Hi All,
I turn to the Yi when I have doubts about what the right thing to for *me* is.
I just lost my dog, best friend and constant companion of 16 years. Of all the dogs I have had, he was "the dog of my life", the mutual connection was quite incredible. I work at home, so we were together almost 24/7 and I took him nearly everywhere with me. He had a huge fan club and all agree he was the most kind and gentle and joyful soul they had ever met. The things I enjoy doing most - going for long walks in the country daily & gardening - hold little appeal at this point because there is no sharing. I kick myself in the arse to stick my nose out of the house and am perfectly capable of being a near total hermit.
I waited over 2 years to adopt a new cat (many discussions on this thread about bringing her back to Europe! She is doing fine, misses her pal, but all the rock and roll to get her here was worth it) after losing "the cat of my life" after 21 years. It made no difference: the new cat was the new cat, with a very different personality and we have built a very different relationship from the one I had with my former cat. I still miss him. The new cat is not a substitute, she is a whole new deal.
Folks are giving me a fair amount of grief about my already starting to think about adopting another dog. They feel I am not allowing myself to grieve and that failure to grieve is bad for me. Oh, but I am grieving, and shall be for some time. There is a difference between missing MY dog (which will alwas be true) and missing having A dog, because i've had dogs all my life, because there are so many that need to be rescued, because much of my life is organized around having a dog, because without a dog I can easily become a hermit. A cat enriches my inside life, a dog enriches my outside life. I don't feel I am skipping grieving steps by envisaging adopting another dog in the quite near future.
So I turn to the Yi to clarify things.
Q1: Please assess my readiness to adopt so soon? 62.3.4 to 2
The changing lines don't sound very comforting, like I have to be careful, I could be struck down (by what?) but the resulting hex seems to fit my character of nurturing mother of openness to creatures from nature. Thus, answer not clear to me.
Q2: Why do I feel the urge to get a dog so quickly? 63.2 to 5
63 already across, decision made. Line 2 losing the carriage screen, don't go after it , it comes back in 7 days. The carriage screen as my departed dog? of course I can't run after him and he can't come back after 7 days... but another dog lands in my lap? Changes to 5, waiting, which also can mean hope, and looking forward rather than going to search> I don't search for the dog that would be suitable for me to adopt, he/she will come?
Q3: What would be the effect of waiting to adopt as many urge me to do? 47 UC
Confined.
What was I saying at the beginning? ha ha ha
Your insights will be invaluable :bows:
I turn to the Yi when I have doubts about what the right thing to for *me* is.
I just lost my dog, best friend and constant companion of 16 years. Of all the dogs I have had, he was "the dog of my life", the mutual connection was quite incredible. I work at home, so we were together almost 24/7 and I took him nearly everywhere with me. He had a huge fan club and all agree he was the most kind and gentle and joyful soul they had ever met. The things I enjoy doing most - going for long walks in the country daily & gardening - hold little appeal at this point because there is no sharing. I kick myself in the arse to stick my nose out of the house and am perfectly capable of being a near total hermit.
I waited over 2 years to adopt a new cat (many discussions on this thread about bringing her back to Europe! She is doing fine, misses her pal, but all the rock and roll to get her here was worth it) after losing "the cat of my life" after 21 years. It made no difference: the new cat was the new cat, with a very different personality and we have built a very different relationship from the one I had with my former cat. I still miss him. The new cat is not a substitute, she is a whole new deal.
Folks are giving me a fair amount of grief about my already starting to think about adopting another dog. They feel I am not allowing myself to grieve and that failure to grieve is bad for me. Oh, but I am grieving, and shall be for some time. There is a difference between missing MY dog (which will alwas be true) and missing having A dog, because i've had dogs all my life, because there are so many that need to be rescued, because much of my life is organized around having a dog, because without a dog I can easily become a hermit. A cat enriches my inside life, a dog enriches my outside life. I don't feel I am skipping grieving steps by envisaging adopting another dog in the quite near future.
So I turn to the Yi to clarify things.
Q1: Please assess my readiness to adopt so soon? 62.3.4 to 2
The changing lines don't sound very comforting, like I have to be careful, I could be struck down (by what?) but the resulting hex seems to fit my character of nurturing mother of openness to creatures from nature. Thus, answer not clear to me.
Q2: Why do I feel the urge to get a dog so quickly? 63.2 to 5
63 already across, decision made. Line 2 losing the carriage screen, don't go after it , it comes back in 7 days. The carriage screen as my departed dog? of course I can't run after him and he can't come back after 7 days... but another dog lands in my lap? Changes to 5, waiting, which also can mean hope, and looking forward rather than going to search> I don't search for the dog that would be suitable for me to adopt, he/she will come?
Q3: What would be the effect of waiting to adopt as many urge me to do? 47 UC
Confined.
What was I saying at the beginning? ha ha ha
Your insights will be invaluable :bows:
