Hi, everyone! I know I haven't posted in awhile. I'm no longer pursuing the previous situation I was writing about. I've realized its not for me and I'm moving on from it.
So this is a very complicated situation. I've known this friend for little over a month, but we've been living together the whole time and it feels more like 6 months. When I first met my roommate she had a few friends that stayed with us a lot and we got to be friends and it was like we were all living together. He was one of them and I was closest with him, more close than with my actual roommate. We know each other's life story and shared everything. We've been sharing a bed for weeks until recently and were friends with benefits for a while. I think that's what caused the problems. Before we had no problems. It seemed like we were going to be best friends, but then when we started fooling around we would fight everyday throughout the day and get home and fool around like nothing happened. It seemed like the more physical we got the less we were real friends and I feel like he started to lose respect for me. He started groping me and stuff in public and making sexual remarks and we barely talked about real stuff anymore. There was also an issue of me wanting a more emotional connection and him being promiscuous. I felt like our friendship was slipping and we had several shallow talks about it. He was a great friend though and an amazing person. I just want things to be back the way they were before sex complicated things.
I want to be just friends but last week we got into a petty fight over me causing him to miss a class and he was very bitter about it. I was going to wait for him to calm down to apologize but he came to my house and messed up my room while I was gone. Sosome of our mutual and I did the same and hid his stuff which turned into a mess and people almost got in a fight and he blamed me for involving other people. He bashed my name and told my business to anyone who would listen. I was upset for a while but I got over it when I was able to see his side but he still hasn't spoken to me since and I'm scared to talk to him because of how upset he was.
So I asked I Ching: "How does J feel about me?" And I got 50 unchanging. It seems to talk about renewed connection and stability.
I also asked: "Show me the state of our relationship. " and got 3.1.3.4.5 to 62. I couldn't interpret the changing lines but to me 3 seems to say it's too soon to say where it's headed and 62 seems to say act carefully, look, listen.
I would like a second opinion though because I'm not very experienced with interpretation and I want to be sure. I want some help. If anyone has anything to add or any alternative interpretations you're more than welcome. Thank you.
So this is a very complicated situation. I've known this friend for little over a month, but we've been living together the whole time and it feels more like 6 months. When I first met my roommate she had a few friends that stayed with us a lot and we got to be friends and it was like we were all living together. He was one of them and I was closest with him, more close than with my actual roommate. We know each other's life story and shared everything. We've been sharing a bed for weeks until recently and were friends with benefits for a while. I think that's what caused the problems. Before we had no problems. It seemed like we were going to be best friends, but then when we started fooling around we would fight everyday throughout the day and get home and fool around like nothing happened. It seemed like the more physical we got the less we were real friends and I feel like he started to lose respect for me. He started groping me and stuff in public and making sexual remarks and we barely talked about real stuff anymore. There was also an issue of me wanting a more emotional connection and him being promiscuous. I felt like our friendship was slipping and we had several shallow talks about it. He was a great friend though and an amazing person. I just want things to be back the way they were before sex complicated things.
I want to be just friends but last week we got into a petty fight over me causing him to miss a class and he was very bitter about it. I was going to wait for him to calm down to apologize but he came to my house and messed up my room while I was gone. Sosome of our mutual and I did the same and hid his stuff which turned into a mess and people almost got in a fight and he blamed me for involving other people. He bashed my name and told my business to anyone who would listen. I was upset for a while but I got over it when I was able to see his side but he still hasn't spoken to me since and I'm scared to talk to him because of how upset he was.
So I asked I Ching: "How does J feel about me?" And I got 50 unchanging. It seems to talk about renewed connection and stability.
I also asked: "Show me the state of our relationship. " and got 3.1.3.4.5 to 62. I couldn't interpret the changing lines but to me 3 seems to say it's too soon to say where it's headed and 62 seems to say act carefully, look, listen.
I would like a second opinion though because I'm not very experienced with interpretation and I want to be sure. I want some help. If anyone has anything to add or any alternative interpretations you're more than welcome. Thank you.