Hi everyone,
I would really appreciate a detached view of these two readings, or either one, or anything at all, really.
As succinctly as I can, over the last six months or so I've developed a deeply lovely friendship with a man at work, both a fair bit younger than me, and who lives with his girlfriend. Yes, fantastic and not particularly original.
He's incredibly charming and funny and intelligent, but also genuine, spiritual, and sincere, or I wouldn't be as attracted as I am. He straight-up adores me, I know this, and our connection is special, but never overtly sexual or inappropriately flirtatious. There is flirtation and attraction, but it always stays vague and subtle, because though our connection is clearly very strong, neither of us would ever willingly cross the line.
We don't talk about his relationship with his girlfriend very much at all, but I do know he works hard at it, there is strain, and he'd like to feel more emotionally open than he seems to within it. He doesn't overtly complain though, so it's not one of those "my girl doesn't understand me let me confide in you and then accidentally kiss you while I'm at it~" scenarios.
This situation has me feeling a bit helpless and heartsick, because I would like to not feel for him as I do, and I would like to not sense from him the feelings emanating off him for me that I intuitively sense, but the pull of it all feels so much stronger than my will.
So, my version of succinct is pretty wordy, sorry, but these were my two questions:
'Though I know he is unavailable to me why am I so inexorably drawn to X in a serious potential love kind of way?'
11uc
'How do I best be with being inexorably drawn to X in a serious potential love kind of way?'
50uc
So, I guess since I only asked about me and not us, I'm looking for more pragmatic understanding of these two hexagrams than my gut reaction gave me, which was unrealistic hope that there could be some sort of future together down the road, I suppose. They're both generally considered so fortunate and I feel so unfortunate at this time, I'm having a lot of trouble seeing how they apply to my questions.
The best I can do is that I see 11uc could simply be saying 'you're drawn because he's amazing. fact. accept it.', and I could see 50uc perhaps reading something like, 'be happy that you have a spiritual connection, because that's a lot and that may be all you'll get.'
I'm sorry, I'm not great at this and my emotions are getting in the way. Does anyone have a sense of how they might see these readings if they received them for this kind of situation?
I would really appreciate a detached view of these two readings, or either one, or anything at all, really.
As succinctly as I can, over the last six months or so I've developed a deeply lovely friendship with a man at work, both a fair bit younger than me, and who lives with his girlfriend. Yes, fantastic and not particularly original.
He's incredibly charming and funny and intelligent, but also genuine, spiritual, and sincere, or I wouldn't be as attracted as I am. He straight-up adores me, I know this, and our connection is special, but never overtly sexual or inappropriately flirtatious. There is flirtation and attraction, but it always stays vague and subtle, because though our connection is clearly very strong, neither of us would ever willingly cross the line.
We don't talk about his relationship with his girlfriend very much at all, but I do know he works hard at it, there is strain, and he'd like to feel more emotionally open than he seems to within it. He doesn't overtly complain though, so it's not one of those "my girl doesn't understand me let me confide in you and then accidentally kiss you while I'm at it~" scenarios.
This situation has me feeling a bit helpless and heartsick, because I would like to not feel for him as I do, and I would like to not sense from him the feelings emanating off him for me that I intuitively sense, but the pull of it all feels so much stronger than my will.
So, my version of succinct is pretty wordy, sorry, but these were my two questions:
'Though I know he is unavailable to me why am I so inexorably drawn to X in a serious potential love kind of way?'
11uc
'How do I best be with being inexorably drawn to X in a serious potential love kind of way?'
50uc
So, I guess since I only asked about me and not us, I'm looking for more pragmatic understanding of these two hexagrams than my gut reaction gave me, which was unrealistic hope that there could be some sort of future together down the road, I suppose. They're both generally considered so fortunate and I feel so unfortunate at this time, I'm having a lot of trouble seeing how they apply to my questions.
The best I can do is that I see 11uc could simply be saying 'you're drawn because he's amazing. fact. accept it.', and I could see 50uc perhaps reading something like, 'be happy that you have a spiritual connection, because that's a lot and that may be all you'll get.'
I'm sorry, I'm not great at this and my emotions are getting in the way. Does anyone have a sense of how they might see these readings if they received them for this kind of situation?