Crazy roommate situation...with a friend who is also someone I play in a band with/work at another same company with. Very toxic, crazy-making behavior. Am seriously questioning my sanity at times. It's affecting me when at work etc. Not cool. Quite a few things I had talked to her about but it's like in one ear out the other.
I had planned to move out next month making up a good excuse that didn't imply she was the problem. I figured it was the best way to diffuse the situation as I had to continue working with her. Unfortunately my new roommate flaked and I decided just to stick it out a few more months to pay bills/save $$. Maybe even meet a guy and move in with him eventually. Things had been pretty good for 2-3 weeks.
Then yesterday another roommate in group text basically voiced what I've been feeling- basically rules change around the house all the time, which the toxic roommate will yell at someone for, even tho there is no way they could have known that a rule was even made. (there's another issue of I can't prepare for a significant part of my one job, she will sometimes not show and I've been asked to cover, but she has gotten in my/two other people's faces that no one else is allowed to do x but her, literally, "it's about her") This girl is the bf of the person who owns the house btw, the other two have been friends of his for ~10-15 years. I met them through her. I agreed with the other roommate in the text. She responded with yet again, yeah but, also this thing she goes into about how she is the only one doing work on the house, everyone's ungrateful, she knows the best way to make things nice/efficient. I also got a separate text saying how she feels I keep attacking her over and over (no idea what she is talking about), how she "had my back" in the house moving in, found me the room (her bf was the person who offered it, she never had anything to do with it as far as I knew), also "had my back" in a job (the one where I can't work on what I need to at home, and indirectly causing me to lose gigs when she doesn't want to do a gig, but will do it anyway, but will disappear for large swaths of time during it)
I asked yi about how to proceed with her...got 62.3.4 to 2
It really doesn't look great....basically I need to be super careful and keep a really low profile. My other roommates just advised to call out any poor behavior, but above all be respectful and consistent. Any other advices?
I had planned to move out next month making up a good excuse that didn't imply she was the problem. I figured it was the best way to diffuse the situation as I had to continue working with her. Unfortunately my new roommate flaked and I decided just to stick it out a few more months to pay bills/save $$. Maybe even meet a guy and move in with him eventually. Things had been pretty good for 2-3 weeks.
Then yesterday another roommate in group text basically voiced what I've been feeling- basically rules change around the house all the time, which the toxic roommate will yell at someone for, even tho there is no way they could have known that a rule was even made. (there's another issue of I can't prepare for a significant part of my one job, she will sometimes not show and I've been asked to cover, but she has gotten in my/two other people's faces that no one else is allowed to do x but her, literally, "it's about her") This girl is the bf of the person who owns the house btw, the other two have been friends of his for ~10-15 years. I met them through her. I agreed with the other roommate in the text. She responded with yet again, yeah but, also this thing she goes into about how she is the only one doing work on the house, everyone's ungrateful, she knows the best way to make things nice/efficient. I also got a separate text saying how she feels I keep attacking her over and over (no idea what she is talking about), how she "had my back" in the house moving in, found me the room (her bf was the person who offered it, she never had anything to do with it as far as I knew), also "had my back" in a job (the one where I can't work on what I need to at home, and indirectly causing me to lose gigs when she doesn't want to do a gig, but will do it anyway, but will disappear for large swaths of time during it)
I asked yi about how to proceed with her...got 62.3.4 to 2
It really doesn't look great....basically I need to be super careful and keep a really low profile. My other roommates just advised to call out any poor behavior, but above all be respectful and consistent. Any other advices?