Relationship query 18 changing to 61.

I have a long standing connection to a gent that is very deep and strong. He has severe intimacy issues and emotional wounding and we’ve been in and out of relationship over the years. I’m now comfortable with taking him how he comes and opening my options to different fulfillments with others. But golly, it’s like he can’t grasp that either. So I was asking if he can show up instead of shutdown and received 18.1.3.5 to 61. I will appreciate the community insight!Thank you!