talks about possessions that one doesn't offer because wants to keep them for himself... well, I think it's pretty clear what the Yi is talking about...maybe indicating that he won't change.
And hex 64... could mean that I should be able to realise that in order to fix my situation?
I could do with some insight with this one, because I am quite lost in this situation. I'm having the saddest birthday ever :( Many thanks in advance :)
Lately I've started a couple of posts about my "looking for a flat" situation. In a nutshell, I am forced to move from where I live now and seems I can't afford with my own means something that ticks, at least, the most important boxes. I looked for places further from my city and my workplace but couldn't find anywhere where I wouldn't feel lonely and stressed because of my dependency on public transport. Anyway. Even though I was hesitant at first I decided to take this opportunity to take the relationship with my partner to the next level. I was excited about it; somehow, my bad luck made sense to me. After visiting some flats and doing a lot of search, today he told me that he's not sure he wants to take this step. the reason is sad. He says he doesn't want to loose his "purchasing power", investing on furniture, jobs paintings and so on. He doesn't want to pay half of a rent either. He lives rent free with his mother. He is 55, for God's sake. I feel devastated now. I feel fooled. I know he loves me but... he's scared of commitment and scared of us not being able to make ends meet and therefore end up hating each other. That's what he says. But I still have to move, and have to do it quick, and won't be any easier without his support and with a new source of distress. I asked the iching what would be my best course of action regarding to my flat hunting situation. I got hexagram 14.1.3 to 64.
I understand the first line of hex 14 is advising not to allow him to hurt me and make things more difficult to me (so, is it not counting on him anymore, or demanding more commitment (if such thing is demandable)?
The third line talks about possessions that one doesn't offer because wants to keep them for himself... well, I think it's pretty clear what the Yi is talking about...maybe indicating that he won't change.
And hex 64... could mean that I should be able to realise that in order to fix my situation?
I could do with some insight with this one, because I am quite lost in this situation. I'm having the saddest birthday ever :( Many thanks in advance :)