Hi all,
I rarely come here with a reading that I have not the slightest inkling how to interpret, but here I am with two (and yes, I asked nearly the same question twice, which is a no-no, but here we are).
My baby struggles with daytime naps. She's great at bedtime and nighttime sleeping, but fights every daytime nap and worse, without fail wakes from them after only 15-30 minutes, which is too short to get the deep, restful sleep she needs. By the end of the day, she's very cranky. It's clear her crankiness is connected to the lack of naps, because on the rare occasions when she does get a solid 1.5-2 hour nap she's a ray of sunshine right up to bedtime. So far the only way we can get those long naps to happen is if someone walks continuously with her in their carrier (which is hard to keep up as she gets bigger) or conditions align perfectly and she's in the stroller (but the weather has been too windy and frigid here to do that regularly). We've tried lots of tricks, nothing has worked. Apparently I was this kind of baby too and stopped napping all together by age 2, so maybe it's genetic.
In the meantime I turn to Yi. And am very puzzled by the responses.
How can I help her nap?
13.2.6 -> 43
Something about groups, cliques, people being on the inside vs. outside? Aligning with people who you don't feel kinship with? Her doctor is very big on sleep training (the cry it out method, where you just leave the baby in the crib and walk away until she screams herself to sleep, over and over), and we find this horrifying. We've considered switching doctors over this but otherwise the doctor is basically fine (though there are other things we don't like about the practice as a whole) and we haven't. My husband and I are on the same page about how we feel about sleep training, we don't like it.
And again a few days later:
How can i help her nap for longer, more replenishing periods?
8.3-> 39
Once again the suggestion that group dynamics are off somehow (aligning with the wrong people again). Unless Yi is cryptically saying that children can't really be changed (which I don't believe, I think everyone is a product of their environment), and I'm seeking the wrong thing? Is this a comment that my ideas about sleep training are actually off, and we should try it? Or that we should find a different doctor who is more philosophically aligned with us? At this point in her appointments, when asked about her sleep, we play down the nap issues because her doctor is so judgmental and pushy about trying sleep training. The doctor supports no other methods.
I don't know! I'm so confused by this reading.
Anyone? :brickwall:
I rarely come here with a reading that I have not the slightest inkling how to interpret, but here I am with two (and yes, I asked nearly the same question twice, which is a no-no, but here we are).
My baby struggles with daytime naps. She's great at bedtime and nighttime sleeping, but fights every daytime nap and worse, without fail wakes from them after only 15-30 minutes, which is too short to get the deep, restful sleep she needs. By the end of the day, she's very cranky. It's clear her crankiness is connected to the lack of naps, because on the rare occasions when she does get a solid 1.5-2 hour nap she's a ray of sunshine right up to bedtime. So far the only way we can get those long naps to happen is if someone walks continuously with her in their carrier (which is hard to keep up as she gets bigger) or conditions align perfectly and she's in the stroller (but the weather has been too windy and frigid here to do that regularly). We've tried lots of tricks, nothing has worked. Apparently I was this kind of baby too and stopped napping all together by age 2, so maybe it's genetic.
In the meantime I turn to Yi. And am very puzzled by the responses.
How can I help her nap?
13.2.6 -> 43
Something about groups, cliques, people being on the inside vs. outside? Aligning with people who you don't feel kinship with? Her doctor is very big on sleep training (the cry it out method, where you just leave the baby in the crib and walk away until she screams herself to sleep, over and over), and we find this horrifying. We've considered switching doctors over this but otherwise the doctor is basically fine (though there are other things we don't like about the practice as a whole) and we haven't. My husband and I are on the same page about how we feel about sleep training, we don't like it.
And again a few days later:
How can i help her nap for longer, more replenishing periods?
8.3-> 39
Once again the suggestion that group dynamics are off somehow (aligning with the wrong people again). Unless Yi is cryptically saying that children can't really be changed (which I don't believe, I think everyone is a product of their environment), and I'm seeking the wrong thing? Is this a comment that my ideas about sleep training are actually off, and we should try it? Or that we should find a different doctor who is more philosophically aligned with us? At this point in her appointments, when asked about her sleep, we play down the nap issues because her doctor is so judgmental and pushy about trying sleep training. The doctor supports no other methods.
I don't know! I'm so confused by this reading.
Anyone? :brickwall:
