Hi everyone,
I'm new on this forum and I've been interested and using the I Ching on and off for about a year now. Only recently I was drawn back to it because I feel the need for some guidance. My first questions were about a relationship situation I'm in currently.
Long story short - I'm madly in love with the partner of a good friend, and he answers my feelings. It's a situation neither of us want to be in but we feel drawn to each other in some irresistible electric way. He's not altogether happy with his partner, even before the feelings grew between us he had been doubting his relationship for quite a while. But neither of them are great decision-makers so this has been simmering for a long time. I find myself hoping their relationship will come to an end, even though I really dislike myself for it. The last time I saw him, he told me that he does not see a future for us together, even if he were to split up with his partner. Needless to say, I was heartbroken to hear this and am grieving for what probably will never be. We decided to not see each other for the month of October, to let things settle a bit. I'll likely see him this weekend, there is an event we are both attending. I can't help but still cherishing some hope that he will change his mind, that things will be different sooner or later. I simply can't let him go because I'm too confused.
So, I asked I Ching some questions:
- What can you tell me about the situation between me & R?
5 1.2.4 (Waiting) > 31 (Influence)
This was a total Aha-moment and a confirmation for me that it's not completely bonkers to use a method like I Ching ;). Waiting / having patience is exactly the situation I'm in, I feel like I need to have endless patience for the issue to move on. Hexagram Influence mentions the mutual attraction. Well, this is certainly true. I can't seem to find any advice in this reading, just a statement of how things are at the moment.
- How should I go about re-establishing the contact between us after this period of silence?
36.5 (Brightness hiding) > 63 (After completion)
Does this tell me simply to extend our distance a bit longer, until the situation is more favorable? What exactly is the relationship between the primary and relating hexagrams, does the latter point to the future?
And finally;
- What is the potential in the relationship between me & R?
35.5 (Advancing) > 12 (Blocked)
This seems to be quite positive and then very negative. I don't know what to make of it.
I'm using the Wilhelm translation, which I find is quite dense and sometimes hard to grasp. Therefore I'm a bit lost reading and interpreting what I find.
What are your thoughts on the above readings? Any insights greatly appreciated, thank you!
I'm new on this forum and I've been interested and using the I Ching on and off for about a year now. Only recently I was drawn back to it because I feel the need for some guidance. My first questions were about a relationship situation I'm in currently.
Long story short - I'm madly in love with the partner of a good friend, and he answers my feelings. It's a situation neither of us want to be in but we feel drawn to each other in some irresistible electric way. He's not altogether happy with his partner, even before the feelings grew between us he had been doubting his relationship for quite a while. But neither of them are great decision-makers so this has been simmering for a long time. I find myself hoping their relationship will come to an end, even though I really dislike myself for it. The last time I saw him, he told me that he does not see a future for us together, even if he were to split up with his partner. Needless to say, I was heartbroken to hear this and am grieving for what probably will never be. We decided to not see each other for the month of October, to let things settle a bit. I'll likely see him this weekend, there is an event we are both attending. I can't help but still cherishing some hope that he will change his mind, that things will be different sooner or later. I simply can't let him go because I'm too confused.
So, I asked I Ching some questions:
- What can you tell me about the situation between me & R?
5 1.2.4 (Waiting) > 31 (Influence)
This was a total Aha-moment and a confirmation for me that it's not completely bonkers to use a method like I Ching ;). Waiting / having patience is exactly the situation I'm in, I feel like I need to have endless patience for the issue to move on. Hexagram Influence mentions the mutual attraction. Well, this is certainly true. I can't seem to find any advice in this reading, just a statement of how things are at the moment.
- How should I go about re-establishing the contact between us after this period of silence?
36.5 (Brightness hiding) > 63 (After completion)
Does this tell me simply to extend our distance a bit longer, until the situation is more favorable? What exactly is the relationship between the primary and relating hexagrams, does the latter point to the future?
And finally;
- What is the potential in the relationship between me & R?
35.5 (Advancing) > 12 (Blocked)
This seems to be quite positive and then very negative. I don't know what to make of it.
I'm using the Wilhelm translation, which I find is quite dense and sometimes hard to grasp. Therefore I'm a bit lost reading and interpreting what I find.
What are your thoughts on the above readings? Any insights greatly appreciated, thank you!