Hi all, looking for a bit of help understanding Hexagram 5
I've posted about my relationship with this man before so I won't bore you all with the details.
Long story short; we rekindled our relationship about a year & a half ago when he moved back to Europe. We were living in different countries but decided to try the long distance thing with plans to relocate together. He suffers from depression & possibly something else (undiagnosed as far as I know) so lashes out at whoever is closest to him.
He seemed to had gotten control of it over the years he was living away, but slowly over the course of time we were seeing each other again he started to unravel again, with me being on the receiving end.
The last time we spoke was 7mths ago & that started as a simple phone conversation but he was in a down phase so he started spiralling out of control, saying really horrible stuff to me. I hung up & he blocked me instantly....& while I was very hurt & upset, I was relieved he had blocked me as I was released from being on the receiving end of his mood swings.
So I woke up this morning to an email from him...well not an email as such, a reply to a funny email I had sent to him years ago about a show we watched, which I thought was odd. Odder still he chatted as if nothing had happened & added that the show always reminded him of me & that he had wanted to say hello for a long time.
Now I know this is his sheepish way of testing the water to see if I'll still speak to him ....but what really, really irked me was there was no apology, no admittance of his horrible behaviour, nothing!
There is nothing more infuriating to me then people who do not take responsibility for their actions & words. I have time for those that admit to their wrong doings & try to rectify whatever it is they have done.....but those that try to coast on through - sorry nope!
On the other hand I know he can go to very dark places in his mind & I wouldn't want to ignore it if he was genuinely reaching out for help.
BUT I don't think I can communicate with him without an apology & an acknowledgement of his behaviour.
So I asked: How should I respond to his email? - Hex 5 Unchaging
I'm not sure if Hex 5 is telling me wait, do nothing, don't reply & I will get an apology.
Or is it saying I need to wait & be patient with him?
I've posted about my relationship with this man before so I won't bore you all with the details.
Long story short; we rekindled our relationship about a year & a half ago when he moved back to Europe. We were living in different countries but decided to try the long distance thing with plans to relocate together. He suffers from depression & possibly something else (undiagnosed as far as I know) so lashes out at whoever is closest to him.
He seemed to had gotten control of it over the years he was living away, but slowly over the course of time we were seeing each other again he started to unravel again, with me being on the receiving end.
The last time we spoke was 7mths ago & that started as a simple phone conversation but he was in a down phase so he started spiralling out of control, saying really horrible stuff to me. I hung up & he blocked me instantly....& while I was very hurt & upset, I was relieved he had blocked me as I was released from being on the receiving end of his mood swings.
So I woke up this morning to an email from him...well not an email as such, a reply to a funny email I had sent to him years ago about a show we watched, which I thought was odd. Odder still he chatted as if nothing had happened & added that the show always reminded him of me & that he had wanted to say hello for a long time.
Now I know this is his sheepish way of testing the water to see if I'll still speak to him ....but what really, really irked me was there was no apology, no admittance of his horrible behaviour, nothing!
There is nothing more infuriating to me then people who do not take responsibility for their actions & words. I have time for those that admit to their wrong doings & try to rectify whatever it is they have done.....but those that try to coast on through - sorry nope!
On the other hand I know he can go to very dark places in his mind & I wouldn't want to ignore it if he was genuinely reaching out for help.
BUT I don't think I can communicate with him without an apology & an acknowledgement of his behaviour.
So I asked: How should I respond to his email? - Hex 5 Unchaging
I'm not sure if Hex 5 is telling me wait, do nothing, don't reply & I will get an apology.
Or is it saying I need to wait & be patient with him?