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Was I right to act as I did? 14.5

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Hello All, I am new to this forum. I have been learning so much from reading other’s shared readings and I keep wondering when I will feel compelled to join in with something. Seems like the time is now, so here goes....I have a friend who I have been fairly close with for about a year. I am a woman and he is a male. To me it has always been a friendship and nothing more, and I have been very straightforward about not wanting a relationship with him, and sometimes had to be more blunt than I felt was necessary. With him, he did want something more and was not shy about expressing it (verbally only). Since we have much in common we would talk fairly frequently and share experiences in the spiritual and psychic realms, and about things in our life, and also work on various projects together. I thought that once I was clear with him that he would get over wishing for “something more,” and he would insist that he was ok with everything, and didn’t feel rejected. But I don’t think he was being entirely honest, really, just once in a while I would encounter that he was still holding out hope. I told him that it made me uncomfortable, but that is not what made me very suddenly “draw the line” and basically tell him that I was withdrawing and did not want to be friends with him any longer, though I did list this as one of the main reasons, that I was tired of feeling uncomfortable about this, along with other things. It was of a bunch of small things that he did which really weren’t so bad, but taken all together just rubbed me the wrong way. He has been a good and loyal friend and I respect his integrity. But there is a nagging part of me that does not, but I have no proof really. I dont know if the pressure of being on one end of “unrequited love” was just too uncomfortable for me, and I conflagrated it onto these other things, but in the end I made my mind up to cut him out of my life, at least not to be the kind of close friends who talk and see each other frequently as before. In the meantime that we haven’t been talking, for several weeks except for when we had to text eachother some logistical things, like about a drawing I did for the cover of his literary journal, or practical matters that needed communicating about. So recently he says “I should tell you that I am dating somebody new”...I wrote back that I was happy for him. It’s interesting because I had often expressed that to him, why don’t you ask your co worker who seems to like you out, or someone else, thinking it would be easier for me if he had someone to fill that role. So, here he was saying that he was dating and I texted point blank, I still do not want to be friends with you. I felt (slightly)bad or mean. in the first place like it was maybe overkill, and then another tiny bit bad in the second place when he delivered the news, because he had apperantly poked a giant hole in one of my reasons for absconding- that I felt uncomfortable with his “inappropriate” feelings. But I still wanted to “stick to my guns”...it is kind of mysterious to me I just feel I should follow it. But I have been known to make wrong decision before. (Many, many of them). Even though I don’t feel I should my mind so much, I thought I would ask the Yi...my exact question was “was I right to do what I did towards him?”The answer 14 line 5 “Your truth interacts, strikes awe, good fortune”To hexagram 1 the creative.So I suppose I can take that as a “yes?”I don’t think I struck any “awe” in him, I know that not every word is supposed to be applied so literally, but who is supposed to be having this “awe?”Does this reading seem to give validity to the undercurrent of discomfort and vague distrust I have about him, that I can’t really put my finger on? Or does it only mean that for whatever reasons, it is correct for our friendship to end, at least for now.Or is there another aspect of this that I am missing maybe?

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