I have been frustrated lately, I'm almost 37, never a boyfriend, never sex. Really there are no good answers for this situation that has honestly happened against most probabilities. I've tried many things to meet people and work on myself (tho not changing who I am essentially, just things like working on listening skills, or updating my dress, practicing talking to strangers etc)
Had joined online dating again after taking a couple weeks off (after again frustrations), then had some more dates that were just boring, no connection, or men saying I have issues bc they can tell I have no experience, must be something wrong with me because otherwise "a catch". Most of my online dates have been like this, I never seem to find any type of person that I might be attracted to in real life there tho I assume there must be complimentary dudes there somewhere. Yesterday I got 2 dates who cancelled bc they decided to get serious with someone they were seeing, and then just hearing from remaining single friends in last week or two about how they finally found someone, made me a lil bummed. I still have not had anyone ask me out in real life other than this dude who apparently didn't want a relationship, and then ghosted me/mutual friends earlier this year. That was my closest "relationship" and it consisted of a guy who told me more than once he didn't think he was ready for a relationship, sigh. Well, you live and learn, obviously that was not a good fit. I feel like a big part of the problem is that dudes in real life are never attracted to me for some reason or make any move.
So I asked Yi "Why are men never attracted to me romantically, or make any move to get to know me romantically/physically?" I got 40 UC. My first thought is that maybe this situation is over, it will change and not be the case in the future? Or that somehow I didn't know if people were attracted (they certainly never made a move, and I usually did with guys I liked, they never reciprocated). I guess also releasing this idea that I'm a person dudes aren't attracted to- which I sorta have been, online I got like 30 messages a day the first couple months, tho most were very low quality "heyyyyyy"s. Tho I guess also too it is sorta saying be patient which I'm like, OMG BBQ TURNIP, is 37 years not enough? Jeebus. I really hope it's not just release and accept that men aren't attracted to me. Tho getting to a point where maybe I need to which totally sucks.
Any thoughts? Thanks
Had joined online dating again after taking a couple weeks off (after again frustrations), then had some more dates that were just boring, no connection, or men saying I have issues bc they can tell I have no experience, must be something wrong with me because otherwise "a catch". Most of my online dates have been like this, I never seem to find any type of person that I might be attracted to in real life there tho I assume there must be complimentary dudes there somewhere. Yesterday I got 2 dates who cancelled bc they decided to get serious with someone they were seeing, and then just hearing from remaining single friends in last week or two about how they finally found someone, made me a lil bummed. I still have not had anyone ask me out in real life other than this dude who apparently didn't want a relationship, and then ghosted me/mutual friends earlier this year. That was my closest "relationship" and it consisted of a guy who told me more than once he didn't think he was ready for a relationship, sigh. Well, you live and learn, obviously that was not a good fit. I feel like a big part of the problem is that dudes in real life are never attracted to me for some reason or make any move.
So I asked Yi "Why are men never attracted to me romantically, or make any move to get to know me romantically/physically?" I got 40 UC. My first thought is that maybe this situation is over, it will change and not be the case in the future? Or that somehow I didn't know if people were attracted (they certainly never made a move, and I usually did with guys I liked, they never reciprocated). I guess also releasing this idea that I'm a person dudes aren't attracted to- which I sorta have been, online I got like 30 messages a day the first couple months, tho most were very low quality "heyyyyyy"s. Tho I guess also too it is sorta saying be patient which I'm like, OMG BBQ TURNIP, is 37 years not enough? Jeebus. I really hope it's not just release and accept that men aren't attracted to me. Tho getting to a point where maybe I need to which totally sucks.
Any thoughts? Thanks