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What is keeping us (marriage) together? 12.3.6>31

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Hi all,
My husband and I have been going through a long difficult period. I noticed he started seeming distant several months ago, found out he was texting another woman constantly every day, and we've been going to marriage counseling for several weeks now trying to sort things out. He says he never wants to have sex with me (or anyone) ever again. I still love him dearly and crave physical affection. We do enjoy each other's company, but obviously other aspects are not and have not been going well.
Out of confusion for why we're still both hanging in despite all this, I asked "What is keeping us together?" and got 12.3.6 changing to 31. So the stagnation feels really true--we've been stagnant for years, probably. The sense of shame with 12.3 I'm not sure about, but could be we both feel a duty to one another for one reason or another (he depends on my financially, for instance). Would 31 (attraction) be for both of us? Or is it just mine, and there's no mutual attraction in our future?
In another reading about what to do RIGHT NOW, I received 38.2.3.6 (opposition) to 55 (abundance). Our opposite feelings about physical intimacy have left me feeling like he's my enemy, and I think 38.6 is saying that's a misperception.
Both readings seem favorable in some way, though they start by acknowledging the difficulty we are in now. But I have to admit, favorable outcomes feel so far off! :confused:
Thoughts?
Thanks,
WD

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