Hello! I'm quite new to this and this is my first post. I have spent some time the last few days on this forum so i decided to share my story. 2-3 weeks ago my girlfriend from 3.5 years told me she needed a break to figure some things out because she was not feeling happy in this relationship anymore. Same goes for me because i felt something was wrong and in the last month she acted cold and distant. If i go in lenght this will be a very long post but to sum it up we had great relationship. No fighting, 100% trust between us and we were best friends. The thing is her asking me to give her a break smacked me out of the blue. I did not expect that to happen. I couldnt think straight so i acted very clingy, desperate, insecure. That was the first time in my life I act like this as I'm very calm and clear headed. One of the problems were that I did not gave her enought attention and commitment. She was expecting for us to be living together and moving on with the relationship. Normal thing for 2 people who love each other and are together for such a long time. I was not ready for that. I knew i wanted to spend my life with her but i was not yet ready to live together with her.(she doesnt have a job and I had to leave mine to take care of relative few months ago). Last week 07.03.2018 she again asked me to give her time and space and that we need to break up now and maybe someday we will find ourselves back together. I was really hard for and i acted clingy told her ill give her the time but its not over for me and i expect her to think about it and we will talk again in a week or so. I asked I ching when i got home what to do now. 07.03. Hex 30 The clinging (I did not write my question down nor did I knew for changing lines at the time)I understood is as to give her the space she needs and cut all contact.10.03 I was stupid enought to check her social media profile and saw her going to some event which for some reason fired me up and couldnt sleep. Hex 52 - Keeping still. (As i recall there were some changing lines but again didnt know i had to write them).After thorougly examining 52 i decided the best thing is just to keep the contact off and give her space while improving myself in some way and reflecting on what went wrong. Today I asked the question : What will happen to me untill the end of the week? To which i received 7.2.6>23. It felt bad. Then i realized that my question was not correct as I'm having very important exam after 2 days and while asking the question I was thinking about it more than her. So I asked again: Will i get back together with M untill the end of March. I got 16.4>2 which was a relief. I know I should not ask yes/no questions but couldnt think of another way at the time.As my life was a mess in the last 6 months after some reflection in the last few days I'm actually greateful to her that she broke up with me. I needed that push as the exam in 2 days ive been postponing for 2 years and I also managed to find a job starting next month. (Have not even looked for job since i quit my last.) My plan was to give her a week or so and when i get my exam to call her and tell her about it as she would be very happy to hear it. Also she will be extremely happy to hear i managed to get a job as she was pushing me for some time to look for one. At first I thought i was just addicted to her and I did not really love her and I will be able to move on. I did actually moved on. The thing is after some meditation and self reflection i realized i want to spend my life with her and have family. This is the clear headed me, not the clingy and miserable ready to say everything to get her back me. So my question about 16.4>2 is what should I do? My written question was untill the end of the month but really in my mind its a few days time to contact her. What should my next question be and when as i felt kinda bad after rushing 2 questions today. Also do you think there is any chance to get her back or just leave her alone as she asked for.
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