Kia ora all,
Happy New Year! I have kicked into the New Year with problems rolling over from the last. I hope to get away from them.
My ex is abusive and when finding that after 4 years of engagement he was lying about his marital status I left. We have a son 7 years old, and although he has now given up, he was trying to gain full custody. Next Friday he has a case to discharge the protection order I have against him. I think I need it and so I asked:
Will we keep our protection order? 24.1 > 2
Line 1
'Not far away, returning no regrets here.
From the source, good fortune.'
Legge: The subject of line one is the only dynamic line in the hexagram, meaning here, says Ch'eng-tzu, "the way of the superior man." There must have been some deviation from that, or "returning" could not be spoken of.
Its really difficult to see how this relates to my question.
Is it referring to him as the Superior Man in that he will return from trying to push for this removal.
Or am I the Superior Man in that I should choose to lose and risk not having this protection.
To hard to see so I ask are related question. There is a lot of denial on his part around the abuse.
Will the judge see his potential for violence? 49.3 > 17
Line 3
'Setting out to bring order means a pitfall,
Constancy means danger.
As words of radical change draw near three times,
There is truth and confidence.'
Legge: The symbolism of line three is twofold. The line is dynamic and in his correct position, but has passed the center of the lower trigram of Clarity and is on an outward verge. These conditions may dispose him to reckless and violent changes which would be bad. But if he acts with caution and due deliberation he may take action, and he will be believed in.
I think yes, the judge will see our situation could become dangerous for me. Perhaps he needs to prove that he is trustworthy for a period before the protection order is lifted.
As an added issue. He has provided everything home, education, cars, deposits to his 3 legitimate children and they are now over 30yo and have 4 children between them so far. He is retiring in March so his child support wont cover the court costs, let alone support our sons future.
I have tried to talk to him about leaving our son the bach as his inheritance. The land is on squatters rights and the building worth far far less. I think he plans to leave it to all of them, but our son hasn't even met them and is outnumbered significant disadvantage.
It seems to be an ethical question and it could go against me in court, Im unsure. Rather than have our son build expectations and realise when hes older I think I should let him know the situation. I will get external advice for this but.
Should X have access to son if he chooses to not provide for his future? 26.3.4 > 38
Line 3
'A fine horse for pursuit.
Constancy in hardship bears fruit.
Daily training, chariot driving, protecting.
Fruitful to have a direction to go.'
Line 4
'Young bull's hornboard.
From the source, good fortune.'
I think this means that our son is the fine horse for pursuit. Does it encourage me to force this situation so he is providing something for him? https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...ilies/zen2.gif
Because he is married his wife inherits everything.
Thank you for any input or words of wisdom. Its going to be a long week, but I will come back and let you know the outcome.
Wairua
Happy New Year! I have kicked into the New Year with problems rolling over from the last. I hope to get away from them.
My ex is abusive and when finding that after 4 years of engagement he was lying about his marital status I left. We have a son 7 years old, and although he has now given up, he was trying to gain full custody. Next Friday he has a case to discharge the protection order I have against him. I think I need it and so I asked:
Will we keep our protection order? 24.1 > 2
Line 1
'Not far away, returning no regrets here.
From the source, good fortune.'
Legge: The subject of line one is the only dynamic line in the hexagram, meaning here, says Ch'eng-tzu, "the way of the superior man." There must have been some deviation from that, or "returning" could not be spoken of.
Its really difficult to see how this relates to my question.
Is it referring to him as the Superior Man in that he will return from trying to push for this removal.
Or am I the Superior Man in that I should choose to lose and risk not having this protection.
To hard to see so I ask are related question. There is a lot of denial on his part around the abuse.
Will the judge see his potential for violence? 49.3 > 17
Line 3
'Setting out to bring order means a pitfall,
Constancy means danger.
As words of radical change draw near three times,
There is truth and confidence.'
Legge: The symbolism of line three is twofold. The line is dynamic and in his correct position, but has passed the center of the lower trigram of Clarity and is on an outward verge. These conditions may dispose him to reckless and violent changes which would be bad. But if he acts with caution and due deliberation he may take action, and he will be believed in.
I think yes, the judge will see our situation could become dangerous for me. Perhaps he needs to prove that he is trustworthy for a period before the protection order is lifted.
As an added issue. He has provided everything home, education, cars, deposits to his 3 legitimate children and they are now over 30yo and have 4 children between them so far. He is retiring in March so his child support wont cover the court costs, let alone support our sons future.
I have tried to talk to him about leaving our son the bach as his inheritance. The land is on squatters rights and the building worth far far less. I think he plans to leave it to all of them, but our son hasn't even met them and is outnumbered significant disadvantage.
It seems to be an ethical question and it could go against me in court, Im unsure. Rather than have our son build expectations and realise when hes older I think I should let him know the situation. I will get external advice for this but.
Should X have access to son if he chooses to not provide for his future? 26.3.4 > 38
Line 3
'A fine horse for pursuit.
Constancy in hardship bears fruit.
Daily training, chariot driving, protecting.
Fruitful to have a direction to go.'
Line 4
'Young bull's hornboard.
From the source, good fortune.'
I think this means that our son is the fine horse for pursuit. Does it encourage me to force this situation so he is providing something for him? https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...ilies/zen2.gif
Because he is married his wife inherits everything.
Thank you for any input or words of wisdom. Its going to be a long week, but I will come back and let you know the outcome.
Wairua