Hello !!
A very happy new year to everyone !!!
It would be great to get some help with these questions.
I reconnected with an old friend of mine sometime ago but the relationship evolved into something more very recently. Were both quite aware of the impermanence and shortness of life for various reasons so we have talked very quickly of where this is going.
This whole thing was sprung on me. I didnt expect it at all but he has been fond of me for quite a while apparently. I just like him for now but I know I could grow real feelings for him.
I have some concerns though. He is a lovely person and we connect on a lot of levels. But he is happy-go-lucky, a bit flaky, parties a lot and doesnt care much about stuff in general. For exemple, he could be earning a lot of money because he is very good at what he does and spend it all without thinking within a few weeks. He is not very careful, looses stuff all the time, forgets to pay his bills etc.
He says he is ready to change and to become serious about things if he had an objective. We talked about him wanting to settle down, start a family. He asked me if I also wanted those things and i said that I really didnt know. I have a health problem thats hanging over my head for the past 25 years so I got used to not dreaming very far and the older I get the worse it gets. I mean Im planning 3 months ahead and thats it. That doesn't seem to worry him which is a big thing for me... He seems to see things with rosy tainted glasses...
Clearly, he was asking if I would like to do that with him, settle down etc. I suppose I could but we would have to get to know each other a lot more and I cant help but think that we are very different and that within a few months things could turn badly. And I suppose we don't have time to waste.
So i tried to sort this out a bit in my head with the help of the Yi. I asked several questions and here are the answers and my interpretations.
I would love some help from someone, particularly on the first and second readings.
What would it be like if M and I got together as a real couple : I got 61.1.3.5.6 46. This one I have a problem with. I have had 61 before about relationships and thats not turned out very positively but I get 46 as a resulting hexagram and because of the growth aspect related to it I just need some help translating the whole thing.
I asked to show me a picture of myself in a few months after the excitement has worned off and got 2.3 15. I have read different translation for this hex and line. It could be that Ill be glad to let this go even if it's unfinished business or perhaps I wont be the one making the desicions something like I would be living his dream or his life and not mine.
What are his intentions towards me, what does he want from me ? 46 UC. Something to be gained step by step
The best thing to do right now about the whole situation : 9.1.2.3 20. Line 1 talks about returning to my own path, line 2 talks about continuing to have social interactions perhaps, not to cut myself off even if I am disappointed again and line 3 is quite explicit in that it talks about the relationship between the husband and wife falling apart in the cart . I had that line before regarding a realtionship and it turned out to be negative. And 20 is about getting a clear view of the situation, to be descerning.
Thank you so much for reading this
Best wishes
Carole
A very happy new year to everyone !!!
It would be great to get some help with these questions.
I reconnected with an old friend of mine sometime ago but the relationship evolved into something more very recently. Were both quite aware of the impermanence and shortness of life for various reasons so we have talked very quickly of where this is going.
This whole thing was sprung on me. I didnt expect it at all but he has been fond of me for quite a while apparently. I just like him for now but I know I could grow real feelings for him.
I have some concerns though. He is a lovely person and we connect on a lot of levels. But he is happy-go-lucky, a bit flaky, parties a lot and doesnt care much about stuff in general. For exemple, he could be earning a lot of money because he is very good at what he does and spend it all without thinking within a few weeks. He is not very careful, looses stuff all the time, forgets to pay his bills etc.
He says he is ready to change and to become serious about things if he had an objective. We talked about him wanting to settle down, start a family. He asked me if I also wanted those things and i said that I really didnt know. I have a health problem thats hanging over my head for the past 25 years so I got used to not dreaming very far and the older I get the worse it gets. I mean Im planning 3 months ahead and thats it. That doesn't seem to worry him which is a big thing for me... He seems to see things with rosy tainted glasses...
Clearly, he was asking if I would like to do that with him, settle down etc. I suppose I could but we would have to get to know each other a lot more and I cant help but think that we are very different and that within a few months things could turn badly. And I suppose we don't have time to waste.
So i tried to sort this out a bit in my head with the help of the Yi. I asked several questions and here are the answers and my interpretations.
I would love some help from someone, particularly on the first and second readings.
What would it be like if M and I got together as a real couple : I got 61.1.3.5.6 46. This one I have a problem with. I have had 61 before about relationships and thats not turned out very positively but I get 46 as a resulting hexagram and because of the growth aspect related to it I just need some help translating the whole thing.
I asked to show me a picture of myself in a few months after the excitement has worned off and got 2.3 15. I have read different translation for this hex and line. It could be that Ill be glad to let this go even if it's unfinished business or perhaps I wont be the one making the desicions something like I would be living his dream or his life and not mine.
What are his intentions towards me, what does he want from me ? 46 UC. Something to be gained step by step
The best thing to do right now about the whole situation : 9.1.2.3 20. Line 1 talks about returning to my own path, line 2 talks about continuing to have social interactions perhaps, not to cut myself off even if I am disappointed again and line 3 is quite explicit in that it talks about the relationship between the husband and wife falling apart in the cart . I had that line before regarding a realtionship and it turned out to be negative. And 20 is about getting a clear view of the situation, to be descerning.
Thank you so much for reading this
Best wishes
Carole