Hi. I'm currently in a post-breakup crisis and been asking different questions regarding this situation. I'd like to share how I see the 63 hexagram in regarding to these questions and maybe to get some feedback.
1) I've just made a decision to give up on trying to repair the relationship with my ex. When asking about what is the most urgent task I'm to work on now, or how to overcome the pain of defeat, a got readings hinting on getting rid of some obstacles, or solving some mistakes of my past. In order to clarify the nature of the obstacle I asked:
-- What is the most serious mistake of my past I have to work on now?
-- 63.3.6 -> 42 (Increase)
2) Since the beginning of the crisis (3 month ago) I got sick on my stomach (even spent some time in a hospital). Lost too much weight since that. And I really have to follow strict diet to maintain my digestive system in a working condition. Up to the moment when I gave up on the relationship it wasn't hard for me to obey the rules of the diet. But once I gave up I cannot stop myself from eating beyond measure. Next questions is:
-- Why do I overeat these days?
-- 63.2.5 -> 11 (Peace)
3) Me and my ex exchange our belongings from time to time. I mean, he returns me my possessions that were kept in his place, and vise versa. It was me who initiated this process, yet every time he brings me another piece of my stuff, it's very painful for me and I cannot take my mind off the each item many days on. So another question was:
-- What's the best way to look at this stuff-passing process?
-- 63.4 -> 49 (Molting, Revolution, reform)
I don't know if there's any sense in comparing answers to different questions, but since I got all of them during the same time period I suppose they could highlight different aspects of the same situation.
Only the #1 and #3 answers I think I can relate to, here are my conclusions:
1)
-- What is the most serious mistake of my past I have to work on now?
-- The sin of being unable to be content with what I've already got. "Enough is as good as a feast." Also of being self-confident and careless supposing that the success is a fixed condition and no further efforts are needed to keep the situation enjoyable. 42 is the reason success turns into chaos.
3)
-- What's the best way to look at this stuff-passing process?
-- I've been trying to shield myself from the clear understanding that me and my ex are over, thus sustaining an illusion that it's not over yet. Yi is suggesting to be cautious and cling to the facts which are not promising. In doing so I would prevent being injured by inevitable disillusioning. Or maybe Revolution is the healthy perspective to look at the process: old era is dying, shedding it's dysfunctional attributes.
As for the #2 question, I'm totally at a loss to understand it.
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P.s. I also have this doubt about general usefulness of "Why do I do that", "What's the reason of", "How to understand that" questions.
We can never verify our readings by the outcome events. Maybe I should ask about the consequences of decisions instead.
1) I've just made a decision to give up on trying to repair the relationship with my ex. When asking about what is the most urgent task I'm to work on now, or how to overcome the pain of defeat, a got readings hinting on getting rid of some obstacles, or solving some mistakes of my past. In order to clarify the nature of the obstacle I asked:
-- What is the most serious mistake of my past I have to work on now?
-- 63.3.6 -> 42 (Increase)
2) Since the beginning of the crisis (3 month ago) I got sick on my stomach (even spent some time in a hospital). Lost too much weight since that. And I really have to follow strict diet to maintain my digestive system in a working condition. Up to the moment when I gave up on the relationship it wasn't hard for me to obey the rules of the diet. But once I gave up I cannot stop myself from eating beyond measure. Next questions is:
-- Why do I overeat these days?
-- 63.2.5 -> 11 (Peace)
3) Me and my ex exchange our belongings from time to time. I mean, he returns me my possessions that were kept in his place, and vise versa. It was me who initiated this process, yet every time he brings me another piece of my stuff, it's very painful for me and I cannot take my mind off the each item many days on. So another question was:
-- What's the best way to look at this stuff-passing process?
-- 63.4 -> 49 (Molting, Revolution, reform)
I don't know if there's any sense in comparing answers to different questions, but since I got all of them during the same time period I suppose they could highlight different aspects of the same situation.
Only the #1 and #3 answers I think I can relate to, here are my conclusions:
1)
-- What is the most serious mistake of my past I have to work on now?
-- The sin of being unable to be content with what I've already got. "Enough is as good as a feast." Also of being self-confident and careless supposing that the success is a fixed condition and no further efforts are needed to keep the situation enjoyable. 42 is the reason success turns into chaos.
3)
-- What's the best way to look at this stuff-passing process?
-- I've been trying to shield myself from the clear understanding that me and my ex are over, thus sustaining an illusion that it's not over yet. Yi is suggesting to be cautious and cling to the facts which are not promising. In doing so I would prevent being injured by inevitable disillusioning. Or maybe Revolution is the healthy perspective to look at the process: old era is dying, shedding it's dysfunctional attributes.
As for the #2 question, I'm totally at a loss to understand it.
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P.s. I also have this doubt about general usefulness of "Why do I do that", "What's the reason of", "How to understand that" questions.
We can never verify our readings by the outcome events. Maybe I should ask about the consequences of decisions instead.
