Dear all,
I had a few dates with what seemed to be a really nice guy to know. But now I am pretty sure he is running away.. We met by chance: I was having a dinner with some female friends and he was with another male friend for a few drinks. We started to talk all together and at the end of the night he asked for my number.
He lives and works one hour from my city and he was doing a master between my city and a village close by. During the weekend he is always back to his city. Long story short, he is a really busy person (who commutes a lot) and right now I am travelling and working a lot. But we managed to have a few dates. And they were great. We also got physical. We confessed each other we did not expect to have such good time. Actually, he said that first and he said he wanted to keep seeing me..
We keep in touch by text and we do not use social media to communicate (also because I said have issues with privacy, as I have had problems with stalkers on our first date. Therefore, we did not exchange Facebook).
I was off town for 2 weeks and we did not see for 3 weeks, promising to see each other while I was back. Now I am back for about a month and I text him I am back. He keeps asking me about my plans and how my things are going, he talks about his day and such and such but when it is time to set up for a date, he disappeared for hours, texting back keeping asking questions about me. It is like he keeps the conversation open, but does not really want to make another date really happening. He invited me to visit him several times, but before I left for my last travel, he said he was too busy and we needed to wait for when I was back. Also, he wanted to know what I was doing abroad and when I was back (so, I thought he was sincere).
Now I am back. So, yesterday, he asked me what plans I had for this weekend and when I said I did not have any plan and I was "open to suggestions", he disappeared again for hours, texting back after saying what he was doing, without inviting me. Then again asking me about my trip and talking about the weather, sending kisses.. I was really disappointed, not because "he has a life", but because he left me wait for an answer he could give me shortly and directly. It was like 8pm (not sleeping time). But I text back "it sounds like a good plan. Have fun darling. Good night." I did not reply to his other questions. And I thought it's enough for me. His response was short and quick (I think pretending to don't understand I could be upset): "night night! :) x"
He is not my boyfriend and it is too early to talk about relationship. But I think this is the usual scenario for a lot of women. He gets scared of commitment and he runs away. And doesn't have the guts to tell you. What confuse me it's the fact that he keeps the conversation open. He doesn't just reply to my texts, but he also keeps asking about me and what I am doing etc etc and I am not always the first to text.
So, I think I am stopping to text or reply, because it is becoming a stressful situation and it is a game I don't really enjoy to play. Unless he changes his behaviour. And I am wondering "What he is going to do from now"? I asked the same question to the I Ching and the answer is 45.3.6 to 33
This cast seems to be a picture of me, rather than tells me what I can aspect from him. I tried to get closer (45), I exposed myself upsetting myself (45.3), I am going to stop any contact to him because it is time to be strong and I know that is the only way to see if he wants to really know me (45.6); therefore I do a step backwards because, apparently, it is not the right time for this (33).
Any chance it is referring to him? And what it means? The question was just about his behaviour towards me. My decision is taken (it is a really intense time of my life and I need someone that at least make a little effort to know me and who lets me do the same with him with serenity).
Please, put some light on it. If the cast is just about me, the I ching doesn't want to give me his opinion .. Or it just approved my attitude towards this situation (?): like "you don't have anything else to do about it. Just wish for the best, but later on"
But if it is about him, what it says? I judged him too quickly, he is just insecure and my silence is going to make him even more insecure? .. I don't really see it realistic.. Or maybe because 45 and 33 are anthitetical, it just confirms me he is stuck, anable to take a decision about us right now? But still, the question was about his actions, not his feelings (feelings change every minutes in these kind of situations).
Any thoughts about this cast, please?
Thanks anyway and all the best to all.
I had a few dates with what seemed to be a really nice guy to know. But now I am pretty sure he is running away.. We met by chance: I was having a dinner with some female friends and he was with another male friend for a few drinks. We started to talk all together and at the end of the night he asked for my number.
He lives and works one hour from my city and he was doing a master between my city and a village close by. During the weekend he is always back to his city. Long story short, he is a really busy person (who commutes a lot) and right now I am travelling and working a lot. But we managed to have a few dates. And they were great. We also got physical. We confessed each other we did not expect to have such good time. Actually, he said that first and he said he wanted to keep seeing me..
We keep in touch by text and we do not use social media to communicate (also because I said have issues with privacy, as I have had problems with stalkers on our first date. Therefore, we did not exchange Facebook).
I was off town for 2 weeks and we did not see for 3 weeks, promising to see each other while I was back. Now I am back for about a month and I text him I am back. He keeps asking me about my plans and how my things are going, he talks about his day and such and such but when it is time to set up for a date, he disappeared for hours, texting back keeping asking questions about me. It is like he keeps the conversation open, but does not really want to make another date really happening. He invited me to visit him several times, but before I left for my last travel, he said he was too busy and we needed to wait for when I was back. Also, he wanted to know what I was doing abroad and when I was back (so, I thought he was sincere).
Now I am back. So, yesterday, he asked me what plans I had for this weekend and when I said I did not have any plan and I was "open to suggestions", he disappeared again for hours, texting back after saying what he was doing, without inviting me. Then again asking me about my trip and talking about the weather, sending kisses.. I was really disappointed, not because "he has a life", but because he left me wait for an answer he could give me shortly and directly. It was like 8pm (not sleeping time). But I text back "it sounds like a good plan. Have fun darling. Good night." I did not reply to his other questions. And I thought it's enough for me. His response was short and quick (I think pretending to don't understand I could be upset): "night night! :) x"
He is not my boyfriend and it is too early to talk about relationship. But I think this is the usual scenario for a lot of women. He gets scared of commitment and he runs away. And doesn't have the guts to tell you. What confuse me it's the fact that he keeps the conversation open. He doesn't just reply to my texts, but he also keeps asking about me and what I am doing etc etc and I am not always the first to text.
So, I think I am stopping to text or reply, because it is becoming a stressful situation and it is a game I don't really enjoy to play. Unless he changes his behaviour. And I am wondering "What he is going to do from now"? I asked the same question to the I Ching and the answer is 45.3.6 to 33
This cast seems to be a picture of me, rather than tells me what I can aspect from him. I tried to get closer (45), I exposed myself upsetting myself (45.3), I am going to stop any contact to him because it is time to be strong and I know that is the only way to see if he wants to really know me (45.6); therefore I do a step backwards because, apparently, it is not the right time for this (33).
Any chance it is referring to him? And what it means? The question was just about his behaviour towards me. My decision is taken (it is a really intense time of my life and I need someone that at least make a little effort to know me and who lets me do the same with him with serenity).
Please, put some light on it. If the cast is just about me, the I ching doesn't want to give me his opinion .. Or it just approved my attitude towards this situation (?): like "you don't have anything else to do about it. Just wish for the best, but later on"
But if it is about him, what it says? I judged him too quickly, he is just insecure and my silence is going to make him even more insecure? .. I don't really see it realistic.. Or maybe because 45 and 33 are anthitetical, it just confirms me he is stuck, anable to take a decision about us right now? But still, the question was about his actions, not his feelings (feelings change every minutes in these kind of situations).
Any thoughts about this cast, please?
Thanks anyway and all the best to all.