How will I know when it's the right time to leave him? 51 uc. I've been unhappy in this marriage for about 7 years. The hard part is, he's a really nice guy, we don't fight(which is actually part of the problem), he takes care of all the practical, mundane things around the house. Basically, we're good at being roommates and running a household together. But, over the years as I've grown and changed, he's stayed exactly the same. Also, there's a lack of intimacy that is really painful for me-it doesn't bother him because I don't think he's ever really experienced intimacy so he doesn't know what's missing. He lives life on a very superficial basis and I'm quite the opposite. But, it's hard to leave since it is so comfortable and I really don't want to hurt him. I love him as a family member, but not as a lover. I've been hoping to discover a win/win solution and maybe I still will, but part of me thinks I should go sooner rather than later so he can start the process of recovery. Anyway, it sounds from this reading that maybe it will have to be a major event that forces me into leaving. Ideas?
Thank you!
Thank you!