I am extremely hesitant and a part of me embarrassed for even asking relationship question however a part of me feels so lost and trying to find truth and understand my current situation a bit better.
A year and half ago I saw a text that came through my husbands phone and after many conversations and research on my behalf I found out that my husband was texting other random women. He said its more of an emotional outlet and that nothing physical happened. Through many therapy sessions I was able to better myself
And not be so emotional hurtful and toxic towards him(which he said was the reason why he needed the emotional outlet).
A year and a half passed by and I thought everything was going well; I havent cursed or used any toxic languages and working on myself to listen better and empathized more. Hes always had complaints that Im always on my phone (I have a career that requires my phone usage and I have four younger sisters that I keep in touch with through texting). Of course I tried hard to not be on my phone all the time however he feels that Im always on my phone and fail to pay attention to him or listen to him since he thinks he has to repeat himself multiple times. Just the other day, I saw a Skype number on his phone from another woman. I asked him immediately and he said its nothing. Finally got the truth from him and he said that she added him and somehow they exchanged several messages and she called him however he felt it was wrong and did not continue.
This saddens me that I was lied to again when he promised the first time around not to ever let this happen again. When we spoke about this he blames it back on me and tells me that Im so vacant and makes him feel belittled at times. Im always on my phone and he feels that I dont treat him like hes important. My response was no matter what the situation is, its wrong to lie and speak to other women when we are in a marriage.
I was crushed by this so I tured to the oracle and asked why my husband talks to other women? 50.2.6 to 62
Changing Lines
Line 2
'The vessel contains something real.
My companions are afflicted,
Cannot come near me.
Good fortune.'
Line 6
'The vessel has a jade handle
Great good fortune,
Nothing that does not bear fruit.'
50.6 is saying to be open about everything(Does this refer to me or my husband?)
50.2 is saying anxiety and communication (again is this referring to my anxiety and my lack of communication or his?)
62 is attention to details, again is this letting me know I need to listen more and pay more attention to him? Is he lacking attention from me?
To me this sounds like I need to be more focused on our relationship and really pay attention before it goes down a negative spiral?
Again Im sorry for pounding my relationship on here but I guess this is my outlet so I dont go crazy and overthink things. Thank you for not judging me and helping me through this.
A year and half ago I saw a text that came through my husbands phone and after many conversations and research on my behalf I found out that my husband was texting other random women. He said its more of an emotional outlet and that nothing physical happened. Through many therapy sessions I was able to better myself
And not be so emotional hurtful and toxic towards him(which he said was the reason why he needed the emotional outlet).
A year and a half passed by and I thought everything was going well; I havent cursed or used any toxic languages and working on myself to listen better and empathized more. Hes always had complaints that Im always on my phone (I have a career that requires my phone usage and I have four younger sisters that I keep in touch with through texting). Of course I tried hard to not be on my phone all the time however he feels that Im always on my phone and fail to pay attention to him or listen to him since he thinks he has to repeat himself multiple times. Just the other day, I saw a Skype number on his phone from another woman. I asked him immediately and he said its nothing. Finally got the truth from him and he said that she added him and somehow they exchanged several messages and she called him however he felt it was wrong and did not continue.
This saddens me that I was lied to again when he promised the first time around not to ever let this happen again. When we spoke about this he blames it back on me and tells me that Im so vacant and makes him feel belittled at times. Im always on my phone and he feels that I dont treat him like hes important. My response was no matter what the situation is, its wrong to lie and speak to other women when we are in a marriage.
I was crushed by this so I tured to the oracle and asked why my husband talks to other women? 50.2.6 to 62
Changing Lines
Line 2
'The vessel contains something real.
My companions are afflicted,
Cannot come near me.
Good fortune.'
Line 6
'The vessel has a jade handle
Great good fortune,
Nothing that does not bear fruit.'
50.6 is saying to be open about everything(Does this refer to me or my husband?)
50.2 is saying anxiety and communication (again is this referring to my anxiety and my lack of communication or his?)
62 is attention to details, again is this letting me know I need to listen more and pay more attention to him? Is he lacking attention from me?
To me this sounds like I need to be more focused on our relationship and really pay attention before it goes down a negative spiral?
Again Im sorry for pounding my relationship on here but I guess this is my outlet so I dont go crazy and overthink things. Thank you for not judging me and helping me through this.