I am pregnant and due in July. The father is my long term ex-boyfriend who broke up with me when I told him I was pregnant. We have spoken maybe twice since the break up through text/email. He accuses me of getting pregnant on purpose, which is completely ludicrous on several accounts. I am 41 (as is he), I'm trying to finish grad school, I found out I was pregnant a week before I was to have a tubal litigation, our relationship was really in the toilet at this point and I was absolutely ready to be done with him anyway, so I certainly didn't try to salvage the relationship with a child. He doesn't have any money, in fact he owes me thousands, so there is really nothing to gain by having a baby with this man-child. I could not, however, have an abortion. I did not consult him on the matter, I simply told him that I was not going to have one. Not that I have anything against them, I just chose not to. I am financially and mentally stable enough to support this child and my daughter, so it really doesn't matter what he wanted anyway.
It was hard in the beginning to come to terms with the fact that we are absolutely completely over, as I can never, ever be with him again after this. I am at the end of my sorrow, because I have slowly but surely analyzed the things that have really cut deep and dealt with them. Yi has helped me a lot with this. So have friends and family, of course, and I appreciate their efforts and listening to help me process all of this.
During one of the aforementioned conversations, he repeatedly told me he hated me. He never really made it clear if he hated me because I supposedly got pregnant on purpose or I didn't have an abortion. He just kept saying that I lied and manipulated him and that he hates me and day by day his hate for me grows. This is one of the things that I keep getting hung up on. It seems so simple but I just can't understand. So my query was, "Help me understand why he said that he hated me," and the answer was 9.5>26. I can't understand this answer at all. I was going to contemplate this for the day, but I wanted to throw this out there to see if anyone had any insights in the interim. Thank you in advance for your thoughts.
It was hard in the beginning to come to terms with the fact that we are absolutely completely over, as I can never, ever be with him again after this. I am at the end of my sorrow, because I have slowly but surely analyzed the things that have really cut deep and dealt with them. Yi has helped me a lot with this. So have friends and family, of course, and I appreciate their efforts and listening to help me process all of this.
During one of the aforementioned conversations, he repeatedly told me he hated me. He never really made it clear if he hated me because I supposedly got pregnant on purpose or I didn't have an abortion. He just kept saying that I lied and manipulated him and that he hates me and day by day his hate for me grows. This is one of the things that I keep getting hung up on. It seems so simple but I just can't understand. So my query was, "Help me understand why he said that he hated me," and the answer was 9.5>26. I can't understand this answer at all. I was going to contemplate this for the day, but I wanted to throw this out there to see if anyone had any insights in the interim. Thank you in advance for your thoughts.