Hello all,
A friend of mine has in the past few years been displaying passive-aggressive tendencies; being nice sometimes and other times gives me little put-downs (mild abuse). He says he enjoys to tease me, calling me a geek and a loser, that kind of thing. I find it tiring though and would rather be affirmed by my friends! We go a long way back and I was best man at his wedding so I don't want to lose the friendship but am not sure what to do. I feel I need to be firm with him and tell him off but don't want to overreact. I asked IC:
What if I am firm with him: 43.1.2.3.4>8
Line 1 and 3 (going on without control; vigour in the cheekbones) seem to imply don't overreact
Line 2 implies not to be defensive
Line 4 I'm not sure
So perhaps I should not overreact but just treat it as mild teasing and show it doesn't bother me? I would appreciate any further thoughts on this? Thanks
A friend of mine has in the past few years been displaying passive-aggressive tendencies; being nice sometimes and other times gives me little put-downs (mild abuse). He says he enjoys to tease me, calling me a geek and a loser, that kind of thing. I find it tiring though and would rather be affirmed by my friends! We go a long way back and I was best man at his wedding so I don't want to lose the friendship but am not sure what to do. I feel I need to be firm with him and tell him off but don't want to overreact. I asked IC:
What if I am firm with him: 43.1.2.3.4>8
Line 1 and 3 (going on without control; vigour in the cheekbones) seem to imply don't overreact
Line 2 implies not to be defensive
Line 4 I'm not sure
So perhaps I should not overreact but just treat it as mild teasing and show it doesn't bother me? I would appreciate any further thoughts on this? Thanks