So I asked Yi "What has prevented me from getting in a relationship in the past?" and I'm a little confused by the answer.
1 is it that I've "tried too hard"? I feel like I've tried various things for sure (including asking out men I liked, or flirting, even
a kiss, as well as more subtle stuff like striking up conversations, asking for help with stuff, doing activities together, whatever), but at those times where dating wasn't on my mind, I wasn't "doing" anything (usually for year or two each time), nothing ever happened either. Right now in a more "active" phase altho that's just going on a few dating apps (no dates set up yet), trying to do interesting activities where I might meet people, just in general approaching more people, being friendly. For sure not overbearing.
2 I think is saying, yeah, there's an obstruction, be present where I'm at, try to enjoy what's enjoyable? The obstruction isn't my fault maybe? Be patient. Um, fine, but 37 years?
6 I don't get at all. I don't feel like I've gotten any benefits of a rain, certainly don't have what I need here, never did. Again be patient seems to be part of the message tho.
Pretty frustrating! I just feel like it's really saying to be patient, but not necessarily answering the question.
Then to change to 39 seems again to say, there's obstacles and obstructions. I can't gather from this whether it's something that's my fault or not, something I had any influence over or can do something about. If it's about trying something new to get by the obstruction, I feel at a total loss- have spent so much time trying to figure this out, trying different things, just not even sure what to do about it.
Can anyone help me to understand this more, or to suggest another question to ask to clarify? I feel like this is a very big reading, I've been pondering it for a few days and it seems understanding this could be a good key for me. TIA!
1 is it that I've "tried too hard"? I feel like I've tried various things for sure (including asking out men I liked, or flirting, even
a kiss, as well as more subtle stuff like striking up conversations, asking for help with stuff, doing activities together, whatever), but at those times where dating wasn't on my mind, I wasn't "doing" anything (usually for year or two each time), nothing ever happened either. Right now in a more "active" phase altho that's just going on a few dating apps (no dates set up yet), trying to do interesting activities where I might meet people, just in general approaching more people, being friendly. For sure not overbearing.
2 I think is saying, yeah, there's an obstruction, be present where I'm at, try to enjoy what's enjoyable? The obstruction isn't my fault maybe? Be patient. Um, fine, but 37 years?
6 I don't get at all. I don't feel like I've gotten any benefits of a rain, certainly don't have what I need here, never did. Again be patient seems to be part of the message tho.
Pretty frustrating! I just feel like it's really saying to be patient, but not necessarily answering the question.
Then to change to 39 seems again to say, there's obstacles and obstructions. I can't gather from this whether it's something that's my fault or not, something I had any influence over or can do something about. If it's about trying something new to get by the obstruction, I feel at a total loss- have spent so much time trying to figure this out, trying different things, just not even sure what to do about it.
Can anyone help me to understand this more, or to suggest another question to ask to clarify? I feel like this is a very big reading, I've been pondering it for a few days and it seems understanding this could be a good key for me. TIA!