Hello, this is my first time in this Forum. I have been consulting the I Ching for more than 30 years. It was my mother who introduced me to the I Ching and she often helped me interpreting because I tend to be pessimistic in my own readings! I prefer to consult the I Ching only for important questions, so I end up not using it often. My mother died a few years ago and since then I have been struggling with my own interpretation.
My question to the I Ching is about a relationship that ended four months ago. This man was really in love with me and then all of a sudden, after a discussion where I asked him to be more present, he broke up with me. He explained he was getting too attached and he did not want to suffer in a long-distance relation. He was not sympathetic but quite harsh with me at the end. I was very hurt but I respected his decision. I did not contact him for a couple of months, hoping that he would change his mind or at least that we would be friends one day, since we had a strong intellectual exchange and many things in common. He never wrote or called.
Still missing him, a month ago I contacted him and asked to see him. It was a strange meeting, where I perceived that he still likes me and is involved with me (and at times he was very nice), but the rest of the time he was cold and harsh. For me, the purpose of seeing him was either going back with him (if he wished so) or starting to build a friendship: I did not want to lose contact with him again, the idea of being abandoned has always been devastating for me so I try to maintain good relations when I can.
After we met, we stayed in touch for a few weeks. Sometimes he was cold and rude on the phone, other times just formal - as if he was trying to be detached again. He never called, while I called him. In general, when I ask him about us, he does not answer or he gives contradictory answers so I avoid asking. The last time we talked, 2 weeks ago, he was incredibly rude so I sent him a message right after saying that I was struggling to leave something positive behind us and that his attitude pains me. He did not answer so I stopped calling him. But he gave some "likes" to my posts or pictures on Facebook quite often (silly, hu?). I waited another week than I removed him from my friends on FB.
Now of course I am confused, I feel guilty and I am still hoping that he will finally take some initiative. I am hoping that - if not a couple - one day we can at least be in touch and have a nice dialogue as we did before. I also feel abandoned (of course).
I asked I Ching if it is wise and correct that I wait for this man to ever contact me one day.
I consulted the I Ching online (on this website) and I got the answer 50.6.
Then I asked the same question to my I Ching (the book) and I got the answer 18.3.6
When I asked if I am still a part of him (as he used to say) I got 31 (unchanging).
Sorry if this is so long, I just feel so sad. Thank you for sharing your interpretations.
My question to the I Ching is about a relationship that ended four months ago. This man was really in love with me and then all of a sudden, after a discussion where I asked him to be more present, he broke up with me. He explained he was getting too attached and he did not want to suffer in a long-distance relation. He was not sympathetic but quite harsh with me at the end. I was very hurt but I respected his decision. I did not contact him for a couple of months, hoping that he would change his mind or at least that we would be friends one day, since we had a strong intellectual exchange and many things in common. He never wrote or called.
Still missing him, a month ago I contacted him and asked to see him. It was a strange meeting, where I perceived that he still likes me and is involved with me (and at times he was very nice), but the rest of the time he was cold and harsh. For me, the purpose of seeing him was either going back with him (if he wished so) or starting to build a friendship: I did not want to lose contact with him again, the idea of being abandoned has always been devastating for me so I try to maintain good relations when I can.
After we met, we stayed in touch for a few weeks. Sometimes he was cold and rude on the phone, other times just formal - as if he was trying to be detached again. He never called, while I called him. In general, when I ask him about us, he does not answer or he gives contradictory answers so I avoid asking. The last time we talked, 2 weeks ago, he was incredibly rude so I sent him a message right after saying that I was struggling to leave something positive behind us and that his attitude pains me. He did not answer so I stopped calling him. But he gave some "likes" to my posts or pictures on Facebook quite often (silly, hu?). I waited another week than I removed him from my friends on FB.
Now of course I am confused, I feel guilty and I am still hoping that he will finally take some initiative. I am hoping that - if not a couple - one day we can at least be in touch and have a nice dialogue as we did before. I also feel abandoned (of course).
I asked I Ching if it is wise and correct that I wait for this man to ever contact me one day.
I consulted the I Ching online (on this website) and I got the answer 50.6.
Then I asked the same question to my I Ching (the book) and I got the answer 18.3.6
When I asked if I am still a part of him (as he used to say) I got 31 (unchanging).
Sorry if this is so long, I just feel so sad. Thank you for sharing your interpretations.