hi, I understand I'm just one of those people who lurk a lot on here but never really contribute to the site - mainly cause I'm an eternal i-ching noob - but it would be nice and I'd be grateful if someone could help me out with this one reading.
my question was: should I really keep trying to find a band locally? or better put it aside and focus on moving out?
the answer: 64.2.6 - 16
a bit of background: I posted a music-related question already a while ago, and the outcome was something like 'if you really wanna do that, just do that'. well. fast forward one year or so, I finally found some people to play with. thing is, in 3 months of activity I still feel like we've accomplished nothing, as they don't seem very driven nor show any signs of willingness to progress (we haven't been able to finish one single song in all this time, not to mention our jams are becoming more and more sparse as time passes by). in a word, I feel like we're going nowhere and they just wanna play to 'kill time'. they even admitted they don't consider themselves 'a band', and more often than not the drummer doesn't even show up. of course I've tried anything to push things forward, with no luck. after more than 2 weeks of inactivity, another band contacts me and asks me to join, but in all honesty that doesn't seem to be an ideal situation either: they're much older than me (and I'm well past my 30s..), with many family/work ties and little time, they stated they play 'as a hobby' and they've been mainly doing covers so far - you know, that kind of 'sunday band'. we're trying to arrange a first jam but they're quite far from where I live and ah jeez I feel like givin up already. I've got absolutely nothing against all that, but it doesn't seem to be the type of situation where one could think about making music a tad more 'seriously', with long-term projects. I've been in bands before, and despite lots of things we managed to pull together entire albums in a couple of months, or at least we jammed once or twice a week regularly. since I've moved back here in my hometown, I've just felt like a huge barrier has been put between me and this whole making-music-affair. I struggle to find the right people, and when I do find someone, they've got this self-defeating/depressing/resigned attitude which has always belonged to this town as I remembered it from when I was a teenager - and it's probably slowly getting at me. I'm just fighting everyday not to let it in, but to be fairly honest I've never liked it here. I 'had' to move back as a consequence of many events - altho I was somewhat tired of the previous place as well, which I tolerated only thanks to the music we were making. but I can't see here the same enthusiasm I shared with other band members. conclusion, I've been seriously thinking about moving abroad lately, for a variety of reasons. and by 'lately' I mean a couple of years, even if that's always been in the back of my mind.
now, I'm not sure if the reading is saying that my 'wheels' are 'dragged back' for a reason, so that if I apply 'constancy' to my search and if I can endure all this, in the end there will be 'good fortune'.. just 'drinking wine', having fun and 'losing grip' on my goals will ease the situation?
to try and get a more specific answer, I also asked:
Q. what if I keep searching locally?
A. 42.6 to 3
(which is quite obviously daunting)
and:
Q. what if I just forget about it and focus on moving?
A. 39.6 to 53
now I'm confused.
'Going on, limping; coming back, mastery. Good fortune. Fruitful to see a great person.'
going on in this helpless research would be hampering me? or what? about the 'great person' it would be fruitful to see.. maybe it's a hint at seeing this new older & hopefully wiser people at least once for measure? I don't personally know anyone who could have been through something similar, I wouldn't even know whom to ask for this kind of advice in general to be honest.. I guess that's why I'm asking here.
my question was: should I really keep trying to find a band locally? or better put it aside and focus on moving out?
the answer: 64.2.6 - 16
a bit of background: I posted a music-related question already a while ago, and the outcome was something like 'if you really wanna do that, just do that'. well. fast forward one year or so, I finally found some people to play with. thing is, in 3 months of activity I still feel like we've accomplished nothing, as they don't seem very driven nor show any signs of willingness to progress (we haven't been able to finish one single song in all this time, not to mention our jams are becoming more and more sparse as time passes by). in a word, I feel like we're going nowhere and they just wanna play to 'kill time'. they even admitted they don't consider themselves 'a band', and more often than not the drummer doesn't even show up. of course I've tried anything to push things forward, with no luck. after more than 2 weeks of inactivity, another band contacts me and asks me to join, but in all honesty that doesn't seem to be an ideal situation either: they're much older than me (and I'm well past my 30s..), with many family/work ties and little time, they stated they play 'as a hobby' and they've been mainly doing covers so far - you know, that kind of 'sunday band'. we're trying to arrange a first jam but they're quite far from where I live and ah jeez I feel like givin up already. I've got absolutely nothing against all that, but it doesn't seem to be the type of situation where one could think about making music a tad more 'seriously', with long-term projects. I've been in bands before, and despite lots of things we managed to pull together entire albums in a couple of months, or at least we jammed once or twice a week regularly. since I've moved back here in my hometown, I've just felt like a huge barrier has been put between me and this whole making-music-affair. I struggle to find the right people, and when I do find someone, they've got this self-defeating/depressing/resigned attitude which has always belonged to this town as I remembered it from when I was a teenager - and it's probably slowly getting at me. I'm just fighting everyday not to let it in, but to be fairly honest I've never liked it here. I 'had' to move back as a consequence of many events - altho I was somewhat tired of the previous place as well, which I tolerated only thanks to the music we were making. but I can't see here the same enthusiasm I shared with other band members. conclusion, I've been seriously thinking about moving abroad lately, for a variety of reasons. and by 'lately' I mean a couple of years, even if that's always been in the back of my mind.
now, I'm not sure if the reading is saying that my 'wheels' are 'dragged back' for a reason, so that if I apply 'constancy' to my search and if I can endure all this, in the end there will be 'good fortune'.. just 'drinking wine', having fun and 'losing grip' on my goals will ease the situation?
to try and get a more specific answer, I also asked:
Q. what if I keep searching locally?
A. 42.6 to 3
(which is quite obviously daunting)
and:
Q. what if I just forget about it and focus on moving?
A. 39.6 to 53
now I'm confused.
'Going on, limping; coming back, mastery. Good fortune. Fruitful to see a great person.'
going on in this helpless research would be hampering me? or what? about the 'great person' it would be fruitful to see.. maybe it's a hint at seeing this new older & hopefully wiser people at least once for measure? I don't personally know anyone who could have been through something similar, I wouldn't even know whom to ask for this kind of advice in general to be honest.. I guess that's why I'm asking here.