This is going to be a bit entangled since I include some side inquiries to draw the bigger picture, hope it comes across clear enough. The two main inquiriess i.e. those that resulted in 29 unchanging and 6.6 > 47 enter the scene only somewhere towards the end :) I think I do not have any specific questions apart from the resonance between 29 and 6.6>47 and how this translates to relationship dynamics.
In the recent weeks there were some developments in a seemingly finished relationship, one that I do not however consider a closed chapter. It is the one from the thread:
https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...t-43-3-4-gt-60
I have not followed up in the above thread since, but long story short - me and my wife have been in and out with our romantic relationship for the last few years resulting in her leaving me and moving out over a year ago during autumn/winter.
After some brief encounters during spring time, I went away for the summer. During the three months I was away and our contacts came to a full halt (which is kind of ironic coz I was seeing her closest relatives during that period) my wife filed for divorce informing me only when I came back to my hometown. After that she began dodging my efforts to see her or maintain contact so I left her to herself.
A few months later, two weeks before the divorce trial (which took place two months ago) she asked if I wanted to meet and discuss the upcoming court case. Since then we got divorced but also have enjoyed casual contacts meaning the frequency of our encounters has increased and the quality of our connection/relationship improved but not in a romantic context. Myself, I am still in love with her and she knows that and I also know I am in some way dear to her. I do not push the line but concentrate on maintaining the consistency and transparency of my feelings, allowing her to maintain her private sphere rather than bombarding her with my emotions and insisting on contact. Occasionally invite her our for food or movies or present her with symbolic gifts (which she reciprocates) still trying to keep it modest. The relation is "friend-ish" since we know each other very well. I am not trying to rush it but have a goal of getting back together in mind. I enjoy the fact that she has become a bit more open to me again.
Some time after meeting her for the first time in months (before the trial) I asked Yi "what should I understand about the development of the situation with X" 45.4.6 > 20 and a few days later - "how to act to have the divorce trial play out in us coming closer" 54.3.4 > 11 .
Before the main thread comes in there is just one more important detail. My wife's family has a non-western spiritual background meaning that ancestral worship is a strong thing in her family, with her sibling being a priestess in contact with the spirits. I have met the ancestors also and despite cultural and racial differences have been embraced as a member of their family. They have supported me in many ways. I revere them deeply. Just to be sure that they and Yi are on the same note when it comes to giving relevant advice I once asked Yi what does it think about them: 34.4.6 > 26 .
Each year there should be a family feast held in the ancestors' honor which due to different (also financial) reasons has not happened for several years now. I was planning to initiate and sponsor such an event in the coming months when both me and my wife are supposed to (independently) visit her country of origin. And so yesterday I asked:
What is changing in me and my wife's mutual approach to one another, what should I understand about this dynamic? : 29
I got 29 a while back for a totally different question and I guess I understand how to take this in but the question was also supposed to mirror the above-mentioned one i.e. "what should I understand about the development of the situation with X" 45.4.6 > 20 . I wanted to compare them and see what comes out.
Straight after receiving 29 yesterday I asked again: Would initiating the ancestral feast be faux pas? 6.6 > 47
Despite multiple embracements by and support of my wife's family and ancestral spirits (even after the deterioration of our marriage) I do sometimes feel a stranger amongst them and know that my wife might interpret maintaining ties with her family (or for example organizing a ritual feast) as a somewhat dirty method of attempting to get back with her which would be neither true nor false - her family are who they are to me because of her in the first place but she is not the sole reason why I hold them dear after several years now. I believe that supporting them might improve the overall situation of the family not only that between my wife and me. I feel indebted to both her and her family and my intentions in relation to both wife and family are clear to everyone.
I feel these 29 and 6.6 > 47 as both speaking to the general quality of our relationship not just now but in a longer perspective. This got me thinking about non-resonant partnerships discussed here:
https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...All-About-Love
Also 29 and 6 both having water in the lower trigram kind of intrigued me when they came clustered during consequent inquiries.
I guess no specific question here to ask for help with, curious about insights.
In the recent weeks there were some developments in a seemingly finished relationship, one that I do not however consider a closed chapter. It is the one from the thread:
https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...t-43-3-4-gt-60
I have not followed up in the above thread since, but long story short - me and my wife have been in and out with our romantic relationship for the last few years resulting in her leaving me and moving out over a year ago during autumn/winter.
After some brief encounters during spring time, I went away for the summer. During the three months I was away and our contacts came to a full halt (which is kind of ironic coz I was seeing her closest relatives during that period) my wife filed for divorce informing me only when I came back to my hometown. After that she began dodging my efforts to see her or maintain contact so I left her to herself.
A few months later, two weeks before the divorce trial (which took place two months ago) she asked if I wanted to meet and discuss the upcoming court case. Since then we got divorced but also have enjoyed casual contacts meaning the frequency of our encounters has increased and the quality of our connection/relationship improved but not in a romantic context. Myself, I am still in love with her and she knows that and I also know I am in some way dear to her. I do not push the line but concentrate on maintaining the consistency and transparency of my feelings, allowing her to maintain her private sphere rather than bombarding her with my emotions and insisting on contact. Occasionally invite her our for food or movies or present her with symbolic gifts (which she reciprocates) still trying to keep it modest. The relation is "friend-ish" since we know each other very well. I am not trying to rush it but have a goal of getting back together in mind. I enjoy the fact that she has become a bit more open to me again.
Some time after meeting her for the first time in months (before the trial) I asked Yi "what should I understand about the development of the situation with X" 45.4.6 > 20 and a few days later - "how to act to have the divorce trial play out in us coming closer" 54.3.4 > 11 .
Before the main thread comes in there is just one more important detail. My wife's family has a non-western spiritual background meaning that ancestral worship is a strong thing in her family, with her sibling being a priestess in contact with the spirits. I have met the ancestors also and despite cultural and racial differences have been embraced as a member of their family. They have supported me in many ways. I revere them deeply. Just to be sure that they and Yi are on the same note when it comes to giving relevant advice I once asked Yi what does it think about them: 34.4.6 > 26 .
Each year there should be a family feast held in the ancestors' honor which due to different (also financial) reasons has not happened for several years now. I was planning to initiate and sponsor such an event in the coming months when both me and my wife are supposed to (independently) visit her country of origin. And so yesterday I asked:
What is changing in me and my wife's mutual approach to one another, what should I understand about this dynamic? : 29
I got 29 a while back for a totally different question and I guess I understand how to take this in but the question was also supposed to mirror the above-mentioned one i.e. "what should I understand about the development of the situation with X" 45.4.6 > 20 . I wanted to compare them and see what comes out.
Straight after receiving 29 yesterday I asked again: Would initiating the ancestral feast be faux pas? 6.6 > 47
Despite multiple embracements by and support of my wife's family and ancestral spirits (even after the deterioration of our marriage) I do sometimes feel a stranger amongst them and know that my wife might interpret maintaining ties with her family (or for example organizing a ritual feast) as a somewhat dirty method of attempting to get back with her which would be neither true nor false - her family are who they are to me because of her in the first place but she is not the sole reason why I hold them dear after several years now. I believe that supporting them might improve the overall situation of the family not only that between my wife and me. I feel indebted to both her and her family and my intentions in relation to both wife and family are clear to everyone.
I feel these 29 and 6.6 > 47 as both speaking to the general quality of our relationship not just now but in a longer perspective. This got me thinking about non-resonant partnerships discussed here:
https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...All-About-Love
Also 29 and 6 both having water in the lower trigram kind of intrigued me when they came clustered during consequent inquiries.
I guess no specific question here to ask for help with, curious about insights.