I have a brother who moved in with my mom 7-8 years ago for financial reasons. Not long after, he lost his job as MD of a company under strange circumstances. My sisters and I did not interfere with this much because my mother is very capable to managing herself. My brother, now (55) goes to Tailand 4-5 times per year for 2-3 weeks to visit a 25 year old girlfriend. We were wondering how he can afford it.
We lead busy lives, but saw my mom once or twice a week for and hour or 2. She has a family history of dementia and for the past 3-4 years we noticed a decline. When we raise it with my brother, he tells us its not that bad, she's just putting it on for show, etc. Then in 2017 she fell and 4 days later my sister found her (with my brother in the house) and took her to a hospital. There we were told that she is frail, at risk of all and a stroke and should not be left unattended at all.
From this point, things went south. My brother insisted on taking her home and then started preventing us from spending time with my mother. He took her ID and bank cards and PIN and "started looking after her". My mom was always frugal, but now we see expensive prepared meals in the house. Money is transferred from her account. We could not accurately establish what is happening to my mom, but a few incidents raised our concerns hugely. He went to Tailand, but instead of leaving her on her own, he put a complete stranger in the house with her. I found them both in a mess and took my mother away. Then on my birthday, my mom was in my house when she received notification of 3 cash withdrawals - R1000 from each bank account.
Long story.... We kidnapped her for an MRI. It showed my mom has severe dementia and altzheimers, (12/30) I obtained a protection order to move my brother out of my mother's house because we believe now that he has been abusing her lack of memory to his own advantage. He refuses to leave her house and is avoiding the delivery of the protection order.
I asked I Ching : What do I have to know about him and got 22.1.2.3.5.6 to 29.
For the first time in a very long while, I am stumped by IChing. I have absolutely no idea even to start interpreting this. There is a part that resonates is "cover-up". Would that be what he did, or his bravado? Please help me figure this out. :duh: It is a horrible place for me to be. :eek:
We lead busy lives, but saw my mom once or twice a week for and hour or 2. She has a family history of dementia and for the past 3-4 years we noticed a decline. When we raise it with my brother, he tells us its not that bad, she's just putting it on for show, etc. Then in 2017 she fell and 4 days later my sister found her (with my brother in the house) and took her to a hospital. There we were told that she is frail, at risk of all and a stroke and should not be left unattended at all.
From this point, things went south. My brother insisted on taking her home and then started preventing us from spending time with my mother. He took her ID and bank cards and PIN and "started looking after her". My mom was always frugal, but now we see expensive prepared meals in the house. Money is transferred from her account. We could not accurately establish what is happening to my mom, but a few incidents raised our concerns hugely. He went to Tailand, but instead of leaving her on her own, he put a complete stranger in the house with her. I found them both in a mess and took my mother away. Then on my birthday, my mom was in my house when she received notification of 3 cash withdrawals - R1000 from each bank account.
Long story.... We kidnapped her for an MRI. It showed my mom has severe dementia and altzheimers, (12/30) I obtained a protection order to move my brother out of my mother's house because we believe now that he has been abusing her lack of memory to his own advantage. He refuses to leave her house and is avoiding the delivery of the protection order.
I asked I Ching : What do I have to know about him and got 22.1.2.3.5.6 to 29.
For the first time in a very long while, I am stumped by IChing. I have absolutely no idea even to start interpreting this. There is a part that resonates is "cover-up". Would that be what he did, or his bravado? Please help me figure this out. :duh: It is a horrible place for me to be. :eek: