Hi all,
I've been going through a protracted time of great difficulty with a sister-in law, which all began about 2 years ago when she gave birth to my nephew. Since then, she has been doing her best to discredit me within my family, making various sneaky moves aimed at securing family inheritances purely for my sibling, and thus her children (she has since given birth again), slandering me etc etc etc. A serious relationship broke up in great part due to her interference ( I very strongly suspect that aside from mean spiritedness, part of her motivation was to stop a union that could lead to children, as this might dilute possible inheritances, and the next time I have a girlfriend, I am loathe to have her anywhere near her lest there is a repeat performance) , situations she has set up have led to fights between myself and my parents, has sabotaged aspects of my social life (via friends of hers who became friends of mine... friends she in fact introduced me to, all of this being before she gave birth), through her influence she has blocked work opportunities for me etc... and all of this has been done with a smile on her face, such that those within my family are not able to see past her BS.
She comes from a political family, so such games are second nature to her, and she is a media personality, so she is damn good at acting. She is also very well connected socially. She has done some very ghastly and downright evil things as well that I won't go into... as far as I am concerned, she is about 70% Sociopath, able and willing to flick on and off a sociopath switch of sorts, depending on who she is dealing with and what she wants. She seems to genuinely love my brother (who is a jerk in his own way though thankfully NOWHERE in the neighborhood near her) and love her children and parents and a few friends, but is also willing to do ANYTHING to get what she wants... and I am in the way in terms of her children receiving all of an inheritance. I am quite serious when I say that I am concerned that when I have children she might kick them down the stairs when no one is looking. Sounds dramatic, but she is right out of Game of Thrones, and isn't a Sansa Stark type character, but would be along the lines of a Cerscie, if Cerscie tried to act nice and gracious.
I could go on and on, but it would get boring, so I will tell a quick story to give an example of her deceptive powers: last year I had a birthday dinner with family and some friends, unfortunately this in-law came (not inviting her and my brother was not an option). One of my friends in attendance had never met her, and I had never told her about any of my troubles with her. This friend of mine is a perceptive and shrewd young woman who is able to easily see past BS. The two were seated near each other and talked a good deal. After the dinner I asked my friend what she thought about the sister-in-law, and her response was "It's like she is trying to put everyone in her pocket"... basically objectify everyone and through charm "put" others in her "pocket" for future use in achieving her goals and ends... something beyond social networking... basically valuating people without valuing them as human beings. Mind you, I'm not saying she does this in every instance, but she does it, from what I have seen, quite often Smart girl, my friend.
Anyways, this has been ongoing and has added a GREAT deal of stress and trouble to my life (and my life is already currently very troubled and stressful right even without her input). I have tried many things to stop her from the troubles that she is causing, with mixed and temporary success. Recently, I have come upon some other areas of possibility in terms of dealing with her and putting a stop to her efforts (don't worry, nothing illegal).
As such I asked the I-ching:
Will I sucede in negating her threat and efforts by taking actions X?
Ok, first off, this is obviously a Yes/No question
40.5 > 47
Hexagram 40
Liberation, Deliverance, Eliminating obstacles
Changing to 47
Exhaustion
Ok, first off the bat, I would say in this case Exhaustion clearly and accurately describes my current state.
Hexagram 40.5
Legge: The fifth line, magnetic, shows the superior man (the ruler) executing his function of removing whatever is injurious to the idea of liberation, in which case there will be good fortune, and confidence in him will be shown even by the inferior men.
Liu: Only the superior man can liberate himself from entanglement. Good fortune. Thus the inferior man trusts him.
So there are two line translations, and I would say that based on the Hexagram and line, the answer seems to be a Yes. I am confused by the "little man" part though. I am by no means saying I am a great man, but in this situation I don't think I qualify as the little man spoken of in the line. Is this saying that my success will somehow serve as an inspiration to others, or something else along those lines? What confuses me about that is that while I am certain she has done similar things to carrying degrees to others, my struggle with her is known , on my side anyway, only to myself and a few very close friends... it is certainly not public knowledge etc.In addition, the actions I am considering will remain secret to all except myself, I will not share the info with friends or anyone, though I suppose my actions might leave me in a position to offer advice to others in similar situations (though if I do so I will not give as an example what I went through).
There you have it, I would love any insights any of you might offer etc.
Thanks
I've been going through a protracted time of great difficulty with a sister-in law, which all began about 2 years ago when she gave birth to my nephew. Since then, she has been doing her best to discredit me within my family, making various sneaky moves aimed at securing family inheritances purely for my sibling, and thus her children (she has since given birth again), slandering me etc etc etc. A serious relationship broke up in great part due to her interference ( I very strongly suspect that aside from mean spiritedness, part of her motivation was to stop a union that could lead to children, as this might dilute possible inheritances, and the next time I have a girlfriend, I am loathe to have her anywhere near her lest there is a repeat performance) , situations she has set up have led to fights between myself and my parents, has sabotaged aspects of my social life (via friends of hers who became friends of mine... friends she in fact introduced me to, all of this being before she gave birth), through her influence she has blocked work opportunities for me etc... and all of this has been done with a smile on her face, such that those within my family are not able to see past her BS.
She comes from a political family, so such games are second nature to her, and she is a media personality, so she is damn good at acting. She is also very well connected socially. She has done some very ghastly and downright evil things as well that I won't go into... as far as I am concerned, she is about 70% Sociopath, able and willing to flick on and off a sociopath switch of sorts, depending on who she is dealing with and what she wants. She seems to genuinely love my brother (who is a jerk in his own way though thankfully NOWHERE in the neighborhood near her) and love her children and parents and a few friends, but is also willing to do ANYTHING to get what she wants... and I am in the way in terms of her children receiving all of an inheritance. I am quite serious when I say that I am concerned that when I have children she might kick them down the stairs when no one is looking. Sounds dramatic, but she is right out of Game of Thrones, and isn't a Sansa Stark type character, but would be along the lines of a Cerscie, if Cerscie tried to act nice and gracious.
I could go on and on, but it would get boring, so I will tell a quick story to give an example of her deceptive powers: last year I had a birthday dinner with family and some friends, unfortunately this in-law came (not inviting her and my brother was not an option). One of my friends in attendance had never met her, and I had never told her about any of my troubles with her. This friend of mine is a perceptive and shrewd young woman who is able to easily see past BS. The two were seated near each other and talked a good deal. After the dinner I asked my friend what she thought about the sister-in-law, and her response was "It's like she is trying to put everyone in her pocket"... basically objectify everyone and through charm "put" others in her "pocket" for future use in achieving her goals and ends... something beyond social networking... basically valuating people without valuing them as human beings. Mind you, I'm not saying she does this in every instance, but she does it, from what I have seen, quite often Smart girl, my friend.
Anyways, this has been ongoing and has added a GREAT deal of stress and trouble to my life (and my life is already currently very troubled and stressful right even without her input). I have tried many things to stop her from the troubles that she is causing, with mixed and temporary success. Recently, I have come upon some other areas of possibility in terms of dealing with her and putting a stop to her efforts (don't worry, nothing illegal).
As such I asked the I-ching:
Will I sucede in negating her threat and efforts by taking actions X?
Ok, first off, this is obviously a Yes/No question
40.5 > 47
Hexagram 40
Liberation, Deliverance, Eliminating obstacles
Changing to 47
Exhaustion
Ok, first off the bat, I would say in this case Exhaustion clearly and accurately describes my current state.
Hexagram 40.5
Legge: The fifth line, magnetic, shows the superior man (the ruler) executing his function of removing whatever is injurious to the idea of liberation, in which case there will be good fortune, and confidence in him will be shown even by the inferior men.
Liu: Only the superior man can liberate himself from entanglement. Good fortune. Thus the inferior man trusts him.
So there are two line translations, and I would say that based on the Hexagram and line, the answer seems to be a Yes. I am confused by the "little man" part though. I am by no means saying I am a great man, but in this situation I don't think I qualify as the little man spoken of in the line. Is this saying that my success will somehow serve as an inspiration to others, or something else along those lines? What confuses me about that is that while I am certain she has done similar things to carrying degrees to others, my struggle with her is known , on my side anyway, only to myself and a few very close friends... it is certainly not public knowledge etc.In addition, the actions I am considering will remain secret to all except myself, I will not share the info with friends or anyone, though I suppose my actions might leave me in a position to offer advice to others in similar situations (though if I do so I will not give as an example what I went through).
There you have it, I would love any insights any of you might offer etc.
Thanks